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7 Must-Read Fiction Books That Will Leave a Mark on Your Soul ~ Sherrie.

7 Must-Read Fiction Books That Will Leave a Mark on Your Soul.

By Sherrie.

July 13th, 2019

 
 
 
Reading is an important part of life, truly. There are many fiction books which are a must-read and are sure to impress you.
Despite the uprising of technology and ever-changing modifications of modern times, reading is still a timeless treasured activity.
I remember a time when reading books, you know, the ones you can actually hold in your hand, was the only way to read. So many of us can look back at a simpler time as this.
From then until now, I’ve encountered many must-read fiction books that remained with me throughout the years…touched my soul even. But there are others too.

The power of the right words that makes some fiction books a must-read

Thousands of words could leave no impression at all, just as one sentence could leave a deep indention upon one’s soul.
There are books to read for fun, non-fiction books to learn facts, then there is must-read fiction which proves to be some of the best books in existence.

Here’s where we take a close look at a few of them. Maybe you’ve read some of these yourself.

1. Hope for the Flowers, Trina Paulus, (1972)

To some, this story may seem like a children’s book, but at a closer look, you will notice the allegorical and rather mature meaning of the story.
Hope for the Flowers relays a tale of two caterpillars, as they ponder their destinies. One caterpillar assumes you must crawl and step on everyone else to get to the top and realize the best of life. The other caterpillar does what comes instinctual and builds a life which is rewarding.
Stripe, the caterpillar who has climbed a mountain of other caterpillars, finally reaches the top of the mound and only finds hundreds of other mounds of caterpillars, in the distance, doing the same thing. Yellow, the caterpillar who followed her instincts has built a cocoon and emerged as a beautiful butterfly.
The best part of this story is that yellow is willing to help Stripe remember his instincts. I think you will love this story and it will leave a warm feeling in your soul.

2. The Alchemist, Paulo Coelho, (1988)

First written in Portuguese, this must-read inspirational fiction book, became a bestseller worldwide. There’s a reason for such adoration.
The story is about a shepherd boy who decides to follow his destiny because of a dream he had while in an old church. A fortune teller suggests he follow his dream and travel to Egypt in search of treasure within the pyramids. As the boy travels, he encounters many obstacles and learns many lessons.
After meeting an alchemist, who teaches him how to know his true self, he is changed. When he is robbed, one of the thieves accidentally reveals a great revelation.
We learn from this story that sometimes what we need and desire the most is right where we are. Fruitless searching will take us right back to the beginning.

3. Fight Club, Chuck Palahniuk, (1996)

You may have seen the movie, but you should read the book as well.
In this must-read fiction novel, an unnamed protagonist struggles with insomnia. He seeks help only to be told that insomnia isn’t really suffering. He seeks help in support groups instead.
Finally, he meets a man who would change his life by introducing him to underground fighting arenas. This environment, you might say, becomes his therapy.
This novel became so popular that a movie was adapted from the story, as I mentioned. It even has a following of young men who see the story as inspiration.

4. The Road, Cormac Maccarthy, (2005)

This story touched my soul in that it showed me the depths of human nature alongside the love and beauty of it as well. The story is set in a post-apocalyptic landscape where every living human being is out to survive at any cost. This means killing other humans and even more depraved acts.
The main protagonist and his son travel in hopes of finding long term sanctuary. The novel will rip your heart out at times but does end with a glimmer of hope.
Although the story may be hard to stomach at times, it will certainly leave you thinking about human nature for quite a while after reading.

5. The Story of Keesh, Jack London (1904)

We, as humans have trouble understanding things beyond our learned abilities. We may understand the strength and we may understand a certain level of magic, or say, “witchcraft”, as The Story of Keesh reminds us.
One thing that sometimes makes human beings struggle is the act of strategy. While some strategies are easy to understand, some are so simple, they go over our heads.
In the story of Keesh, the young 13-year-old Keesh teaches his tribe about using strategy to hunt, even to hunt animals which seem impossible to capture and kill. Keesh’s father before him was killed by a large bear, and yet, Keesh managed to kill many of them for his village.
Did he use strength? No! Did he use witchcraft, as the elders suggested? No, he did not. He simply created a trap which would kill the animal from the inside out.
This story leaves an impression on our souls and reminds us that there is so much power in the human mind and in determination. We don’t forget stories of this kind.

6. Sophie’s World, Jostein Gaarder, (1991)

Some people never really ask the important questions about life until they are older.
As for Sophie, she gets the opportunity to learn about philosophy as a teenager. After meeting Alberto Knox, her life changes forever. During the novel, she experiences an ability to utilize her imagination like never before.
After reading this book, you may learn a few new things yourself. And I promise, your soul will be left with an impression like no other.
The must-read fiction book became so popular that it was translated from its native Norwegian to 59 other languages. The book was also adapted into a film and video game too.

7. To Kill a Mockingbird, Harper Lee (1960)

It’s amazing just what we miss when we’re not paying attention. In this novel, Scout and her brother Jem are lost in the wiles of childhood. Meanwhile, their lawyer father, Atticus, is busy trying to win his most important case. A black man has been accused of raping a white woman, and Atticus must prove his innocence.
This novel will touch your soul as you read about the truth of Southern Alabama in the 60s. You will realize just how much we take for granted about human rights and freedom. While some of the historical language usages may be jarring, it’s a must-read.

Sometimes Fiction Can Change You

There are many self-help books and non-fiction journals that change the way we see the world and ourselves. There is also outstanding must-read fiction that changes us as much as other types of books.
I encourage you to explore fiction titles in your area. You never know when you might find a gem worth sharing with others.
Until we read from different lives, perspectives and even imaginative stories, we never really understand the full scope of the life we live. Our souls can only be touched by allowing the fullness of life to enter. So, go forth, read, read, read….and get to know yourself and the world like never before.
 
About the Author: Sherrie

Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.
 
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No religious or political creed is advocated here.

Organised religion is unnecessary to spirituality.

Excellent teachings of the masters have been contaminated by the dogmatic control of these religions.

Discernment yes; judgement does not.
If you use discernment you are free to research with an open mind. 

With discernment it is possible to reach the spirit of the letter of any writing and it is also much easier to listen to the voice of the soul that comes from the heart.
Individually you can be helped to find your Truth that is different of everyone. 


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Sexta-feira, 12 / 07 / 19

5 Examples of Herd Mentality and How to Avoid Falling into It ~ Sherrie.

5 Examples of Herd Mentality and How to Avoid Falling into It.

By Sherrie.

July 11th, 2019

 
 
 
It’s easy to fall into the herd mentality without even thinking. Following the leader isn’t always good.
People may not be animals, but they still often exhibit a herd mentality. What this means is they tend to congregate in groups to perform certain objectives or uphold common beliefs. There are ways that herd mentality can benefit us in the short term, I will not lie, but there are also reasons why we should avoid this train of thought altogether.


Unlike mob mentality

Individuals who operate in herds are different than those who contribute to mobs. Mobs are often seen as violent or aggressive groups. Being in a herd is basically being a part of the “in crowd” or adhering to a majority mentality. We see this in religious organizations and school affiliations.
Here are examples and explanations of the herd mentality.

1. Black Friday
I’m starting with one of the largest global phenomena in recent times – Black Friday. If there was ever a more moldable herd of people, it would be this group. Every year, on Thanksgiving day and the weekend following, Black Friday hits most retail stores and online sites offering ridiculous discounts in pricing.

When this happens, people go mad. More and more individuals are following the masses into this hysterical mode of shopping. Following the leader has never been so massive, and it doesn’t seem like it’s going to be slowing down any time soon.

2.Investing

The herd mentality can also be seen in investments as well. Instead of making independent decisions, many will make moves depending on emotions and instinct. Social aspects are also a huge part of how people herd together to invest in certain stocks.
Investors will make rash decisions solely based on what their close friends are doing. Most people choose to do what others do simply because of the fear of embarrassment or the fear of being wrong. This fear of being wrong sometimes even goes against the better judgment of making a different choice that seems more logical – a judgment call that could be more profitable in the long run.

3. Choosing restaurants

Being a part of a herd also shows when looking for a place to eat. Let’s be honest, if you saw two restaurants that were almost exactly alike, one was crowded and one was almost empty, which would you choose? I think you would choose the busy and crowded one.
At least, this is true if you have a herd mentality. Many people think that if a restaurant is busy, the food must be better, and yet, it could only be a coincidence. This is a simple example, but it’s true, isn’t it?

4. Social groups

Just like in high school, the herd mentality can rear its head during adulthood. When it comes to making friends and being a part of a social group, people tend to gravitate toward larger groups or groups of popular and extroverted individuals.
In school, peer pressure told us that we were outcasts if we weren’t friends with certain people. Unfortunately, this attitude carries into later life more often than you think. Pay close attention and you may see a herd of people comprised of identical mentalities.

5. Beliefs/spirituality

As I mentioned earlier, herd mentality can be present in belief systems as well. There are many self-professed teachers in this area who are more than willing to share “truths” to others.
A following sometimes develops, not entirely unlike a cult, I venture to say. A person’s beliefcan quickly become a community’s belief. The bigger the community the larger the influence for others to join.

Why is herd mentality unhealthy?

Hey, let’s look at herd mentality this way – if you have a huge group of people of sub-par intelligence, and you add a few highly intelligent people to the large group, do you think the group will become smarter? No.
With the herd mentality, the intelligence level of the group does not change when a different form of stimulus joins. It’s usually the opposite. Most of the time, if intelligent people decide to join such a group, their higher intelligence is dormant to the group, or rather ignored.
All in all, I think we should avoid the herd mentality, and here are a few ways to do that.

Accept conflict

Instead of conforming to the norm, choose the other choice, so to speak. Stop going the easy route and agreeing with people, just because you live with them or they are part of your family. They could even be friends.
It’s easy to become part of the herd, and going against the grain is hard… but you must choose conflict in order to pull away from this mentality. You should practice saying no, get used to confrontations, and choose that road that many others abandon. This is how you start.

Know thyself

Who are you? I mean, if no one else existed, who would you be? Most people identify themselves with some connection to another. When I was younger and married, I often identified as a wife or a mother.
Here’s the thing. One way to find out if you are falling into herd mentality is to spend time with yourself. Find out what makes you happy without any influence of another human being. This is how you know yourself and this is how you sever from the majority rules concept.

Disagree some more

Yes, I mentioned saying no, but you must go further. Stop agreeing with people just because you feel they are going to be picked for promotions or because they’re the popular group. If you feel like disagreeing, then do it.
Sometimes just disagree to surprise the majority and shake up the room. Taking a stand against the majority vote, for instance, will help you further achieve your individuality and tear away from the group. After all, who really knows where these herds are going anyway?

It’s never too late to leave the herd

If you’ve been following the herd for a while now, you can still change this mentality. After a while of following the masses, you may feel a part of yourself dying. This is a wake-up call that you’re falling in deep.
Take some time and look at what your following, who you’re following and why. You may be surprised by what you find. Maybe you can avoid falling into the herd mentality altogether if you’re lucky.
References:
  1. https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk
  2. https://www.sciencedaily.com
 

 

 
About the Author: Sherrie

Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.
 
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No religious or political creed is advocated here.

Organised religion is unnecessary to spirituality.

Excellent teachings of the masters have been contaminated by the dogmatic control of these religions.

Discernment yes; judgement does not.
If you use discernment you are free to research with an open mind. 

With discernment it is possible to reach the spirit of the letter of any writing and it is also much easier to listen to the voice of the soul that comes from the heart.
Individually you can be helped to find your Truth that is different of everyone. 


Please respect all credits.

 
Discernment is recommended.
 

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publicado por achama às 23:29
Quinta-feira, 11 / 07 / 19

The Art of Divided Attention and How to Master It to Boost Your Productivity ~ Sherrie.

The Art of Divided Attention and How to Master It to Boost Your Productivity.

By Sherrie.

July 8th, 2019

 
 
 
Overcoming the fear of falling may not be an easy task, but we’re here to explore how we can accomplish this anyway.
There are multitudes of people who are afraid of falling. Some fear falling down after tripping over an object, while others have a fear of falling from great heights. Regardless, the fear is real and can sometimes hinder a healthy life.
I have a fear of hurtling toward the ground, falling to my death, and sometimes I dream about this too. Yes, it’s horrifying, but it shouldn’t rule my life.

What causes the fear of falling?

There isn’t one cause of falling fears. There are manypsychological and physical influences with this phobia. While one person may feel like avoiding extreme sports, like mountain climbing, another may just be afraid to take a simple walk for health reasons.

So, let’s explore what makes us so afraid, and let’s find a way to work on overcoming some of these causes of fear.

1. Fear of falling in infancy

At birth and until around the age of 9 months, infants fear mostly nothing. However, at the age of around 9, after using certain toys like baby go-carts and other similar toys, infants suddenly became aware of heights.
In an experiment conducted by scientists from the University of New York and Rutgers University, it was discovered that infants that couldn’t even crawl were reluctant to cross a glass covered ledge (perfectly safe). The infants were afraid but started to try and find other means of getting off the imaginary ledge. Studies also show different temperaments among infants.
This means, as humans, we are taught to fear from visual information out of the environment. Otherwise, it’s innate.
This may help:
The only real help you can give your child is education as they grow older. Yes, it’s important to teach about safety, but it is just as important to teach about bravery as well. It’s about good judgment, logic and safe environments.

2. Previously fallen

One of the simplest reasons for the fear of falling is the remembrance of a previous fall. If you’ve fallen quite a bit throughout life, you may have developed a fear of hurtling to the ground and falling into dangerous terrains, such as rocks or steep declines.
I have been acquainted with a few people who’ve twisted their ankle, and afterward, seem to have this mishap as a common occurrence. Hence they are always over-cautious. On the negative side, being overcautious can sometimes cause a fall, and so, it can work both ways.
This may help:
For those who’ve fallen in the past or fallen many times, courage is the only real way to release yourself from the fear and falling. Yes, it is possible that you will fall again, but it is also possible that you can run a marathon and never stumble once. Keeping active and keeping your muscles strong will help you develop a new history of less falls, and thus give you the confidence to fear not.

3. Awareness of elderly age

Our elders are wise and beautiful people, but unfortunately, their bodies have aged as their wisdom has grown. Many older adults acquire a fear of falling due to things they understandabout osteoporosis or vision weakness, such as cataracts.
We all face some of these issues as we grow older, and it terrifies us of falling down. This fear, to the elderly, can mean easier breaks when falling down, such as with hip fractures. It also means slower recovery time as well.
This may help:
Make sure all checkups are up to date. This includes checking your vision and bone density. You must also commit to some sort of physical activity to keep your muscles strong, which help protect your bones. Research all the ways you can retain your health as long as possible and decrease your chances of falls.

4. Motion and space discomfort

Another reason we may have a fear of falling is due to motion and space discomfort, which is related to vertigo. However, motion and space discomfort can be attributed to anxiety that’s already present. Surroundings, such as large crowds moving around can cause panic and a feeling of unstable ground. Even a focused object can cause spacial discomfort.
This may help:
Although you can try to be strong on your own and overcome this discomfort, you may need professional help. I have anxiety and take certain medications to help me get through the day. Seeing a therapist can help you talk through the things you’re experiencing and recognize where they’re coming from.

5. Unable to control posture

If you’ve become brave enough to climb heights, then the fear of falling can develop at some point. While some of the climbs may be okay, if your posture becomes unstable, your fear may kick in. Once the posture does change, panic may make you unable to steady your footing, thus causing a sudden fear of heights and of falling.
This may help:
Partaking in activities while on solid ground can help you strengthen your muscles and also improve balance. This decreases the chances of imbalance and posture issues. When climbing to great heights, it may be easier for you.

6. PTSD

Post-traumatic stress disorder can also trigger a fear of falling. It’s not so much a fall from the past, as it’s the simple loss of control during your traumatic encounter.
The loss of control also takes control of your sense of safety, especially with things like crowds, strangers, and even the fear associated with falling. You can sometimes feel the lightness under your feet when you feel you’re beginning to lose control.
This may help:
If you think you may be suffering from PTSD, you should seek professional help right away. Not only can PTSD cause fear of heights, but can also cause many negative results. While some friends and family members may be able to help, therapy may be the best way to help process your past traumas.

7. Fear of heights

Obviously, the fear of heights causes fear of falling. I have a fear of heights and when I climb to high places, my entire body starts to tingle. I lose balance because my mind is telling me that I am going to fall. It seems my logic fails me completely.
This may help:
A fear of heights can be alleviated a bit by getting used to higher places. It is usually a slower process where you endure a bit of height a little at a time. As you experience a higher altitude and let reasoning take place, you realize you will not necessarily fall just because you are at a higher place. You can go higher each time you practice this.

8. Dreams of falling

If you dream of falling, sometimes it affects nothing at all. At other times, it can create a horrible fear of losing balance and falling to the earth. Of course, most people never really reach the earth before waking. While falling in a dream may seem harmless, it can create a fear of falling during waking life.
This may help:
Remember, it’s only a dream and no indication that you will fall in life. Althgouh it may be scary, it’s usually a symbol of something else altogether. The meaning of falling dreams is a topic for another post altogether, and you can read about it in this article.

Conquering the fear of falling

Yes, you can conquer your fear, and falling will not be something you’re afraid of, well for the most part. There are many things in my own life that I am afraid of, and I am trying to overcome them a little at a time, and this is how you have to start. Just take one step at a time, and before you know it, you will be doing things you’ve never dreamed.
References:
  1. https://www.livescience.com
  2. https://www.psychologytoday.com

 

 
About the Author: Sherrie

Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.
 
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No religious or political creed is advocated here.

Organised religion is unnecessary to spirituality.

Excellent teachings of the masters have been contaminated by the dogmatic control of these religions.

Discernment yes; judgement does not.
If you use discernment you are free to research with an open mind. 

With discernment it is possible to reach the spirit of the letter of any writing and it is also much easier to listen to the voice of the soul that comes from the heart.
Individually you can be helped to find your Truth that is different of everyone. 


Please respect all credits.

 
Discernment is recommended.
 

All articles are of the respective authors and/or publishers responsibility. 


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publicado por achama às 00:40
Sexta-feira, 05 / 07 / 19

Eckhart Tolle Meditation and 9 Life Lessons You Can Learn from It ~ Sherrie.

Eckhart Tolle Meditation and 9 Life Lessons You Can Learn from It.

By Sherrie.

July 1st, 2019

 
 
 
To practice Eckhart Tolle meditation is to allow yourself to be in the present moment. You can grow from this process.
Despite what you may see on the outside, many people suffer from turmoil. Daily lives present new obstacles and heartaches that unfortunately leave impressions and create negative thoughts.
I think I am personally traveling through a mindset like this now. However, in learning about meditation, I feel hope for my situations. Let’s learn more about this process.

Meditation by Eckhart Tolle

Meditation in itself is a powerful tool, as taught by Eckhart Tolle. It’s designed to teach us to silence the mind. Eckhart Tolle, the spiritual leader, helps us realize a slightly different form of meditation – a level of attaining pure consciousness or letting go of the separate ego identity.
As with mindfulness, meditation focuses on you and your surroundings existing in the ‘now’. It doesn’t dwell on or process the multitude of negative thoughts which pass through your mind on a daily basis. Its purpose is to heal us by helping us realize we are one consciousness. Only then can we tame what’s called the ‘ego’.

So, what else can we learn from this meditation?
 
 

1. Learn to let go
 
I’m starting with the past because, before we can move on to other wisdom, we must let go of what has been. The past is not an evil place, but it can hold us captive from time to time.
 
Regret can elevate negative thoughts and literally make us sick. Eckhart Tolle helps us let go of the past with meditation and still honor what we’ve been through. We must let go.
2. Being true to yourself
Meditation helps you recognize your self-worth. It also makes you want to be an authentic person. In a world where so many people wear masks, it’s refreshing to see real people. It’s also a pleasure to be around them.
Being yourself and true to who you make being around other people easier as well. Being real removes the image of you that others have, and also the image that you have created over time.

3. What you give is what you get

Another thing you can learn from Eckhart Tolle and his views on meditation is that whatever you send out, be it negative thoughts, words, or actions, will always come back to you.
There are many ways, in most beliefs that this wisdom is taught. It’s true. You do reap what you sow. If you want good things to come your way, you must project positivity.

4. There is no purpose to worrying

Worry is one of the most destructive thoughts and action. But if you think logically about it, worry does nothing. It is pretty much useless.
No matter how much you worry, you cannot change what is destined to come. You can learn to let go of worry by practicing meditation regularly.

5. The present moment is the most important

If you think about it, the present is the only real thing in life. The past is gone and the future is only anticipation for what’s to come, or what you hope will come.
Hence, you can say, the future and past don’t really exist. Whenever you dwell on time, your here and now is neglected, wasted. You learn to appreciate the present time with the Eckhart Tolle practice of meditation.

6. Remove the importance of objects

I bet you never paid attention to how attached you are to certain objects. Electronics, clothing, and jewelry are addictive. These are extensions of our ego self, separate and selfish. Using meditation, you can learn to let go of the unhealthy attachments you have to material things.

7. Change of mindset

Without meditation, negative thinking can run wild. Eckhart Tolle suggests that using meditation can gradually change your thoughts from negative to positive.
Of course, if you’re dwelling in all things negative, it will take time to shift these feelings. We, as humans, have formed cycles of thinking. We may linger on one side or the other, but we always fall back into the thinking we’ve trained ourselves to use. Have hope because we can learn to shift our mindset.

8. Accept your situation

Some of us may be in difficult situations, and we’re fighting against these problems as hard as we can. But to fight against the present issue is to fight against life. Present life will be as it is, and you have two choices, either accept it or walk away from it.
Now, acceptance doesn’t mean you cannot speak how you feel about the situation, but complaining is something different altogether. You become a victim when you fight against the problem, but you gain power by simply speaking out, calmly and without elaboration.

9. Letting go of control

Unfortunately, many people fall into a habit of controlling others. In many relationships, controlling behavior moves from one person to the other. It sometimes becomes a power play.
In all honesty, control is a weakness, unless it’s self-control. When trying to control every situation, you never experience those positive things that come with change and freedom. Eckhart Tolle teaches us that with meditation, you can learn to let go of control.

The wisdom of Eckhart Tolle

Eckhart Tolle teaches us that we can form too many material mindsets instead of just being. The world is in a rush, all the time. If only we can still our minds and focus on what’s right in front of us, we could completely change our mindset. If we can understand how our separate self is a fictional construct, we can embrace our pure consciousness.
I will leave you with an inspiring quote from Eckhart Tolle.
“On a deeper level, you are already complete. When you realize that, there is a joyous energy behind what you do.”
References:
  1. https://www.elephantjournal.com
  2. https://hackspirit.com
 
About the Author: Sherrie

Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.
 
COPYRIGHT © 2019 LEARNING MIND. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. FOR PERMISSION TO REPRINT, CONTACT US.
 

 
 

 
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No religious or political creed is advocated here.

Organised religion is unnecessary to spirituality.

Excellent teachings of the masters have been contaminated by the dogmatic control of these religions.

Discernment yes; judgement does not.
If you use discernment you are free to research with an open mind. 

With discernment it is possible to reach the spirit of the letter of any writing and it is also much easier to listen to the voice of the soul that comes from the heart.
Individually you can be helped to find your Truth that is different of everyone. 


Please respect all credits.

 
Discernment is recommended.
 

All articles are of the respective authors and/or publishers responsibility. 


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publicado por achama às 20:52
Segunda-feira, 01 / 07 / 19

What Is the Origin of the Universe? 7 Most Intriguing Theories ~ Sherrie.

What Is the Origin of the Universe? 

7 Most Intriguing Theories.

By Sherrie.

July 1st, 2019

 
 
 

There are many theories of the origin of the universe. Some of these ideas are based on spiritual aspects while some are mind-bending, just as some ideas of our universe.

Have you ever wondered about the origin of the universe? Well, of course, most of you have. Although we’re small compared to the big picture, we thrive on learning more and more about where we came from. Thinking about the universe with its spectacular beauty leaves us dreaming of our origins beyond our imagination.

Just a few ideas about how it began

If you think you’ve heard it all, just take a pause. There are multitudes of theories which explain the origins of how we came into being within our universe. Many of these theories are strange and interesting, to say the least. While many are common theories we’ve heard before, all of them are intriguing. Let’s take a look at a few of them.

1. White holes

You may be familiar with black holes. Most people are. If not, here’s a breakdown. A black hole is the result of a star which has died, creating a hole which sucks in light and all other matter surrounding it. White holes work in the opposite manner. Instead of sucking matter in, they spit it out.
The white hole is an area of spacetime which cannot take any matter in from the outside, only spit it out. Meaning, a white hole could be the birth of a star or a multitude of them. Of course, this is just a hypothetical theory, created by the idea of relativity which is from the brain of Albert Einstein.

2. Big bang theory

One origin could explain, in simple terms, the beginning of the universe. The Big bang theory is a popular one, especially among those who do not believe in creationism. Basically, the big bang theory says the universe came from a singular solid mass.
At one instant, everything began to expand. Matter and energy flew throughout the blackness to create the universe. This left background radiation behind the expanding universe. In the 1920s, Edwin Hubble brought forth this theory of the expanding universe, hence the evolution of the Big bang theory.

3. Theory of slow freeze

So, what if the Big bang wasn’t the actual beginning, but just a part of the process? Well, with the slow freeze theory, that is very possible. In this theory, it seems the universe started in a cold and empty pre-existence.
The particles in this existence became so heavy while gravity weakened, thus warming by radiation coming from the heavier masses. The Big bang may not have been a big band at all, but a slow warming and expanding process producing stars, and then whole galaxies over billions of years.

4. Mirage of the black hole

black hole paradox
The universe may have strange origins, much like this one. Get ready to wrap your mind around this. Physicists suggested that our universe is simply a 3-dimensional sphere within a 4-dimensional universe. I guess you can say a universe inside another.
We never existed until a 4D star collapsed creating a 3D black hole, or an Event horizon. Material from the collapsed star formed a 3-dimensional membrane around the event horizon. Then expansion occurred within the membrane, hence the universe we know.

5. Plasma creation

The plasma theory focuses on electromagnetism. The basic idea is that some kind of electrical process created everything in the present universe. This includes stars, comets, and the sun. Many people believe what surrounds them are huge filaments of ions and electrons. Forces from electromagnetism warp the electrons and ions. This theory suggests that the universe has an infinite age and size.

6. No beginning/ no end

Otherwise known as the Steady state theory, the idea that the universe has no big bang or no marvelous creation, may be hard to swallow. However, this was the belief until the 1960s. Some still believe it.
There is a perfect cosmologic principle which states that the universe is the same no matter where you look. There is non-stop creation of matter that changes the density in the expanding universe. Since the universe is the same everywhere all the time, it has no beginning and no end.

7. Pulsating universe

dark energy universe
This theory is interesting as well. It’s concerning the expansion and retraction of the universe. This idea states that the universe is always expanding…until it stops. The pulsating theory states that at some time this expansion could stop and then retract.
The retraction may reach a certain size and then a huge explosion similar to the big bang occurs, hence starting the process all over again. This is why it’s called the pulsating theory.

What’s your theory?

So, how did it all begin? How did so many beautiful cosmic and heavenly sites come into being? Honestly, it’s a mystery. We do, however, have theories which help us understand how the birth of the universe may have occurred.
In earlier times, there were only two popular theories of how our existence began: the Big bang theory and the belief in celestial creation. In modern times, the Big bang theory is widely acknowledged. Although the big bang theory may be the most popular theory around, there are many more intriguing ideas, as you can see above.
So, what do you think? What is your theory of the origin of this vast universe?
 
References:
  1. https://map.gsfc.nasa.gov
  2. https://scienceandtechnology.jpl.nasa.gov
 

 

 

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 

 

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
 


About the Author: Sherrie

Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.

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Segunda-feira, 01 / 07 / 19

What Is Schumann Resonance and How It Is Connected to Human Consciousness ~ Sherrie.

What Is Schumann Resonance and How It Is Connected to Human Consciousness.

By Sherrie.

June 30th, 2019

 
 
 
The Schumann resonance may not only affect the earth, but it can also align or implement changes in human consciousness.
The Schumann resonance – It’s called the heartbeat of mother earth by some and the earth’s vibration by others – is actually a frequency. It’s the measurement of 7.83 Hz or the electromagnetic frequency of our planet, to be exact. This energy can increase or decrease at times, and many think it affects our consciousness. Is this true? Well, let’s take a look at the facts we know first.

Understanding the Schumann resonance

It starts with electrical storms – these are more than just spectacles and frightening events. An electrical storm generates lightening which creates electromagnetic energy. This energy, circling as a wave between the ionosphere and the earth, bumps into itself amplifying frequencies and turning them into resonant waves. The discovery of these resonant waves was made in 1952 by W.O. Schumann, a German physicist, hence where the Schumann resonance gets its name.
In simpler terms, we don’t live on the earth, we live inside it – in a cavity of sorts. This cavity is created by the connection of the surface of the earth to the ionosphere that surrounds our planet. Everything within that area, namely energies and frequencies, can be influential to the earth’s inhabitants.

Mother earth’s natural energies

Although the frequency can spike up or down, the Schumann resonance primarily levels off at this same measurement…until recently. Lately, frequencies have been lingering around 8.5 Hz, and even as high as 16 Hz. Even at the stable measurement of 7.83 Hz, the Schumann resonance is thought to have a great effect on humans and animals. We surmise that these spikes in frequency can have an even greater effect, wouldn’t you say?
There are factors which cause the fluctuation of the Schumann resonance. Influencers such as seasonal changes, solar flares, and electronic interference can alter the frequency at any given time. The recent increase in the average frequency could also be the result of an increase in human activity, maybe even the increase in human brain wave activity.

Schumann resonance and the human mind

Studies show that this phenomenon may indeed affect human consciousness. As I mentioned before, solar flares may contribute to spikes in frequencies as well. The recent increase in measurements may not only be a result of an increase in human brain activity or disruption but can also be the cause of altered brain activity.
We already know that increases in electromagnetic frequencies do affect satellites and power grids, so is it possible that we are being influenced as well? Basically, it’s a connection we’ve yet to fully understand. However, signs do point to “yes”.

Viacheslav Krylov, The Russian Academy of Sciences

Krylov suggests that the Schumann resonance may not only affect telecommunications services but can also affect melatonin influencing biological functions such as the circadian rhythm of both animals and humans. Not only does melatonin regulate sleeping patterns, but also regulates blood pressure and reproduction too.
Some of the worst influences could even include cancer or neurological diseases which can lead to death. Krylov believes that human consciousness is affected simply because SR frequencies occur in the same range as human brain wave frequencies, precisely where theta and alpha brain waves intersect. And after all, everything we do is done within this area of electromagnetic influence.

The tuned oscillator example

The Schumann resonance may be better understood when examining matching vibrations. When a system of oscillators is tuned, one oscillator will affect the other. When one starts to vibrate, the other will eventually vibrate at the same frequency. Now, remember the fact that our brain waves and SR frequencies are in the same range? This may make better sense now.
This creates “entrainment” or “kindling”. The word kindling refers to the matching of neurons across the brain creating synchronicity. This is the same effect that successful meditation has on our minds. We are in a coherent consciousness, vibrating softly at the same level. With all this being said, meditation keeps our coupling with the Schumann resonance or the fluctuating frequency of the earth.
“Ample anthropological evidence shows that humans have intuitively synchronized with the planetary resonance throughout human history and back into the mists of time.”
-Psychobiologist, Richard Allen Miller
Many cultures implement vibrational techniques in hopes of synchronizing with the frequencies of the Schumann resonance, or the ‘heartbeat of mother earth’. They believe that these frequencies can heal the body and mind as energies connect. Even in the ebb and flow of these energies, high blood pressure is reduced and depression is somehow alleviated.
Some think synchronizing with these energies can lead us to enlightenment or awakening. It’s true, with the ever-increasing frequencies of the Schumann resonance, we could be evolving into higher consciousness.

Our connected frequencies

What we know about our conscious connection with the Schuman resonance is complex. While we know we are influenced by the electromagnetic field, we still have much to learn.
Considering what we know now, I think evolution will be greatly affected by the circling frequencies of the Schumann resonance, increasing activities of the brain and possibly healing aspects of our consciousness previously damaged by negative energies. The future will help us understand more about our relationship with our planet, and the frequencies we share.
References:
  1. https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com
  2. https://www.linkedin.com

 

 

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 

 

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
 


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Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.

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With discernment it is possible to reach the spirit of the letter of any writing and it is also much easier to listen to the voice of the soul that comes from the heart.
Individually you can be helped to find your Truth that is different of everyone. 


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Quinta-feira, 27 / 06 / 19

How to Perform Third Eye Meditation to Activate Your Pineal Gland ~ Sherrie.

How to Perform Third Eye Meditation to Activate Your Pineal Gland.

By Sherrie.

June 26th, 2019

 

Third eye meditation is a practice that continually allows us to sense energies in our surroundings. Learn how to perform this meditation.
The third eye, or in biological terms, the pineal gland, is considered the secret center of our senses. This means our intuition and being able to sense certain energies, good or bad can be accessed through this chakra. The type of meditation called ‘trataka’ opens up the third eye and helps us develop and grow a greater understanding of our basic senses…but more.

Learning how to awaken your third eye with meditation

 
If this is new to you, then that’s okay too. Learning third eye chakra meditation can be simple. All it really takes is calming the mind and focus, plus a few more minor steps. Centering on the middle eye and opening up to energies can be a great way to improve discernment in various situations.

So, here are the basic instructions on the process of meditation that will awaken your third eye:

1. Location

The first thing you have to do is to choose your location for meditation. This place must be a calming location, with few to no disturbances. Going outside is a great idea as long as sudden noises will not break your serenity. This varies from person to person, however, as some constant noises can turn into a permanent hum, which translates into silence for them.
You have to play around with a few places until you’ve found the right location for the process.

2. Time

Try to meditate at around the same time every day. This helps you build even more consistency in your life. As life can be so random and dramatic at times, a pattern of prayer and meditation can help center your life.
It’s best to choose a time that’s early so you can frame your day with a positive meditative outlook. It’s also best not to meditate right before or right after a meal.

3. Positions

Most people sit with legs crossed and that works for them. However, the most important factor in your sitting position is a comfort. You must find the most comfortable position before meditation begins.
Preferably, this position should not be one that causes you to fall asleep. Keep that in mind. Pineal gland meditation is deeper than the waking mind but elevated above sleep. Keep your back straight, chest out, and head upright.

4. Breathing

As you start to enter a state of meditation, regulate your breathing. Part of this process can be done before finding clarity, while the other part will have to be completed as you find a calming state of being in the next step. For those with anxiety, much of the breathing regulation will come with greater and greater focus.
Start with deep breaths which will help slow the heart rate and level of breathing. You can think calming thoughts or imagine pleasant surfaces rubbing against your skin. Hey, you can even count backward to regulate breathing as well.

5. Find clarity

Although it’s difficult to truly clear your mind, focusing on your third eye during meditation requires the purest form of clarity to transport you to the higher plane. Finding clarity can also incorporate focus in its rawest form.
As you begin your meditation, clear the cluttered thoughts as you focus on the center of your forehead, the pineal gland. As you focus, the clutter will transform into gentle energies. Your focus not only helps you sense energies but also keeps you grounded and aware.

6. Reaching the third eye

As you practice the above, you will start to touch the edge of energies projected by the third eye. Things will at first seem dark, but don’t panic. Amidst the darkness, there will be a pinpoint of light and this is the third eye chakra.
If the third eye is already activated, the brain will be functioning normally. You will also be able to sense the reality of the third eye when your natural energies prove greater. Your focus will be so strong you can completely envelop yourself in one thought, one object, or one person.

7. Just experience

After you’ve calmed down a bit from the initial presence of the third eye chakra, you can experience the fullness of it. People usually experience different things when in the presence of such energies. Some see objects flashing through their minds, while others can see the words they think.
Learning to understand these visions will take time. For beginners, this experience can seem overwhelming, even causing headaches, but over time, it gets easier.

8. Staying focused

The key to getting centered with third eye meditation is learning to stay within the presence of the third eye chakra for as long as you can. Your goal would be 10-15 minutes. The longer you stay, the easier it is for you to learn how to understand energies and visual experiences. All these things also help you focus in day-to-day life as well.

9. Coming out of meditation state

To awake from meditation, you must first turn your inner eyes away from your pineal gland – the light in the darkness. As you move away, continue to regulate your breathing. Slowly open your eyes and become aware of your surroundings and your body. Over time, this process will become easier.

Finding comfort in meditation

Meditation has the ability to bring great comfort, especially in trying times. But even if everything seems perfect, third eye mediation is an important practice for your life.
After you’ve learned the correct way to meditate in this manner, continue to practice for easier entry and exit from meditation. If you haven’t encountered your third eye yet, now’s the time to become acquainted. Just give it a try.
References:
  1. https://www.wikihow.com
  2. https://www.gaia.com

 

 

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 

 

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 



About the Author: Sherrie

Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.

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Segunda-feira, 24 / 06 / 19

How to Overcome Inferiority Complex with 7 Methods That Work ~ Sherrie.

How to Overcome Inferiority Complex with 7 Methods That Work.

By Sherrie.

June 23rd, 2019

 

Confidence equals good mental health, and that’s why learning to overcome the inferiority complex is so important.
Having an inferiority complex means you never really feel good about yourself. In fact, most other people in your life seem greater, more intelligent or more talented. Others may also seem beautiful as opposed to your ugliness.
Do these descriptions ring a bell? Well, learning to overcome the inferiority complex is the key to a better life. No one should feel less than anyone else.

Methods to help you change your mindset and overcome inferiority complex

 
Understanding how to overcome the feelings associated with inferiority complex should be your focus. In order to change your mindset, you have to know exactly what you’re facing.
The inferiority complex is not just feeling bad about yourself temporarily, it’s a feeling that persists from day to day – they’re negative feelings you’ve accepted about yourself.

There are methods, however, that help you get rid of these feelings over time:

1. Pinpoint one source

The truth is, you may feel inferior to many people. That’s the horrible nature of the inferiority complex. The good news is, you can focus on one person to help you pinpoint where your weaknesses are. For instance, choose a so-called “superior person”, and ask yourself one question: “Why do I feel inferior to this person?”
Analyzing the one person you picked will help you build levels of confidence. Say you feel that the person is more attractive than you, more intelligent, and more sociable. Well, you can start by finding one thing you can do that they cannot.
There are things, trust me, because no one is perfect. In fact, there may be many things you can do better, but you’ve just focused on your inferior state as opposed to their seemingly perfected one. Do you see? Try this one out as soon as possible. You may be surprised.

2. Positive self-talk

Most of the time, we can learn a great deal about how to get over feeling inferior just by talking good to ourselves. Be honest, how many times have you said, “I’m ugly”“I’m not good enough”, or “I wish I was more like someone else?” Well, I’m sure we’ve all fallen prey to these thoughts from time to time.
The key here is to practice countering these negative thoughts with positive ones. For each negative talk we have with ourselves, we should strive to have two positive ones.
Over time, you will notice a great change in your confidence level. And if someone happens to insult you, you will be armed and ready to defend your self-esteem.

3. Find the root

Of course, if you want to know how to destroy the inferiority complex, you must remember where it came from. Maybe you have no idea how the negative self-talk and feelings even surfaced. Well, if you experienced rejection or trauma in your early life, inferiority feelings may be deep-rooted and will have to be pulled out and examined.
You can start analyzing yourself or you can seek professional help in this area. Some roots, I must admit, travel deep within your mind.
Some of these roots go far and some are large, meaning they encompass multiple issues, situations and people from your past. This is where untangling roots also come into play. To heal your confidence, you must discover these roots.

4. Gravitate toward positive people

Another way to overcome feelings of inferiority is to surround yourself with as many positive people as possible. Being around positive people remind you of how you’re supposed to treat yourself. They remind you of your worth and talents.
If you’ve noticed, positive people usually don’t criticize others. Instead, they may lovingly point out ways to improve. On the other hand, negative people will always have a way to bring you and themselves down simultaneously.
It’s obvious what you should do in this case. Stay as far away from toxic behavior or negative people as possible.

5. Good mantras and proclamations

Not only should you talk good to yourself, but you should also proclaim your good points. When you feel inferior, speak a positive mantra about yourself.
For instance,  you may say, “I am talented”, and “I am kind”. This helps build you up by speaking your worth out loud. Whether you are spiritual or not, I’m telling you, the spoken word is a powerful thing. It truly is capable of turning things around for the better.

6. Always be yourself

If you’ve fallen victim to idolization, which we all do to a certain extent, then you should step back a moment. Immediately, stop all attempts to be like someone else, right now. After you feel clean of everyone else’s influence, fill yourself with yourself.
That’s right, embrace who you are, and examine all your good points. I bet, you have so much to be thankful for, and so many hidden talents. This simple move can boost your ability to overcome inferiority and other negative complexes.

7. Stop comparisons

That brings me to another toxic and heinous act we fall victim to – comparisons. It’s so easy to feel inferior when we compare ourselves with others. We should never ever do that.
So, for this last method, let’s practice working to better ourselves apart from anyone else. Yes, appreciate others and their talents, but never let those things decide who you should be. End comparisons now.

We can all feel better about ourselves

Learning how to overcome inferiority complex is no easy task, I will not lie. However, being able to accomplish this task allows you to open up to a multitude of possibilities in your life. The ability to be confident is a power that so few actually hold. In fact, the inferiority complex inhabits most of us on some level.
Regardless, we should try every day, to love and appreciate ourselves. We are the only one like us on the face of this earth. We have a mixture of unique talents and characteristics that the world surely needs.
I’m going to say you’re beautiful, talented, and worthy, to help you jump start your journey on defeating the inferiority complex, and also just in case no one else has told you lately.
Be well.
 
References:
  1. https://www.psychologytoday.com
  2. https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au
 

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 

 

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 



About the Author: Sherrie

Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.

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publicado por achama às 04:44
Quinta-feira, 20 / 06 / 19

9 Signs of a Truly Independent Person: Are You One? ~ Sherrie, learning-mind.

9 Signs of a Truly Independent Person: Are You One?

By Sherrie.

June 20th, 2019

 

Being an independent person doesn’t come from living an easy life. The trials of life make you stronger.

I get angry sometimes when things go wrong. I sometimes lose hope when past hardships repeat themselves over and over. But I think this happens because there is yet something we’re meant to learn. I also think these trials can make prosperous. This means, no matter how hard it gets, I know I can be an independent person.

How strong and independent are you?

Being an independent and strong person comes with a price sometimes. We build walls when experiencing hurt after hurt. The callouses that form over pain and abuse can also leave us a bit insensitive to the feelings of others.
However, that’s not how we all work, or how we should strive to be. Some of us become independent without losing the ability to open up. That’s the focus of our strength.

Anyway, here are signs that you could be an independent type of person. Or maybe someone you know has these traits.

1. You can live alone

Being independent means you can live alone. You don’t need the help of others to survive, and you always find a way to stay financially stable.
You also have no need for occupying the same spaces with other people, unless of course, you want to. You’re so good with yourself that living alone is actually preferable at times.

2. You’re a future planner

While many people say “live in the moment”, an independent and solid person will always plan for times to come. They see the big picture and not the temporary high of present fun and companionship.
I will say it’s good to enjoy each day, but it’s also important to save for the future. Independent people are perfectionists at planning for the future.

3. Saying ‘no’ isn’t hard

For some, saying no is difficult, especially if they are afraid of hurting the people close to them. For dependent people, saying yes, and going along with things is easier than mustering the strength to decline.
People of an independent nature can easily say no and not even give an explanation for their answer. They are bold and present an attitude that says, “I’m saying no just because I want to.”. Do you see?

4. It’s hard to ask for help

Asking for help isn’t hard for some, but for independent and stubborn people, they hate charity. To independent individuals, asking for help means weakness.
Being weak cannot be a part of their plans, for present or for the future. To them, it may even be a sign that they cannot make it on their own if they ask for help.

5. You have few friends

When you’re independent, you have fewer friends than most people. Truth be told, this is because you spend time with people expecting nothing in return.
Now, I don’t know how true this is for everybody, but many of those with many friends often expect favors and help. Since you’re independent, you only see friends as companions. Choosing your friends in this manner helps you realize who you truly appreciate and love.

6. You have an unshakable self-worth

When you’ve become an independent person, you won’t have to get validation from other people. No matter how many insults they use, you will still know who you really are. You will see your value, your beauty, and your loyalty, and nothing can change this.
Of course, there may be times when you’re shaken momentarily, but you bounce back. This helps you see the one who insults you for who they really are. You will know this independent individual by their resilience in the face of adversity.

7. You go out alone

Most of the time, you will go out alone. You love to shop for things alone because you can go and leave as you please. You even like to eat at restaurants alone sometimes.
Being alone in public feels good to you, and it doesn’t leave you empty. You don’t have to socialize with friends out on the town, but you can still have a conversation with people who are already there. It’s an interesting trait.

8. You can lead

When independent, you can take the lead and get difficult things done. You will notice both men and women taking charge of difficult situations, and this usually means they are pretty independent of others.
Sometimes men are intimidated by women who take charge, but unfortunately, this is because they are usually the dependent sort. Strong men aren’t intimidated, they rather help strong women succeed. This can be seen the other way around too but in a slightly different aspect.

9. You’re financially independent

Yes, we already know the independent sort are people who live alone, and they are also those who refuse help. Well, if, for some reason, an independent person just happens to owe money, say for car payments or other financed things, they will most certainly be on time and try to pay off the debt as soon as possible.
They hate owing people anything. It feels like independence is being taken away when you have to borrow money against something.

Being truly independent

There’s a reason people act the way they do. Some are born independent while others grow into these strong individuals because of past trauma or life-long hardship. They’ve learnedtheir own value and potential. An independent person is one of the most exemplary types of human beings to ever exist, and I attain to become more like this as I grow.
Are you an independent one? Do you strive to become more independent? If so, you must take heed if you wish to become more independent that you don’t lose your ability to feel emotions.
If you’re not careful, you can build walls while building your confidence and strength. Here again, as with many other aspects of life, I think balance is the key. So, go forth and conquer.
References:
  1. https://www.theodysseyonline.com
  2. https://www.lifehack.org

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 

 

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 



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Terça-feira, 18 / 06 / 19

6 Things Messy Handwriting May Reveal about Your Personality ~ Sherrie.

6 Things Messy Handwriting May Reveal about Your Personality.

By Sherrie.

June 17th, 2019

 

I’ve seen all sorts of handwriting styles, large and small. Messy handwriting reveals many things about a person as well.
People write with pen and paper much less than they did before. So, you might say that messy handwriting isn’t a concern for teachers, friends, and employers. The popularity of technology has transformed the way we create stories and complete assignments. Whether professional or creative, our writing is mostly digital.
However, some people still pick up that pen, and when they do, their personality shines through their handwriting.

Messy handwriting and what it may reveal

My son writes in the messiest way. Sometimes you can’t even read what he’s written. He is left-handed, but that has nothing to do with it. In fact, I’ve asked him to switch hands, but it just gets worse. What does this say about my son?
We’re going to explore that and other characteristics he may share with others. So, what does messy handwriting say about your personality?

1. Intelligent

I can surmise that messy handwriting has a lot to do with more than average intelligence. What’s the proof? Well, my son remained in accelerated classes during his entire education. His grades dropped during regular classes because he was bored with the curriculum. He is smart and his handwriting is definitely messy, as I’ve mentioned before.
If your handwriting is messy, it could be that you have higher intelligence. If you’re not sure of your child’s intelligence level, maybe you can have them tested. Pay attention if you do have an intelligent child and notice if they have a messy sort of handwriting.
I will mention this, however, there are a few studies which suggest the opposite, that neat handwriting is linked to higher intelligence, so keep that in mind.

2. Emotional baggage

Many people who have messy handwriting can also be carrying emotional baggage. Often this writing is filled with a mixture of cursive and print letterforms, usually slanted to the left.
In case you didn’t know, emotional baggage is emotional hurts carried over from one person to another, or from one situation to a different situation in life. The writing shows the inability to let go emotionally. The words are just unsure.

3. Volatile or bad-tempered

A person who exhibits a bad temper will often write in a haphazard way. It doesn’t always mean they are quick to get angry, oh no. Sometimes it’s just that they carry anger inside until they have a violent outburst. Again, an example using my son, as he has a tendency to hold in anger until he explodes. This shows in his writing.
A bad temper can cause bad handwriting just because people with this anger disposition are usually impatient. With messy and rushed handwriting, we can see the strong emotions come through.

4. Mental issues

Messy handwriting can indicate that the person could have a mental illness. Often this handwriting will consist of switching slants, a mixture of print and cursive writing, and large spaces between sentences. I am sitting here right now looking at a page of my writing from last night.
I have multiple mental illnesses, and my writing shows my instability. I have also witnessed several others with mental illness who have the same sort of writing style. Now, I know it’s not set in stone, but it’s a pretty good indicator of some sort of connection between the two.

5. Low self-esteem

Have you ever noticed the handwriting of someone with low self-esteem? It’s strange and yet messy as well. Those with low self-esteem not only have messy handwriting but also have random loops and strange styles of capital letters.
People with low self-worth are insecure, and yet they are trying desperately to rise above the insecurity by purposely enlarging their letters as they write. As they attempt to do this, they also try to write in bubble letters.
This usually falls right back into messy and disorganized handwriting because it’s hard to hold onto the façade. I know this why? Because sometimes this is me.

6. Introverted

While this might not be true about everyone, it was true about my brother at one time. While my brother has changed and embraced some extrovert attributes, it’s usually in the online atmosphere I remember he used to write everything in these tiny messy sentences. You could barely read them although they were lovely and interesting if you succeeded.
Does he still write like this? I have no idea because most of his dictation is online. I do believe that introverts, like my brother, sometimes write in messy forms. Maybe his style hasn’t changed much.
I also believe introverts are intelligent and so this matches another aspect of messy and cluttered handwriting. As introverts stay at home a lot, they usually have less to prove to others, and so their handwriting is pretty much as they please.

Are you a messy writer?

Many of my family members have messy handwriting, and yet, my middle son has neat and beautiful handwriting. But that’s another topic altogether and for another day.
Remember, most of the attributes of your personality are positive when it comes to having a messy sort of handwriting, so you should be proud of your scribble. I’m okay with mine.
 
References:
  1. https://www.msn.com
  2. https://www.bustle.com
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 

 

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 



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Sábado, 15 / 06 / 19

How to Escape Reality without Drugs with These 7 Safe and Simple Methods ~ Sherrie.

How to Escape Reality without Drugs with These 7 Safe and Simple Methods.

By Sherrie.

June 14th, 2019

 

You don’t need drugs or alcohol to escape reality. There are many ways that you can take a break from life.

 
Let me tell you, I understand how horribly unbearable life can get. And honestly, you have to be present mentally for the most part. It’s just the responsible thing to do. But, there are some times when you just have to escape reality in order to calm down.
Taking this sort of break from life can help you come back to reality with a fresh perspective. It can help you make better decisions and take charge of your future. I am in great need of a few escape hours, even days.

Going it sober

So, as you already know, there are many people who turn to drugs in order to escape the reality of their lives. Although opinions vary, I think science has offered us better ways to get back on track. Prayer and meditation are prime examples.
With these tools, you give control to something else for a while and get that needed rest you so desire. Here are a few other ways to do this as well.

1. Make something

One of the best ways to escape this thing we call reality is to create something. Being creative takes focus.
If you’re paying full attention to the thing you’re trying to create, the negative thoughts will not have room to influence your thinking. And we all know about the negative thoughts that attack our minds from day to day.
So, getting creative by painting, singing, or even cooking a new dish is a great way to escape.

2. Listen to music

No matter how hard it gets, music can take some of the edge off your problems. If you listen to music before surgery, it actually reduces anxiety and fear, helping you relax.
You can actually remove yourself from the situation at hand and get lost in the soothing sounds of music. Although a tiny bit different, listening to nature sounds is a great idea too.

3. Get active

If you’re struggling with some seriously bad life issues, you have to face them head-on. However, if you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed, you can also take a break for a little while. Physical activity not only promotes good mental health, but it also serves as a great distraction from life’s problems that seem hard to solve.
In order to escape the bonds of reality, try just 20 minutes of exercise a day for 5 days a week. You will notice a big difference in how you handle things and how you respond.

4. Take a nature break

If you’re looking for a place to get active and escape your reality for a bit, choose nature. Instead of staying inside, get out and let your mind take in all the natural wonders of life. You can take a hike, go fishing or even go camping.
This helps you stay away from smartphones, televisions, and computers for a while, and much of the world’s troubles can sneak in through electronics. Step away and step into nature for a while. It does work.

5. Read a book

Here’s one of my favorite ways to escapes the worries of reality. Reading a book transports you to another world where your problems probably don’t exist. To help expand this escape, try reading comical stories or stories with uplifting themes.
I sometimes have to force myself to step away from life with a book in hand. As I start to read, I realize that many of us have lost the ability to enjoy the simple things in life. It’s the simple things in life that can actually help us escape our reality, believe it or not.

6. Journal your thoughts

If you’re reading to help deal with reality, you can take a step further, and start journaling your thoughts. This is especially useful when you really don’t have anyone to talk to about your problems.
Keeping a journal allows you to write about what’s bothering you, helping you process these issues in a healthy manner. You may not get any answers from another person this way, but you may learn different ways to deal with your problems after writing them down in a journal.

7. Utilize laughter

Have you ever heard the saying, “laughter is the best medicine”? Well, honestly, it can sometimes be just that. You might not be able to find many things in your life lately to laugh about, but if you purposely watch a comedy or read a funny book, you can coax a bit of laughter from deep within.
The act of laughing can improve your mood by releasing endorphins and increase blood flow.

An escape can save your life

Unfortunately, some problems become more than we can handle. If life gets too heavy, we can fall into depression and totally lose control. This can happen with anxiety as well.
It’s important to escape reality from time to time so you can figure out what’s best for you and for your individual situation. You can clear your head and organize your priorities until things seem sane again.
I know this because I often have to get away just to catch my breath. I use these methods in my life. I hope these ideas work for you as well.
References:
  1. https://lifehacker.com
  2. https://www.cheatsheet.com
 
 
 
 
 
 

 

 

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 



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Sexta-feira, 14 / 06 / 19

What Is Primacy Effect and How It Messes with Your Memory and Perception ~ Sherrie.

What Is Primacy Effect and How It Messes with Your Memory and Perception.

By Sherrie.

June 13th, 2019

 

Ever wondered why you remember some things and other things are quickly forgotten? Well, this could be due to the primacy effect.
The science behind the primacy effect is simple yet complicated to navigate. I’ve recognized the characteristics of this effect many times in my life. This curious state of mind works in a valuable way, helping us remember certain important facts.
Unfortunately, other seemingly important information is dulled or completely lost from memory, unless placed last. In the model of first, last, and middle, primacy is the information that’s remembered first and is more likely to be stored in the long-term memory. Here’s a bit more information.

The meaning of the primacy effect

The primary effect was established in 1940 by Solomon Asch. This was when the primary principle came into being. Basically, the primacy (remembering the beginning facts) and recency effect (remembering the last facts) are two strong characteristics of how our brain works.
For instance, if we make a grocery list, the first few items will be remembered much better and even stored within our long-term memory. The items in the middle of the list may be harder to recall, even harder than the last items (which are considered the recency effect examples.)
But to focus on primacy, the effects are seen easily in studying for exams as well. Again, the information first read will be stored faster and thus remembered quite well for the test. Questions involving these facts will be easy to answer correctly.
So, the primacy effect is a positive thing, right? Well, for the most part, but there are ways it can distort our own and the perception of others.
Let’s take a look at the flaws of the primacy effect.

1. First impressions

Everyone knows what first impressions are, but do they really understand the implications of this? Well, when you look at the primacy effect, you can see how there could be a negative take with the first time you meet someone, especially if things go all wrong.
If your first impression isn’t that great, it can frame how the other person views you. Remember, this first encounter with you is what they remember the most.., just as the last encounter will be.
In this situation, the primacy effect can greatly change how a person views another, even to the point of severing future contact altogether.

2. Reputations

In a way, being late for your first day at a new job can be seen as a first impression, and really, it is. But, it also helps us look at how reputations are formed. The fact is, you may not ever be late again, but your reputation could already be spoiled, causing you to lose out on advancements in the workplace or even fall victim to termination.
Although the primacy effect helps us remember the first facts and commit them to long-term memory, we miss so many good things in the middle sometimes, especially where the true value of a person is concerned. It’s detrimental to us and others.

3. Emotional distortion

The primacy effect can influence our emotions as well. We often feel the first emotion much stronger, whether it’s happiness, paranoia, or anger, and we give little time for the emotion to deepen or change. Many rash decisions have been made due to focus on the primary emotions.
Also, as you know, primary emotions are the ones we remember for a while. They can change the way we see many things. It’s like an imprint.
Even though the thought process, as it deepens, is considered the “middle” and not the first thought, it often has some of the best rational thinking and analyzation. Our perception of many things has been changed due to this effect.

4. The formation of lists

Another way that the primacy effect can influence our perception is by their role in lists. As I stated before, the item at the top of the grocery list will not be easily forgotten, while the other various ingredients may be.
This is just one of the shortcomings of the primacy effect. It’s also the one that propelled this type of thinking, to begin with.
Another way that lists are affected is when there are various descriptions of a person’s personality or characteristics. For instance, if you say someone is moody, beautiful, and dependable, you will always remember that they are moody above all else.
Likewise, if the order was changed to “beautiful, dependable and moody”, you will think of that person as a beautiful person…and I would bet you would see the moody description more along the lines of having “depth of emotion”.
It’s strange how that works, isn’t it? And guess what? This example was the first known experiment in the primacy effect back in 1940.

So, is the primacy inherently good?

While the primacy effect can indeed distort your perception, it can also prove useful as well. It takes a great deal of maturity to understand how the primacy effect and the recency effect can prove useful.
In fact, the middle is where you find some of the best information and form some of the best connections with people and situations. You just have to be open-minded enough to see it.
So, even though we can appreciate the first things we remember, we should also learn how to change the order and read again. Revisit the list, consider the applicant, and wait to see how we feel a few hours after we’ve grown angry. The primacy effect isn’t bad, and how we see this is how we respond.
References:
  1. https://journals.sagepub.com
  2. https://study.com
 
 
 
 
 

 

 

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
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Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.

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Quarta-feira, 12 / 06 / 19

5 Signs the Illusion of Control Is Ruining Your Life and How to Stop It ~ Sherrie.

5 Signs the Illusion of Control Is Ruining Your Life and How to Stop It.

By Sherrie.

June 11th, 2019

 

If you think you’re in control of life, think again. The illusion of control, although sometimes positive, can have negative consequences.
Sometimes, to be honest, I believe that people who do wrong toward others are punished. Hey, maybe they are. As for me, if I fall into the illusion of control in this aspect, I spend much of my time thinking that I will be avenged at every insult or attack. That’s a waste of time.
The illusion of being in control can definitely be positive, as it gives us the confidence to handle a situation. It can also be negative because we cannot possibly handle every situation. The truth is, some things are out of our control completely. Our acceptance of this fact is important.

How the illusion of control ruins our lives

If you go even deeper than that, you find those who live every day thinking they’re in control of the entirety of their existence, which isn’t true.
There are signs that the illusion and trickery of control have taken over, pushing them toward a chaotic and stressful existence. Here are a few examples.

1. Paranoia

Paranoia is a sign that you are under the illusion that you control things. You might think you’re in control, but maybe you are just watching your life unfold naturally, good or bad. If your spells and incantations don’t work, then the illusion of control will tell you that someone has transpired to bring you bad luck.
Or they could be following you, trying to do harm, or even ruin your future. If you depend on charms or other luck bringing aspects to stay in control, you could be fooling yourself.
Your paranoia could get ridiculous if not checked. If someone you love is always paranoid, you could be dealing with someone who feels like they are losing this control they once had.

2. Dwelling in the past

Someone who dwells too long on past events may be living under the illusion that they could have controlled certain situations.
When you live your life, you make mistakes. Over time, these mistakes become part of the past. Some of them affect us and our loved ones deeply. The illusion of control makes us think that if only we could go back in time and change things, that life would be different.
And maybe life would be different, but dwelling on this fact creates a fantasy world that is unhealthy to live in. If you’re constantly reliving the past and rehearsing different ways you could have approached situations, you really are ruining your life right now.
You may even look back at “now” and wish you could have changed that too.

3. Abuse

You see this is relationships when one person tries to control the actions of another. But when it all boils down to it, you cannot really control anyone. Eventually, they will do what they want anyway.
If you notice one person in the relationship trying to control the other, this is abuse. They are also under the illusion that they are in control. They’re not really in control and they never will be.

4. Cosmetic surgery obsession

You know the ones, the women and men who keep getting facelifts, tummy tucks, and breast augmentation. Yes, those individuals can be obsessed. These people think they are in total control of how they appear and how long they will remain beautiful.
The truth is, cosmetic surgery does work, to some extent, but it cannot keep us alive forever.
We have yet to discover the fountain of youth and until we do, we will age, and we will die. That’s the simple and concise truth of the matter. Plastic surgery can ruin our lives by keeping us locked into getting more and more changes and leaving us always unsatisfied.

5. Reckless behavior

You will recognize those who suffer from the illusion of total control by their reckless behavior. These individuals actually think that they are invincible.
I thought like this when I was around 18 years old. They walk down dark alleyways, drive super fast on the freeway, and even indulge in drugs and alcohol.
They really think they are in control at all times, and they will even get furious if you try to stop them. You know these people well. You can tell by their restlessness and boredom.

How can we stop thinking this way?

It’s not easy to break out of a mindset that’s been imprinted upon us from an early age. But, if you can manage to see things from a different perspective, you can learn to actually gain self-control over your illusion of control, if you get my drift.
Utilizing self-control helps you see logic instead of fantasy. It helps you realize that you are no more powerful, invincible, immortal or lucky than the rest of us.
Once you’ve realized this fact, you can focus on really enjoying a good life. Life is full of so many wonderful things, some far out of our control. So, for what we cannot control, I hope we can reach a place of acceptance. I think there we can find the peace we so deserve.
References:
  1. https://greatergood.berkeley.edu
  2. https://www.sciencedaily.com
 
 
 
 

 

 

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
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Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.

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Quinta-feira, 06 / 06 / 19

When Blaming Others for Your Failures, Consider These Uncomfortable Truths ~ Sherrie.

When Blaming Others for Your Failures, Consider These Uncomfortable Truths.

By Sherrie.

June 6th, 2019

 

Excruciating pain at a turning point of our lives will make us stop blaming others. Until then, we will be empty.
Thinking back as far as I can pick out times when I refused to take the blame for things. I remember tantrums in my teenage years, but usually, it was because I didn’t get something I wanted. I think blaming others came later on during my early adulthood when I blamed my shortcomings on the way I was being treated.

Why are we prone to blaming others?

Yes, negative treatment will make you feel victimized, and you will blame others for your future misfortune, but at some point, you must take responsibility. But there are darker, more selfish reasons for blaming everything on others.
Let’s take a look at why we do this hurtful thing, shall we?

1. To attack others

As heartbreaking as it is, attacking others is a way of hurting them to avoid taking responsibility. When approached about something they’ve done, irresponsible people become defensive and lash out.
They don’t have to be a narcissistic person. They could just be afraid of the consequences of their bad behavior, and they’re looking for a way out of the mess. Placing blame on others and flipping the situation may have become a natural defense mechanism.

2. Truth found in narcissistic behavior

I know a man, who, when angry, claims to feel no remorse for his outbursts. You can see the lack of empathy when he yells and throws tantrums that I recognize from my children’s early years.
The first time I heard this outburst, I was taken aback – I was shocked by the pitch and tone of his bellows. Something shifted between us in that moment.
I’ve heard this very man call others narcissists, when in fact, he fit much of the characteristics of this toxic personality. The truth is, it wasn’t always his fault, he was raised to take no responsibility for his actions. He used blaming all others as the only way he could feel healthy self-esteem.

3. Why can’t we accept failures?

I want you to know that it’s okay to be imperfect, and it’s also okay to let the world know this. Failure is just a part of life, and being open and honest about your shortcomings is a step toward growth and strength. It’s a strength that no one can take away from you. It’s an inner honesty with who we really are.
When we cannot accept failure, we cannot accept that we are imperfect. Most people who do this have created a facade that they show others. If someone manages to get close enough to them and sees the truth, they will lash out.
This is because the perfection they display is being threatened to be revealed. This can be devastating to those who are stuck in blaming and shaming others.

4. It’s easy and it’s lazy

It’s so much easier to blame all others for your mistakes. After all, who wants to take the time for self-analysis? We don’t want the consequences that come with being caught in a shady situation or making a mistake when brushing it off with lies ends the conversation faster.
Most of the time, unfortunately, those who play the blame game learned this dynamic early in life, and use it all through adulthood.
They alienate partners and fail at long-term relationships. They are sometimes remarkably gifted at hiding this about themselves, sometimes as long as two years into the union, but after that, the mask starts to fall off revealing some of the most childish and heinous behavior you have ever seen.

5. There’s no moral compass

Usually, those who have the habit of blaming and criticizing others are doing so to have the freedom to act in any way they want. They cover up things, they lie, and they avoid any sort of confrontation at all costs.
If they are religious or spiritual, they love to attend worship services as long as love is the subject of teaching. But as soon, as self-discipline and accountability are introduced, they proclaim they are being controlled.
Morality, standards, dignity, and loyalty, among others, are things they purposely overlook. After all, these things will interfere in their agenda, as I stated before. So, they start to downgrade spiritual aspects in life, but they do not convict themselves for the things they need to fix in their lives.
As frightening as it may seem, the doctrine they once followed will change according to their selfish needs instead of doing the right thing.

Hope for individuals who blame their actions on others

While it’s not easy to change what’s learned between birth and 7 years of age, psychology states that these years are the most impressionable years of a person’s life. What they are taught frame how they will approach things during their later life. So, this means, blaming others has become a deep imprint.
To help those who always blame their failures on others, therapy, intervention, and accountability is a must. At home, be careful not to fall victim to fear when they grow furious. Don’t invade their space, but certainly stand your ground.
Remember, it’s okay to feel a little sad when we fail, but it’s not okay to pass the buck to another. Let’s strive to be better people.
References:
  1. https://www.psychologytoday.com
  2. https://hbr.org
 
 

 

 

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
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Terça-feira, 04 / 06 / 19

5 Tools of Narcissistic Triangulation: Is Someone Doing This to You? ~ Sherrie.

5 Tools of Narcissistic Triangulation: Is Someone Doing This to You?

By Sherrie.

June 3rd, 2019

 

Narcissistic abuse is terrible enough, but having to deal with narcissistic triangulation is a whole other level of this illness.
I’ve studied narcissism and other personality disorders for quite some time. I’ve learned aboutthe traits and characteristics, and then, I discovered that we all have a certain level of narcissism within us. Did you know that? Well, it seems I’m learning something new every day, and that’s a good thing. Just recently I learned there was something called, “narcissistic triangulation”, and this has opened up areas in my life that were hard to see.

What is this form of abuse?

The narcissist’s tool of madness – triangulation – is a severe mode of alienating people from others that they love. Triangulation can also mean using gaslighting(convincing outsiders that someone you love is crazy), and it can mean draining life from the victim while gaining popularity with the victim’s loved ones.
I think it’s one of the sickest weapons that a narcissist can use. In fact, I feel nauseated at this moment because I’m learning that I know quite a few people like this.

Are they using narcissistic triangulation on you?

A narcissist, especially a covert kind, will use triangulation often during their abusive actions. It’s a way to cover who they really are. This happens when the victim starts to figure out the true identity of the narcissist. It’s almost a retaliation from being noticed, actually.
If the narcissist can use triangulation to separate the victim from all their loved ones, then the victim will be aloneeasy prey for the narcissist. Can you feel the disgust? I can.
So, let’s see if any narcissists are using triangulation on you:

1. Invoking jealousy

Narcissists who use triangulation will attempt to make their partner jealous. One of the most common ways they do this is by using a third party.
For instance, the narcissist may tell their partner that one of her friends flirted with him. This not only makes the victim feel insecure but also makes her try harder to please the narcissist in fear of losing his interest to her friend. It’s sadistic, honestly.
If you’ve noticed your partner talking about girls flirting with him, try not to respond. It’s your response the narcissist craves.

2. Division

Have you noticed your partner saying negative things about certain friends you have? If so, they’re probably telling these friends negative things about you as well. This happens when communication between two particular people could expose the narcissist’s true identity.
Pay close attention to who your partner talks about and his overall demeanor when he does this. He could possibly be using triangulation to keep control.

3. Gaslighting

Gaslighting is when a narcissistic personality convinces others that her partner is crazy or abusive. This is possible because of carefully manipulative instigation.
For example, a narcissist will say derogatory things about her partner until he gets mad. When he retaliates, she will say he is crazy. Sometimes she does this in public so that more people can see just how crazed he gets.
If your girlfriend is starting fights with you for no reason, be careful of gaslighting. This might be what’s about to happen, which proves triangulation.

4. Recruitment

Is your partner often calling in reinforcements from friends and family when you start fighting or having a disagreement? If so, then this could be a form of narcissistic triangulation.
Now, sometimes help is needed when dealing with serious issues, but leveraging people to one side is just not a healthy move in a relationship. You may have noticed how your partner’s family members always take their side, this is common of course, but this, in ways, is triangulation as well.

5. The break-up

If you’re about to break up with your partner, then take a close look at how it’s being done.
Let’s say it’s his idea, and not so much your own. If he is using triangulation, he is telling other people about how bad you are and getting them to agree with everything he says. One of these confidants is probably the woman he wishes to replace you with.
It’s a sick and twisted way of ending a relationship, but it fits right in with how narcissists use triangulation.

What you can do with this information

I’ve been reading about narcissists all day now. I was researching things and then ran off into tangents learning even more about the traits and characteristics of the narcissist. I’m going to be honest with you, this type of personality is complex and difficult to change.
The bright side is, now you have a few facts about narcissistic triangulation and how it works. It’s your choice what to do with this information. I do urge you to consider all aspects of your relationship, whether it be romantic, secular or simply a family relationship.
When you recognize the signs of narcissists and triangulation, it’s time to ask yourself one important question.
“Should I get away, or should I stay and try to help?”
The answer is up to you. Just take care of yourself and remember your self-worth in the process.
References:
  1. https://www.psychologytoday.com
  2. https://en.wikipedia.org
 

 

 

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
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publicado por achama às 18:13
Quinta-feira, 30 / 05 / 19

How to Overcome Fear of Driving with These 9 Science-Backed Techniques

How to Overcome Fear of Driving with These 9 Science-Backed Techniques.

By Sherrie.

May 29th, 2019

 

If you’re afraid of getting behind the wheel, science may have some answers to help you learn how to overcome the fear of driving.
I’m not afraid of driving, well mostly. However, my mother was terrified of driving. Apparently, she almost drove off a bridge in her early years.
This horrific experience created a phobia for her, and she never got behind the wheel of an automobile again. No matter how many times my father tried to help her, she never managed to overcome her fear of driving and try. From then on, everywhere she desired to go, someone in the family had to take her.

Is this the only way to catch a fear of driving?

While past accidents can cause a fear of driving, there are many other reasons as well. If you’ve learned how to overcome terrifying feelings when driving, then you may understand what started the fear.
Honestly, you can have a fear of driving from the idea of traveling to a new location. You can also have a fear of driving from an already existing anxiety disorder. For some people, driving alone can be the solitary reason for this phobia. Yes, it can be that simple.

9 science-backed ways to overcome the fear of driving

I have good news for you today. You can overcome that horrid fear of driving. In fact, there are many ways you can do this. So, without further delay, here are ways you can kill that pestering phobia and get back to a normal life.

1. Do it again, as soon as you can

Many people understand the saying, “If you fall down, just pick yourself back up”. We understand this saying and we try to practice this in many areas of our lives in order to be successful. It’s the same with driving.
If you have an accident, it’s best to get right back to driving as soon as you have a good mode of transportation. This is because the longer you wait, the harder it will be to try again. In my mother’s case, she never gave it another chance, and eventually forgot about driving altogether. We should never do this.

2. Positive affirmations

When you have a fear of driving, you can use positive statements to not only calm you but remind you of how safe you felt before – this is in case you’ve experienced an accident.
For others who fear driving, these positive affirmations can quell simple fears by telling you things like, “You’re driving the speed limit and you’re driving just fine”, or “Driving is common and I should not be afraid.”
Yes, it may take a while to utilize these affirmations effectively, but you can do it.

3. Understand your anxieties

If you are prone to panic attacks when doing something scary, then your fear of driving can invoke these attacks. So, with that being said, you must know what triggers these attacks and understand the level of your attacks.
For instance, if you feel like you are moving up the scale of your anxiety at a fast pace, you should pull the car onto the side of the road. I have actually had to do this before, but it was not because of a fear of driving. I just happened to be driving when my anxiety went full-throttle.
But anxieties caused by driving can accelerate much faster and you have to understand the triggers to keep yourself safe while driving.

4. Create comfort

Before you ever start driving, make sure you are comfortable in your car. Learning the ways to overcome your driving fear starts with a clean, soothing, and well-functioning vehicle. All these things must be taken into account before cranking the car, such as car insurance and preventive maintenance.
Maybe you drive better with soft music, or maybe not. This will depend on what makes you comfortable. Sometimes soft music calms nerves and even drowns out the noise of traffic.
If you feel more comfortable driving alone, then try that first. Unlike some people who rather drive with someone, there are others who find noisy people in the back seat to be distracting. Whatever’s best for you.

5. Visualize the trip

Let’s say you’ve decided to try and take a small trip to the store. Maybe you’ve decided to try and face your fears – no promises here, you say. Well, here’s what you can do in this instance.
First, imagine the experience step by step. Imagine opening the door and stepping inside your car. You sit down and put the keys in the ignition. So far so good, right?
Now, as you imagine pulling onto the roadway, think of every problem that could happen, and find a way to overcoming that problem quickly. Maybe it was one of these situations that caused your phobia to begin with. Face it head on and develop a strategy to avoid that situation the next go around.

6. Follow progressive steps

Now that you’ve visualized the steps to getting back behind the wheel, you can try these in a progressive order. First, go out and sit in your car, then put the keys in the ignition.
Now, crank the engine and wait for a moment, listening to the sound of the engine. Now, drive around a short block and back home. Take someone with you now, and drive around several blocks.
Then do it on your own. You can practice this with bridges, then long bridges. After that, you can drive on unfamiliar roads and even on bridges over water.
Finally, you can muster up the bravery to drive on the big freeways. After you’ve mastered all that, you may even be able to drive in the rain or at night. Just take it slowly and try these steps.

7. Take lessons

It’s never too late to take driver’s lessons. These instructors can help you work through fears, and also teach you things you may have forgotten.
It’s okay to ask questions which can clarify concerns. It’s also okay to share the fact that you are afraid of driving. They can help you face these fears and learn how to get over driving phobias.

8. Get help

Also, if your fear is disrupting your life, you will have to seek professional help. Maybe the panic attacks are coming too often, or you just refuse to get into the car for any reason. If you live alone, this could become a huge problem. You have to get help in some way.
Here’s where to start: First seek help from your regular doctor. Tell them what’s going on and they can point you toward the right professional help. This could mean speaking to a psychologist to get to the bottom of your phobias.

9. Try a support group

Why should you join a support group with other frightened people? Well, although it may sound strange, it’s a good thing. Being around others who are afraid to drive will make you feel less alone.
You can discuss triggers and anxious feelings in an environment where you are understood. You can make friends as well, and you can help each other remove phobia obstacles.

Driving isn’t all that bad

Yes, learning how to overcome the fear of driving is sometimes difficult. It can take you back to the point of an accident – hey, many of us have experienced an automobile collision, it can trigger feelings from the past, or it can simply arise because you’re new to driving.
Whatever the cause of your phobia, it can be faced with courage. If you’re afraid to drive, don’t give up. Remember, you can do anything you put your mind to.
References:
  1. https://www.psychologytoday.com
  2. https://www.sciencedirect.com
 
About the Author: Sherrie

Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.

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Quinta-feira, 23 / 05 / 19

How to Beat Fear of Flying with These 10 Science-Backed Techniques ~ Sherrie.

How to Beat Fear of Flying with These 10 Science-Backed Techniques.

By Sherrie.

May 18th, 2019

 

In this world, there are so many fears – fears of the dark, spiders, and even water. Fear of flying, however, is quite a common disturbance.
I had no idea that I was afraid of flying until I experienced my first plane ride. I was going home from Maryland to Mississippi when turbulence hit. When this happened, I grasped the shoulder of the man sitting next to me and he chuckled.
I was terrified, but he seemed to find my fear amusing. I guess he was used to this sort of thing. But I was not. It was clear from that day forward that I had a fear of flying.
I guess you can say, “Oh, you’re just afraid because of the turbulence”. Well, maybe that’s what alerted me to the fear of being in flight, but it’s not what kept the fear instilled in my heart. I will not go parasailing, I will not jump from planes, dear god, no!
When it comes to flying, I try every excuse to get out of the suggestion. I’ve even driven hundreds of miles just to stay off a plane. This is a bonafide fear of leaving the earth and flying.

Learning to fight your fear of flying

So, I guess this means, we shall learn to ditch the fear and terror of flying together. And, I’m alright with that. My brother tries to get me on a plane all the time to visit him, but I say no. So, if I lose my fear, I can make him happy and even learn to enjoy flying.
Let’s take a look at a few science-backed techniquesthat just might work.

1. Understand flying and physics

One way to start your journey away from the terror of flying is to learn the facts. If you’re unsure about how flying works, this could be a huge reason why you’re so afraid. You can learn facts about flying by simply doing an online search.
The bottom line is this: you cannot just fall from the sky in normal flight. You have to think of flying through the air as if you are swimming through water. The air does have a bit of support.
Research and learn more. Better than that, research and calm your anxieties. Also, make sure you learn the truth about turbulence and how the plane handles this issue.

2. Separating danger from anxiety

If you have a fear of being in flight, you’re probably seeing your anxieties as real dangers. Well, that’s a given, I guess. The key to this is to somehow separate the two so you can understand the logic.
One thing you must know is that your body reacts to anxiety in the same way that it reacts to genuine danger. If you can recognize your fear as anxiety and not real danger, you can harness this fear.
Please understand, and I am telling myself this too, just because you’re anxious doesn’t mean something is really wrong. You can use this mentality in so many other areas of your life as well.

3. Identify triggers

If you understand how triggers work in other situations, you will understand this as well. Identifying the triggers that upset you on the flight will help you work through these triggers.
The key is to examine the triggers you know before you ever get on the flight. This helps you work out a system to calm those feelings before they even begin. This is a precautionary action to stop giving in to the fear that you will soon be flying. I think this could work really well for those like us.

4. Build up to a flight

Instead of taking a long flight first, try making short hauls to help you build up the courage. When you experience a few uneventful take-offs and landings, you will feel more confident in taking longer flights. It’s like learning how to lose any other fear. One small step at a time generally works for us all.

5. Talk to others

Before the plane takes flight, talk to those sitting with you or near you. Tell them about your fears and if they will, give them ways to help you if fear takes over.
Most people will help in these situations, and you will find at least one person who will be your support. It’s worth a try to alleviate your fears, wouldn’t you say?

6. Fly often

When I read this tip, it sent a shiver down my spine, seriously. As I try to avoid flying altogether, this one seemed like pure torture. But, as I researched further, I started to see the logic behind this solution. It means, the more you fly, the less you will fear flying.
It’s like you get used to the sensations of flying, the feelings from the turbulence and even the crowded atmosphere. It may take a bit of prodding to keep you in the air, but over time you will be grateful you’ve pushed yourself to conquer this fear.

7. Look anxiety in the face

If you can anticipate the anxiety, you will feel when entering the plane, then you can outsmart this feeling. Most of the time, we feel much more anxious before getting on the plane than when we are flying.
We should, in a way, “embrace” the anxiety we feel before a flight, so it doesn’t seem so big afterward. You can then ask yourself, “Now, what was so bad about that?”

8. Distract yourself

If these don’t work, then try distraction. For example, when the doctor takes blood samples from my arm, I distract myself. This is because I get woozy when they do that. So, I think about yellow sunflowers waving in a field. It works.
So, with that being said, distracting yourself, by maybe listening to music, reading a book, or watching a movie can all help you get through the flight with less anxiety.
You can even talk to the person beside you if they seem talkative. Talking to someone enjoyable often seems to pass the time quickly.

9. Meditation

Yes, you can meditate to a certain extent on the plane. It’s not like a distraction but more like focus. When you meditate, you focus on your breathing and place yourself in a safe place for the flight.
To focus on your breathing, you pace your breaths while counting slowly. This technique is used to alleviate panic by promoting a calm anxiety free mind and being.

10. Use confidence builders

Here’s something you might not think about on a regular basis. I bet you think driving is safer than flying. Well, according to SerioiusAccidents.com, this is not true. Statistics show that while aircraft crashes can be more catastrophic, taking more lives at one time, there is more chance that you will be in an automobile accident than a plane crash.
I think we have such a misconception about flight because while driving, we are closer to the ground and we seem to have control of the vehicle. What’s more, even though automobile crashes happen quite often, the deaths seem to be spread out more through time than with one plane crash.
The fear of flying, in this case, is just anxiety ruling over the facts and statistics.

So, we can help each other

As I said before, I do have a fear of flying. However, I plan to utilize these steps above to help cure a bit of that. Yes, I am going to take it slow and no, I leave no promises about how quickly I will cure this. But, I do have a determination about things, and I believe you do too.
Let’s cure the fear of flying together. What do you say?

 

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
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Domingo, 19 / 05 / 19

7 Signs of Ignorant People Who Just Pretend to Be Smart ~ Sherrie.

7 Signs of Ignorant People Who Just Pretend to Be Smart.

By Sherrie.

May 18th, 2019

 

Some people appear to be intelligent, but usually, these individuals are more ignorant than smart. There are ways to tell.
Have you ever met someone who seemed to know everything? Well, if you’re a bit naïve or just young, you might believe the things they say. However, if you use your head, your actual intelligence, and experience, you might find that these are actually ignorant people.

Are these people intelligent or ignorant?

I’ve personally been in the company of a few people who just weren’t as smart as they proclaim. And yes, when I was young, I fell for their self-proclaimed smarts. Now, I am older and I can sense when someone has no clue about their so-called facts.
Let me show you how you can tell the difference between truly intelligent individuals and those who are just ignorant and uneducated people.

1. Being Fake

One of the most common ways to fake intelligence is by trying to prove it. People who present themselves as intelligent, and push their form of intelligence on others are actually not that smart.
I’ve seen people who always seem to know facts about things they’ve never encountered or known. They put on a show and try to convince everyone of their authenticity. They want to be seen as smart, but the truth is, they’re not. If you’re not careful, you can also fall into this trap.

2. They don’t think of the future

Most people who pretend to be smart will always live for instant pleasure. Yes, it’s great to enjoy every day as it comes, but it’s also just as important to think in the long term.
Ignorant thoughts of people revolve around what they can get now and not what the future holds. They usually don’t have a plan “b” either, which also involves preparing for altered paths….which will also be governed by what the future brings.
Always make sure you balance thoughts of now and thoughts of the future as well. This boosts your intelligence.

3. Don’t apply their own principles

People who are ignorant but think they are smart are prone to neglect responsibilities. These are not just ordinary responsibilities, these are tasks and principles they have set for other people in their lives.
For instance, if they preach about being honest, and yet they tell lies, they are just not smart people. On the exterior, however, they project that they are really intelligent in their speeches for change. Listen up! Be honest and you will be 10 times more intellectual.

4. There is no critical thinking

Those who give advice but do not look within are devoid of critical thinking. Critical thinking is when you ask yourself if you’re doing the same things that others are doing.
If you are offended by someone’s insults, then ask yourself, “Do I insult people as well?” If you don’t ever do analyze your own actions and words, then you’re not as intelligent as you think, and you sure don’t let people know this fact.

5. They like dramatic events and relationships

When ignorant groups of people get together, they enjoy gossip. Most of this gossip revolves around the drama that happens in their lives, whether it’s about work or something at home.
You can see the lack of intelligence as they laugh about the misfortune of others. What they fail to understand is that this same misfortune or something similar can happen to them as well. But they just don’t have the intellect to consider this fact.

6. They listen less and speak more

Those who are really ignorant types of people just have to get their point across all the time. When they’re with friends or family, they tend to hog the spotlight will tales of their accomplishments and good deeds.
When others want to talk, ignorant individuals often interrupt and change the topic back to the same old story they’ve been telling.
Smart people listen, I mean really listen to what others have to say, giving room to hear and yet develop their own thoughts and opinions quietly. So remember, listen and learn.

7. Envious of other people

Ignorant and selfish people are often jealous of others. I don’t necessarily mean jealousy as in relationships. They are jealous and envious of the accomplishments of others.
Instead of striving toward their own goals, they often copy or try to steal recognition because of their envy. It’s the ignorance that’s hidden by the attempt to seem smart in their endeavors.
They will definitely take credit for their behavior in this area. Just be happy for others and focus on your own accomplishments.

No, you’re not as smart as you think you are

If you fall into any of these categories, you should check yourself. By the way, staying away from this behavior and actually asking help from others makes you smarter. Continuing to learn things about life is also a great way to boost your intelligence instead of keeping what you have and faking it.
Some people may be fooled for a while, but they will eventually recognize ignorant people for who they really are. So, if you are trying to fool others with your fake intelligenceit will not work forever.
Here’s a challenge if you suffer from this. Take some time to learn, ask, and become more selfless. In the process, your intelligence will grow and you will actually become just as smart as you think you are…maybe even smarter. It’s just a thought.
References:
  1. https://www.lifehack.org
  2. https://www.dailymail.co.uk

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
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Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.

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Debt Problems: Consumer Society’s Tool of Manipulation and Control ~ Sherrie.

Debt Problems: Consumer Society’s Tool of Manipulation and Control.

By Sherrie.

May 17th, 2019

 

Life isn’t always fair, and debt problems remind us of this fact. Debt is controlling, so make wise decisions to avoid this.

I’ve been in debt, oh yes, but I am thankful that it was a problem I fixed as soon as possible. However, I have seen other people’s debt spiral out of control at a fast rate. Debt problems for them were more like tsunamis, hitting hard and leaving few surviving options.
I watched them go down, and it took quite a long while for them to swim back to the surface. It was heartbreaking not being able to help like I wanted, in fear that debt would attack me again as well. Debt is contagious and can be used as a form of control like this.

How we are tricked into living with debt problems

Debt and the problems which come with it are manipulative. It’s society’s way of holding sway over consumers in order for more money to circulate.
I learned a bit about this in economics class during college. I was taught that if money didn’t circulate, the economy would fail. Yes, money has to circulate, and yes, we must purchase things for this to happen. And I am sure most of you understand this.
But, do we really have to get so out of control in this area? There are so many ways that debt becomes a problem. It becomes a manipulative beast. Let’s examine a few ways it works:

Consumerism can be devastating

While the world of economics thrives off consumer purchases, us, as consumers sometimes suffer greatly from them. As products are introduced, we desire them.
As others are getting these products, we grow envious. Sometimes, we understand that we cannot afford these products, but we find a way to attain them anyway.
Most of the time, we use small loans to acquire what we want. It can have good results or bad ones, all depending on how we use these financial tools. Yes, this type of spending also keeps money flowing through the system, but how does it affect national debt?

National consumerism

Yes, debt is seen on a grander scale. Debt as a national problem can affect, not only us as an individual, but also the world.
As we produce products to improve sales in fast food restaurants, for instance, we are putting a great strain on the production of livestock and farms. In other countries, which do not thrive on fast food industries, which means poorer countries, livestock and farms are used in more logical rates.
So, how does consumerism contribute to debt? When we want something, whether it’s individually or as a group, again, this brings us back to credit cards and loans. We often pay with money we do not have in order to purchase some things we don’t need or that we waste.

Paying the minimum trap

You now understand that debt is a major problemCredit card debt is one of the worst kinds of traps for the consumer when misused. While credit cards can be beneficial, they can also be a seed that exacerbates one of the greatest debt issues. Here’s why.
Do you want something you cannot afford? Well, some people decide to wait until they have enough money to attain this product or service. Others, however, use credit cards to attain the product now.
This is how credit cards work. We purchase products and we pay at a later date. But of course, most of you already know the benefits of using credit. How credit cards fail is when payments aren’t made and late fees accrue, creditors turn to the Minimum payment trap.
While paying the interest gives you more time, it adds to your credit card debt. Some consumers have been stuck with this sort of debt for most of their lives.
Minimum payments help you temporarily get out of paying a huge payment on your past purchase, but it also pushes other fees into future regular payments. These fees grow until your debts are out of control.
Obviously, credit card debt is easy to understand, but it’s not easy to eliminate when the debt has gotten out of control. But will we stop making these unwise decisions?

Taking the loan route instead

While loans aren’t exactly like credit cards, they can bring about debt and problems in a similar manner. The worst action you can take with loans is by taking another loan to pay the first one.
As interest grows, loans for loans tend to make it almost impossible to pay what’s owed unless a great deal of money is shelled out to remedy the accruing debt. And some loans are necessary, like buying a home or car. This is much different than using loans for personal reasons like getting things immediately instead of waiting to afford them.

The real pain and the devastating consequences

One of the scariest things for me to consider as a consumer is the long-term effects with my own personal debt. Loans, such as education loans can also be debilitating and extremely controlling.
Did you know that a loan of $40,000 or more can seek payments for the rest of your life? It’s true. This is the predicament my own son is in now. This debt also affects me as a parent as well.
Education loans have become ridiculous and there are few ways to escape the debts they develop. A few options are available, but few remove the responsibility entirely.

You can win the manipulative game

As for loans, as I stated before, there are few benefits, especially if you are never paying a large amount of principle, and interest is eating up your payments. All loans aren’t manipulative, but they can still cause problems like this.
When taking out a loan for a home, you start to build equity, this is true. Over time, the value of your home becomes greater than the remainder of your mortgage, and you may be tempted to take out a loan – do not do this. Taking out a home equity loan may be a bit different than personal loans, but it can still trap you in debt.

Let’s do our part to reduce debt

Debt related problems have become national. We just can’t keep purchasing products, services and the like without severe repercussions. As we go into debt to resolve a debt, it becomes a never-ending cycle of destruction.
The sad part is there are more than a few options for society to control national debt, this control creates debt which lasts a lifetime.
The good news is, we can start individually. We can waste less, buy less unneeded productswhile still keeping the economic wheel turning. We don’t have to be underneath the thumb of society and it’s pressure.
All we need to do is take a look at other countries, countries which, in their simplicity, have learned to use products and services to fulfill a need and not so many wants in life.
Debt problems, yes we have them. However, if we can learn to avoid the manipulation and control of society, we can learn to reduce this debt over time.
Are you up to it? Are you ready to make a change? Yes, be wise, invest in improving your home and other possessions, but be wise to the tricks society uses. There are good and bad choices. We should be able to tell the difference now.
 
About the Author: Sherrie

Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.

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Domingo, 19 / 05 / 19

How to Use the Power of Suggestion to Transform Your Life ~ Sherrie.

How to Use the Power of Suggestion to Transform Your Life.

By Sherrie.

May 16th, 2019

 

The power of suggestion is much stronger than you realize. Its fantastical reputation holds many truths.
I know, for a fact, that the spoken word is powerful. I’ve learned this through my own spiritual endeavors and watching things happen according to either the positive or negative affirmations I make from day to day.
You may also encounter ways this power of suggestion works for yourself. In rare cases, you may learn how it can be used in opposition.

The true power of the spoken word

The power of using suggestions can also be beneficial when convincing others. For instance, a salesman uses this tool to sell more products or improve the reputation of what he’s selling.
People can change minds according to the words they use, and even make others like or dislike them at will. It’s amazing how well this actually works.
Then you also have negative and positive opposing opinions. What is known as psychological warfare is more common than you think.
In fact, people engage in this activity on a regular basis, and some see it as a normal mode of healthy competition. This is when you speak positively about a certain issue, but someone else is claiming a negative outcome with this same situation.
While I won’t get too religious here, I do believe the winner comes down to just how bad you want something, and if you believe your outcome will happen. It’s all about mindset.
Also, the more you speak these things into being, the more confident you will be in the future. The power of suggestion not only helps you stay in the right frame of mind, but it can also change your life completely.
The power of using suggestions to make things happen can be used by anyone, and for good or bad. Let’s look further.

How to harness the true power of suggestion

So, you have a pretty good understanding of what I’m talking about, right? Well, talking about it and taking action are two different things. What we want to do now is to learn how to utilizethe power of our statements.
Yes, you can do this too, and here’s how:

1. Be aware first

To use the power of persuasion, whether its to bring about positive outcomes or help someone see from your perspective, you must first become aware. This means being aware of your surroundings, how people feel, and the truth of the situations around you.
Being aware helps you understand how to formulate your words in your favor. It also helps you develop a plan for your outcome. Just take time to look around you, listen, and reinforce the truth of what is in the present as opposed to what will be.

2. Understand words

Before you use the power of positive suggestion, for instance, you must understand whichpositive words have the ability to bring about change.
As there are many words that can change situations, there are certain words which can hasten these results. “Valuable” is one of these words. The word “valuable” is so powerful because most people strive for value in the things they acquire in life.
On the flip side, negative words like, “dangerous” can have a marked effect on those who are about to make moves in their lives. If someone has plans, but then hears the word “dangerous” associated with these plans, it can change the whole decision.
Do you see how understanding words can be quite beneficial? Do your research on the most effective words of suggestion, and this will help you train that power you have within.

3. Using reciprocity

Here’s a simple way of using your power of influence with a suggestion. Let’s look at this one in a simple way. For example: If you need something done, you can sometimes get what you want by doing something for someone else first. I know this doesn’t really sound like suggestive power, but in effect, it is.
While I don’t advocate doing this just for gain, because it can be seen as manipulation, remembering a favor you’ve done for someone else can help you formulate a failproof suggestion to get what you want. It’s simply by reminder and obligation.
This might not be the most powerful mode, but it’s one of the easiest ones to understand.

4. Believe and play the role

If you want something to happen, believing is a huge part of that outcome. But, believing does more than just boost your morale, it also causes you to align your actions to your beliefs, as long as you have a positive outlook on the suggestions you’re making.
Your actions will then help pull things into the alignment needed to realize what you wanted in the first place. It’s a process that takes focus, but it works.

5. Keep an open mind as well

In order for your power of words to take full effect, you must have an open mind. First of all, a failure of any kind can make you discouraged and hinder your progress of getting what you want. Now, I said, it can, but it doesn’t have to.
You have to be strong and realize, with an open mind, that just because negative things happen, it doesn’t mean your plan and progress is wrong. Think about it this way, maybe each little falter is part of the path your power of words must take in order to manifest into reality.

6. Confidence

There it is again, that word that makes you visualize a person standing tall, head held high with a proud smile on their face, right? Well, confidence is a powerful tool for suggestion and realization.
It doesn’t matter if you are speaking good things into your life, or you’re trying to convince something to join a club, confidence holds sway like few other tools. If you have strong confidence, the power of suggestion is child’s play.

7. The support system

When you want something done or you really want to change your life, movements seem more powerful in twos, threes, or multiples of participants. Going it alone is great, but going at it with a supportive group amplifies your results.
The point is, all around the world, in every spiritual belief system or secular way of life, there is a need for a support system. Most people who believe in the power of using suggestive words and doing so in groups have a great amount of hope and faith.
This is how they get things done, and this is how they have the belief to keep using these powers of the spoken word. And, when failures come, they can be tackled and reformulated together, thus, even more, hope.

Utilizing your great power

You are powerful. Never let anyone tell you otherwise. I have felt the failure myself, at great depths and lengths, and still, I rise to readjust my mindset and reset my course. The objective is clear to me, and so I keep practicing the power of words and suggestions to change my life.
It can change your life too. You just have to believe to get started.
References:
  1. https://www.psychologytoday.com
  2. https://www.fastcompany.com

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
About the Author: Sherrie

Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.

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