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7 Signs of Oldest Child Syndrome and How to Get Over It.

 

7 Signs of Oldest Child Syndrome and How to Get Over It.

Sherrie Hurd.

learning-mind.com

Posted February 15th, 2020.

 
 

 
 
Being the oldest sibling can be tough. After all, you were the Guinea pig, the one your parents used to learn how to be a parent. I guess that sounds kind of mean but think about it. Unless your parents worked at daycares or one of them babysit other children, when you, the oldest child came along, they were clueless. This started the oldest child syndrome.
 
This issue, although it sounds sad, helps our parents become better at raising you and your siblings.
 
There is a positive and negative side
 
Yes, this issue does have good and bad points since you got all the attention and didn’t have to share toys. But something less attractive may have developed from this place in your family. Being the oldest child sounds like it holds great power, but it can also create problems. So, are you the oldest child?
 
Signs that you have the oldest child syndrome:
 
1. Being an over-achiever
 
Firstborns are often perfectionists. They start to pick up vibes that everyone expects certain things from them. These are just ordinary vibes, but the over-achieving oldest child will put more into the expectations than they should. They want to make you, the parent proud of them and will go to any lengths to do so.
 
This attitude, while strained, can eventually lead to success in their lives. They will excel in their studies and in sports, not stopping until they feel their endeavors lack nothing.
 
2. You get harsher punishments
 
As the oldest child, not only do the parents take more pictures, buy more toys, but they also dish out harsher punishments. Harsher than what, you may ask?
 
The oldest child will endure punishments that years later, younger siblings will not. By the time baby number 2 and 3 arrive, the parents will have grown a bit lenient. It’s so unfair, but that’s just the way it goes, and yes, you have the oldest child syndrome.
 
3. No hand-me-downs
 
Guess what, you might have the syndrome of being the oldest child, but you also have all new clothes too, unless someone outside the family gives you a few things. Otherwise, everything else you wear will be yours first. It will not be until your siblings come along that you will hand these clothes down to them.
 
You feel privileged if you take the time to think about it. Sometimes you may brag a little too much about it.
 
4. Secretly resents the younger siblings
 
The first baby – they always get the first of everything else too. They are cuddled all the time, played with, and get the best bedtime stories. Then suddenly, a new baby arrives, and things start to change.
 
The mother cannot allocate as much time with them as before. She has to dole out the love for two people now. Just wait until there’s a third one. Oh, how the oldest resents the birth of their siblings. The good news is, they usually grow to love them as they get older.
 
5. They’re serious and sometimes solitary
 
The oldest child is serious about most things and also loves to be alone. This is the case before siblings come along and especially afterward. It’s not so much out of anger or depression, it’s just a part of their personality.
 
My oldest son loved being by himself, and only when he entered high school did he make many friends. Maybe he had the oldest child syndrome and maybe not.
 
6. They’re either strong-willed or the opposite
 
The oldest child can have a strong will and be extremely independent. On the other hand, they could also be dependent on everyone, afraid and always trying to please everyone. So, when the second child comes along, the oldest child will either be rebellious or compliant.
 
7. Loves acting as a teacher
 
The oldest child loves the role of teacher to their younger siblings. While it’s good to have an in-house tutor, the oldest child may teach some less-than-savory lessons to his younger sisters or brothers.
 
However, as the older child teaches their siblings different things, when they learn they are wrong, it helps them grow. Too bad it can influence the minds of the younger children.
 
How can the oldest child overcome this syndrome?
 
The way in which your oldest child acts doesn’t have to be a syndrome, but it can. There are positive things that the eldest member of the family can do in order to utilize their child’s abilities.
 
Encourage your oldest child to help with chores without denying playtime. Coax them to learn balance.
 
Make sure you give credit to your child when they have done something good. Since oldest children have perfectionist attitudes, try to notice the little things so they see that yourexpectations are being met in them.
 
Make sure you give privileges. Although your first child will be the one you hover over and try to protect, let them do some things on their own. Set an age where they can do things differently and feel more mature.
 
Don’t forget to spend quality time with each child, especially the oldest. This prevents the eldest child from thinking their time with you has passed.
 
Is it really a syndrome, or just a way of thinking?
 
In reality, I think each child, whether they are oldest, somewhere in the middle, or maybe the youngest of the clan, will have a different set of characteristics. It’s difficult raising children the same. In fact, it’s impossible. You just simply cannot do the same things for the middle of the youngest child, as you’ve done for your oldest child. That’s because, like them, you are growing too – you are growing as a parent.
 
So, if your child is exhibiting signs of oldest child syndrome, don’t be alarmed. Just help them use their quirks and strengths.
 
If you’re an adult still struggling with this, you can still embrace your behavior as your strengths. Adults, take a look at those signs above and ask yourself, “Do I have the oldest child syndrome?” And most importantly, be honest with yourself. Only then can you approach the issue in the right way.
 
So, which child were you? Myself, I am the youngest. I’d love to hear about your place in your familyand your wonderful stories.
 
References:
  1. https://www.everydayhealth.com
  2. https://www.huffpost.com

 
 

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publicado por achama às 04:23
Segunda-feira, 03 / 02 / 20

7 Signs Your Emotional Baggage Is Keeping You Stuck and How to Move On.

7 Signs Your Emotional Baggage Is Keeping You Stuck and How to Move On.

Sherrie Hurd.

learning-mind.com

Posted January 31st, 2020.

 
 


 
When you just cannot move forward in life, it could be that your unresolved emotional issues are weighing you down. So many of us carry emotional baggage from somewhere. It shows in the way we speak, our actions, and even our expressions.
 
We can try to push and cram all our emotional belongings into a suitcase in our minds, but sooner or later, that suitcase is going to burst open, spilling all our emotional garbage everywhere. This won’t be a pretty site either.
 
What is emotional baggage?
 
Simply put, it is trauma, heartache, loss, love, lost friendships, and all other sorts of things. They are things that our minds refuse to release. For some reason, we keep ruminating and mulling over these issues, never finding closure or healing.
 
The baggage we carry with our emotions can spill out so far that it can affect others around us too, adding to their own problems. It’s just a complete mess and something that’s best eliminated or controlled.
 
Indicators that you’re stuck with emotional baggage
 
1. Repeating unhealthy relationships
 
Whether it’s the fact that you’ve been divorced several times, or you’re having problems connecting with the right people. If you’re repeating bad marriages or relationships, then maybe you’re carrying your baggage from one relationship to the other.
 
Now, this doesn’t mean the other party doesn’t have the baggage of their own. Sometimes it can be two people hashing through unhealthy pasts. However, it’s a big indicator that your emotional baggage is not letting you move on if you’re continually dating or associating with the same types of people.
 
2. You’re not living your potential
 
When you carry baggage from place to place, you will become weighed down, tired and even hopeless. Emotions passed from one experience to the other can kill passions that you used to have inside.
 
For example, if you love to garden, cook, play the piano, or other fulfilling things, your emotional baggage will leave you with no interest in these things anymore. If you don’t feel like doing the things you used to love, then that’s a sign you’re carrying the past into the present, and you’re alsostuck in that pattern, maybe even stuck with someone that doesn’t make you happy.
 
3. Mental illness can be a sign
 
Not all mental disorders are genetic. Some of them come from years of being stuck in an unhealthy place. Maybe you’ve been in a marriage for 20 years, enduring unhappiness for the sake of your children. Oh, how this is such a wrong thing to do. Actions like this can develop depression, anxiety, and other acquired problems.
 
With 20 unhappy years under your belt, you have several backpacks full of stuff you need to unpack. And for goodness sake, never stay for the kids. If a relationship is ruining your mental health, get out.
 
4. You haven’t faced the past
 
Sometimes really bad things happen in the past to people. Sometimes adults are survivors of childhood abuse or neglect. Sometimes adults are survivors of war, automobile accidents, or other trauma.
 
I’ve noticed that the first thing people want to do is forget about what happened, and this is the opposite of what they should be doing. Emotional baggage grows and grows the more trauma you ignore and the longer you keep it buried. If you’re not facing the past, you are dragging huge trunks of emotional belongings.
 
5. Your past is spilling into your future
 
You can have an otherwise healthy relationship, but it can be quickly tainted by things from the past. While there are red flags telling you that something is wrong, there are also coincidences that make you over-react and drag out old emotional scars. Then you apply these scars to your present situation.
 
If you’re taking a perfectly healthy union and basing it on all your damaged or broken unions of the past, then you are carrying baggage filled with old emotional content. If you happen to have a good partner, this is not fair to them.
 
6. Your sleeping habits are atrocious
 
Are you having trouble sleeping? If so, maybe you’re having nightmares every night. And if you are, then maybe it’s because of unresolved conflicts and trauma.
 
I have many traumatic situations from my past that invade my dreams most every night. Sometimes I feel okay in the morning, but sometimes I feel as though I’ve been run over by a truck. Until I get all this stuff cleaned out, my nights will continue to be inconsistent. This could be what’s happening to you too.
 
7. Emotional outbursts
 
For the most part, staying calm is pretty easy, but if you are carrying emotional baggage, eventually,there will be an outburst of some kind. It’s like cramming things in that suitcase we were talking about and not expecting it to pop open eventually.
 
 
If you have unresolved issues, hence the baggage, sooner or later, there will be an outburst of some kind. You would start yelling at someone after holding in your feelings for too long, or you could even get into a fight. If you’ve had any outbursts lately, then check to see if you have a bit of baggage left unchecked.
How can we move on?
 
 
The whole point of all this is to understand how to move past our emotional baggage. We have to unpack each item and take a close look at it. Do you have some childhood abuse folded up in there, maybe a whole stack of it? Then unfold it, look at it, and talk to someone about what happened. Yes, get help, and soon.
 
Do you have unhealthy past relationships rolled into the corner of the suitcase trying to hide and be forgotten? Well, grab those and learn what went wrong. Say there were two bad relationships, look at one, and objectively remember where the fights, disagreements, and divisions started.
 
Learn how not to repeat the same patterns. Most of the time, where relationships are concerned, it’s wise to stay alone for a few years between. Unfortunately, I know way too many people who hop from one relationship to the next, looking for better. Most of the time, they get the same or worse because they haven’t unpacked their baggage yet.
 
If emotional baggage concerns family relations, you have to continue staying in touch with your family despite what may have happened in the past. That is unless your family is the source of some kind of abuse, in which that baggage now has to be forgiven. If it’s just about old disagreements, you have to face each other and find a compromise.
 
There are many ways to unpack those suitcases and backpacks, but if you don’t you will carry them with you forever. And, no matter how old you are, you don’t want to have these things still sitting by your bedside at the end of your life. No regrets remember.
 
 
I hope you unpack your baggage soon. I am working on mine.
 

 

Sherrie Hurd

 

 

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publicado por achama às 01:30
Terça-feira, 07 / 01 / 20

What Is the Meaning of a Baby in a Dream? 26 Different Scenarios

Janey Davies.

https://www.learning-mind.com

January 7th, 2020.

 
MEANING OF A BABY IN A DREAM.
 

 

Do you ever have a dream about a baby and wonder what it means? Whether you already have children, you want them or you are currently pregnant, most of us will experience the odd baby dream. But what is the meaning behind a baby in a dream?

 
What Babies Represent in Dreams and Real Life
 
Of course, as with all dreams, it’s about the context. In dreams, babies represent innocence and purity, but they can also symbolise immaturity and childishness.
 
A baby in real life is the epitome of our most basic and endearing love for another human being. However, babies also denote neediness. They demand our attention. Knowing which particular meaning your baby is suggesting in your dream isn’t easy. That’s why we’re here. To decipher each scenario and provide you with an answer.
 
There are many different scenarios in which you can encounter a baby in your dreams and each one will have a different meaning. So if you want to know what the baby in your dream means, read on.
 
26 Different Scenarios of a Baby in a Dream and the Meaning of Each
You are having a baby:
 
If you are not pregnant, this is a dream of new beginnings. You are starting a new phase in your life and feel as if it is a rebirth.
 
Baby boy:
 
This is an indication of masculine qualities, so think about the males in your life. Are there problems with a particular man at present? Consider how the male baby was acting. Was it being aggressive? Was it being playful? The significance is how the baby was acting and how you felt towards it.
 
Baby girl:
 
This represents feminine energy. Is there a powerful female in your life that is exerting control over you? If so, it is time to challenge that person. Naturally, the female baby can also represent you. If you are a woman, are you neglecting your feminine attributes? Or do you feel they are being suppressed for some reason?
 
Twin babies:
 
This is a very auspicious sign and is associated with great success. You will achieve promotions at work, climb the ladder at a faster pace than others (two steps at a time).
 
Lots of babies:
 
Lots of babies indicates a great exuberance for life. You have this enormous energy and lust for what you are doing right now. Your dream is telling you that you’re on the right path.
 
Mixed-race baby:
 
If the mixed-race baby was your own, you will succeed in your endeavours. To see a baby of a different race to your own indicates either great triumphs or great failures, there will be no in-between.
 
If you gave birth to a baby of a different race to your own, you will achieve successes beyond your wildest dreams. To have a white baby when you are of a different race means you will live an independent life.
 
Changing a baby’s nappy:
 
You need to take care of someone close to you. Perhaps someone is unwell and you can’t easily get to them.
 
Deceased baby:
 
Although terribly traumatic to dream about, the meaning of a dead baby is a symptom of stress in our real lives. So all it is suggesting is that we are already stressed and this is our subconscious letting us know that we are not coping well with it.
 
Happy baby:
 
This is an indication of all the good and pure things in you. You might have forgotten what a good person you are. It is time to remember.
 
Pretty baby:
 
 
Friends will help you through some tough times ahead. It is time to let them assist you. Don’t feel that you can or should go it alone. You don’t need to. You have all the support you need around you. All you need to do is to ask.
 
Ugly baby:
 
Watch out for treacherous behaviour close to you. There are friends or colleagues who don’t have your best interests at heart. You yourself don’t trust people. You don’t believe people are innocent or naïve.
 
Sick baby:
 
This is a warning of difficulties ahead in work or affairs of the heart. Be kind to yourself. Eat healthy food, get enough sleep, take time out to relax and do the things you enjoy. Try not to overwork. Make sure you spend quality time with loved ones. Put yourself first for a change.
 
Premature baby:
 
You’ll experience new and sudden problems without notice. You’ll need to be on your guard and to expect the unexpected at all times. Act on your gut instinct and listen to what it is telling you.
 
Walking baby:
 
You will suddenly experience great independence from your current situation. Be prepared to make great strides on your own; you are ready. This is the time to be brave and adventurous.
 
Crying baby:
 
You are lacking the attention you crave. This could be in a personal relationship or at work. Are you being taken for granted at home? Are your efforts at work being ignored?
 
Another meaning behind seeing a crying baby is that you are not realising your full potential. So the baby is pointing to you, reprimanding you for neglecting and not paying attention to your talents.
 
Evil baby:
 
If you saw a baby from The Omen in your dream, this represents the suppressed anger and dark side of your character you don’t want other people to see.
 
You might think that you need to keep this dark side of your psyche hidden, but it has a way of coming to the surface. If you work at resolving your inner feeling in a constructive way, you can be in control of how they come out.
 
Very tiny baby:
 
To dream about a very tiny baby means you are afraid of what the future holds for you.
 
Lost baby:
 
 
If you dreamt you lost your own baby, this is connected to your own fear as a new parent. You feel overwhelmed at the responsibility of becoming a new parent. If the baby lost was not your own, you are afraid of losing something very important in your life.
 
You forgot you had a baby:
 
This dream is an indication that you are trying very hard to hide your weaknesses from others. Or that you don’t want people close to you to know your deepest secrets.
 
Sleeping baby:
 
You are happy and contented in your real life. You have accomplished your goals and are in a good place, both at work and in your relationships.
 
Forgetting the baby:
 
If you forgot where you left your baby and it worried you, this signifies unhappiness with your career. You feel frustrated about an issue at work that doesn’t seem to be getting resolved.
 
Left the baby behind:
 
However, if you left the baby somewhere and you weren’t really that bothered, this indicates you have power over others. Or that you are trying to shift your responsibility onto someone else.
 
Falling baby:
 
The meaning of this baby dream is a warning to step away from conflict in your life. In the past, your reckless behaviour has led you into difficult situations.
 
Drowning baby:
 
This dream can be very distressing. In fact, the meaning behind is feeling overwhelmed at work. Ask for help before you become too ill to carry on.
 
You are holding a baby:
 
The meaning of this baby dream is clear; you miss a period of your life when you had no responsibilities. Perhaps your childhood or teenage years when you were looked after by your parents.
 
You are a baby:
 
This dream signifies a desire to return to an age of innocence where everything was easy and simple. Or a dream where you are a baby could mean you are suppressing a traumatic event that happened as a child.
 
Final Thoughts
 
Interpreting dreams about babies all depends on the situation and context of the dream. We hope we have covered the majority of these. Do you have an interesting dream about babies you’d like to share? We’d love to hear from you!

 
References:
  1. www.bustle.com
  2. www.webmd.com
 

 
Janey Davies

 





About the Author: Janey Davies.
Janey Davies has been published online for over 8 years. She is the head writer for Shoppersbase.com, she also writes for AvecAgnes.co.uk, Ewawigs.com and has contributed to inside3DP.com. She has an Honours Degree in Psychology and her passions include learning about the mind, popular science and politics. When she is relaxing she likes to walk her dog, read science fiction and listen to Muse.
 
 
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publicado por achama às 17:21
Terça-feira, 07 / 01 / 20

8 Toxic Mental Habits That Mess Up Your Life without You Even Knowing

Lauren Edwards-Fowle.

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Posted January 7th, 2020.

 


 
Mental habits are often established over time. Thus, you often don’t even know that you have these habits and how they can mess up your life without you realizing that.
 
Here are some of the key mental habits that harm your life – and what to do about them!
 
1. Listening to self-doubt
 
Your inner critic is not a nice person; they never are. Whilst we all experience self-doubt at times, allowing yourself to be constantly in a battle with your psyche is one of the worst habits for your mental health.
 
Giving airtime to your self-doubt reinforces those feelings and can make you second-guess and question yourself constantly. This saps your ability to progress, move forward and succeed. You can become locked in a circular battle of wills – with yourself.
 
To combat this, try making a list of things you like about yourself. Reinforce your appreciation of your skills, achievements, and successes. Every time you experience self-doubt, remind yourself of every reason you have to believe in yourself and use them to eliminate the self-doubt that is holding you back.
 
2. Seeking constant approval
 
Doing things for the approval of others is another one of the terrible habits we can fall foul of and can mess up your life and mental health significantly. Paying attention to what other people expect from you means side-lining your dreams and wishes. It often results in going down pathways which were never right for you.
 
Remember that you cannot control other people. The only thing you do have control over is yourself. By trying to gauge your actions based on being rewarded with approval is likely to make you second-guess your choices.
 
Even the words you choose can be affected by seeking constant approval! Try to remember that for all the time you are trying to cater to the expectations of people around you, you are forgetting your own. Be clear with yourself about what you want, and then pursue it for all you are worth.
 
3. Being dramatic
 
It is easy to exaggerate from time to time, particularly if you feel frustrated or excited about something! However, this mental habit can mean you lose the respect of your friends who are less likely to take you seriously when something big does happen.
 
Do people tend to roll their eyes when you start telling a story? You probably have one of these mental habits. If you tend to suffer from anxiety or stress when considering the future, you may be focusing on every worst possible scenario, rather then concentrating on the positives.
 
Try using positive mantras to pinpoint your focus on all the possible things that might go right, instead of being dramatic about all the things that could potentially go wrong.
 
The sky isn’t falling and, if you don’t keep expecting it to, it never will.
 
4. Worrying about things outside of your control
 
Worry is one of those mental habits that can be hard to break. Everybody will have genuine things to worry about from time to time, but allowing them to become the norm is a bad mental habit.
 
Suffering from anxiety and overthinking can mess up your life by having a constant negative affect. What other people think is not something you can control, and creating stress around something like this is bad for your mental health and relationships.
 
Try sharpening your attention on those things you can control; your actions, behavior and the language you use to talk with yourself. Once you have a firm grasp of those factors you can influence, the ones you cannot become less of an issue.
 
5. Feeling guilty
 
Another emotion that we all experience now and then, guilt can become a mental habit that is ingrained in your personality. Guilt does not change anything that has happened but allows negative problems and thoughts to weigh heavily on your mind.
 
If you have a good reason to feel guilty, try making amends and apologizing to those you have hurt. Once you have made all the reparations you can, it is time to move on.
6. Keeping score
 
A common and very dangerous one of the common mental habits in the modern age is keeping score. Often this stems from social media and a desire to perform, achieve, and appear to be ‘more’ than other people.
 
Numbers are not indicative of anything other than their size. They also do not grasp qualitative criteria that have no bearing on a score. Being happy is not something that can be reflected in a number, and nor is being at peace with yourself.
 
Let the numbers go – they are not all that important.
 
7. Making yourself responsible for others
 
Making yourself responsible for others is a mental habit that can cause a tide of negativity. When you take responsibility for things that other people do, you create a burden on your shoulders that you cannot influence, since these things are outside of your control.
 
Remember what you are responsible for, and take ownership of that instead.
 
8. Carrying a grudge
 
Forgiveness can be very hard, especially when someone has upset or hurt you. However, carrying a grudge causes you more damage than it does to the other person and does not allow you to move on from the situation.
 
You do not necessarily need to forget, but to forgive is a powerful tool as it allows you to mentally move away from whatever has happened. Forgive someone, even if it is difficult; your subconscious will thank you for it.
 
 
References:
  1. Lifehack.org
  2. Psychology Today

 
Lauren Edwards-Fowle
 
 
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Lauren Edwards-Fowle is a professional copywriter based in South East England. Lauren worked within Children's Services for five years before moving into the business sector. She holds an MSc in Applied Accountancy and BSc in Corporate Law. She now volunteers within the community sport sector, helping young people to live healthier, more productive lifestyles and overcome the barriers to inclusion that they face. With a keen interest in physical wellbeing, nutrition and sports, Lauren enjoys participating in a variety of team sports in her spare time, as well as spending time with her young family and their dog Scout.
 



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publicado por achama às 17:20
Quinta-feira, 02 / 01 / 20

5 Negative Thought Patterns and How to Challenge Them

By Valerie Soleil.

learning-mind.com.

Posted January 1st, 2020. 

 

 

 
They say that happiness is a state of mind – but what if your mind is your own worst enemy? Sometimes it can feel like our own brain is turning against us, assailing us with negative thought patterns that impede us from living a full and fulfilling life.
 
What Are Negative Thought Patterns?
 
These are thoughts and emotional reactions that feel almost automatic, as though your mind were drip-feeding your brain negative information. It can seem like you have no control over your own thoughts. Or like a leaky tap, which you can’t shut off, is continuously dripping negativity into your brain. This negativity that continually filters into your self-identity is hard to fight if you don’t have the right tools.
 
However, there are ways to train your mind out of these automatic negative thought patterns. Rebuilding your relationship with your own mind can empower you to own your worth and your power, helping you to manifest the life that you actually deserve.
 
But how? Below are five negative thought patterns, and the weapons you can arm yourself with to challenge them.
 
1. ‘I can’t’ or ‘I’m not good enough’
 
You always expect yourself to fail, whether it’s something new you’re trying or a task you’ve accomplished time and time again. As soon as you intend to start something, from an academic assignment to a new sport or a new project, your thought pattern tap drips into your brain.
 
It reminds you that you are useless, incompetent and generally incapable. Any motivation you once had is a thing of the past. You begin to feel deflated and unable to face the task.
 
This negative thought pattern is also connected with Imposter Syndrome, wherein you believe you’re incapable of performing the job others think you’re good at.
 
Challenge:
 
Fix this leak by reminding yourself of everything you HAVE accomplished. Grab a piece of paper and divide it into three sections. They each represent three phases of your life up to this point; you can label them as you wish.
 
In each section, list ALL of the things you accomplished during that phase in your life. Anything from cooking your first meal, doing well in school or sports, finishing a book, overcoming hardship, being a good friend, getting a job, decorating your room or house, picking up a new skill.
 
Next, condense this list into a new list of those things which made you feel most accomplished.
 
 
When this negative thought pattern comes back to haunt you, challenge it by re-reading both of these lists and re-living the feeling of accomplishment that accompanied each activity. This engages the rational part of your brain, presenting evidence that undermines your automatic thoughts.
 
Extra: keep a daily or weekly Accomplishment Journal in which you write a list of your accomplishments.
 
2. ‘Something terrible is going to happen’ or ‘Nothing good ever happens to me’ (Catastrophic Thinking)
 
You’re continually convinced something awful is going to happen to you, and that only terrible events take place in your life. It’s one of those negative thought patterns that are a tough nut to crack because, in many ways, it’s self-reinforcing. The more you let it control you, the more blinkered your perspective on life becomes.
 
You eventually notice, focus on and remember only the negative things that happen to you. You’ll obsess over all the instances when someone let you down; you had problems at work, didn’t succeed or failed to meet your goals. Even the small things like choosing the longest line at checkout or getting stopped at all the traffic lights will add to this negative picture of your life.
 
Your mind will gloss over, ignore and forget all the positive things. The times when there wasn’t a queue, when you hit all the green lights, when your hopes and expectations were exceeded, someone showed up for you, or you succeeded and met your goals.
Challenge:
 
Plug this leak by writing two lists. One list of everything in your life you are grateful for, that was entirely out of your control. That time the weather was perfect on your day off, or when you took a wrong turn and ended up somewhere beautiful, or a chance meeting that led to something wonderful.
 
Write another list of everything you are grateful for that was under your control (graduating, fitness, travelling, making connections).
 
 
Whenever this negative thought pattern overwhelms you with pessimism about your life, re-read your lists of gratitude. Remind yourself of everything you have been given, and everything you have provided for yourself. Using this evidence, challenge the notion that only bad things happen with concrete proof of every time something beautiful happened!
 
Extra: keep a daily or weekly Gratitude Journal in which you record all the good that is happening around you.
 
3. ‘I’m a burden on my loved ones’ and ‘No one actually loves me’
 
You feel that everyone in your life merely puts up with you. You have nothing to offer them – in fact, you’re probably burdensome and irritating to them. They hang out with you because they pity you, not because they actually like or love you.
 
This negative thought pattern can extend from colleagues and acquaintances to friends and family, Generally, it drips in whenever you feel a surge of affection for someone or feel very alone. It convinces you that you are unlovable and that others would be better off without you.
 
Challenge:
 
Sort out this leaky tap by writing three lists. One list of times people have been grateful to you, a list of what others have done for you, and compliments or good wishes you’ve received. It might take some digging, as your mind will resist the notion that any of the above actually happens. Sit through the struggle and write down anything you think of before your ego jumps in. Once you’ve written something down, don’t erase it!
 
Every time this negative thought pattern jumps the queue, challenge it by looking at this list and reminding yourself that you do bring positivity to the lives of those around you. The fact that they care about you is translated into gratefulness, actions on your behalf and positive sentiments regarding you.
 
This negative way of thinking prevents you from fully receiving the love, and gratitude others offer you. By challenging this negative thought pattern with evidence of the esteem and love that others have for you, you show yourself the truth: you are loved and valued.
 
 
Extra: keep a daily or weekly Receiving Journal in which you list all the gratefulness, compliments, positive sentiments and acts of service others offer you.
 
4. ‘The world wants to hurt me’ and ‘It’s not safe for me out there’
 
We are biologically programmed to pay close attention to the negative parts of our life since our survival is dependant on our emotional and physical wellbeing. However, a mind in the constant grip of fear detects threats quickly and everywhere, without necessarily differentiating between real or imaginary threats.
 
A speciality of the human brain is also to think in terms of emotional risks and emotional safety. While we may not be imminently eaten or killed, our brain perceives that certain people or circumstances are emotionally unsafe.
 
Those of us who struggle with anxiety have a mind that has become hardwired to recognise physical and emotional perils everywhere, which trigger a fight or flight response. This generally leads to feelings of victimisation and a desire to isolate ourselves from this unsafe world to avoid its many threats.
Challenge:
 
This negative thought pattern requires a two-fold response. Physically, we need to turn off the fight-or-flight response by re-centring our breathing. Make sure you’re breathing through your stomach, not your chest, and spend 2-5 minutes inhaling and exhaling deeply.
 
Using mindfulness, you can also centre your mind so it’s not panicking wildly about future threats. Still focussing on your breathing, list five things you can see, four things you can hear, three things you can smell and two things you can feel.
 
 
Emotionally, we need to to show our mind the evidence that the perceived threat is imaginary or not as significant is it thinks. The first step is to identify the source of our fear: what is making me feel unsafe?
 
Secondly, we can dismantle it, as objectively and compassionately as possible, to reveal the truth: it’s nothing more than we can handle. Write a list of every time you have previously faced this threat or something similar. This will challenge your mind to rationalise its reaction to the perceived menace.
 
If you are regularly overcome with a generalised fear of everything, the essential step is mindful breathing. Recall your mind to the present situation in which you are safe. Once your body is under your control, it’s easier to re-negotiate a positive thought loop with your mind.
 
5. ‘I don’t deserve anything (good)’ and ‘I’m ugly on the inside’
 
This is another tough one. Whenever something good happens to you, be it a promotion, winning a competition or requited love, your leaky thought pattern tap kicks off again. It persuades you that the good things coming your way are more than you deserve and if the world truly knew you, it would give you nothing.
 
Patterns like this one are the pillars of the negative thought process cycle. It robs you of your very right to own your worth, power and talent and receive the love that comes your way. It’s also linked to Imposter Syndrome, in that it convinces you that you are underserving of your place in the world. Everything good that comes your way must be based on an illusion.
Challenge:
 
Whenever this negative thought pattern drips in, write down what it is you are undeserving of. Then, force yourself to write down at least three reasons why you DO deserve it. This might feel forced, dishonest and borderline arrogant.
 
 
However, if you can write down at least three and then read them out loud to yourself until they feel natural, the whole process will become more comfortable. You’ll eventually come to believe yourself when you tell yourself why you deserve good things.
 
 
References:
  1. Dr. Mathieson, A., Clinical Psychologist, personal conversation
  2. Stanny, B., Sacred Success: A Course in Financial Miracles (2014)
  3. https://psychcentral.com


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Valerie Soleil is a writer with over 5 years of experience and holds a bachelor degree in law and a B.A. in Psychology. She is a physical & mental health enthusiast who constantly expands her knowledge about the mysteries of the human body and mind. Some of the activities Valerie is particularly passionate about are traveling and reading because they help her broaden her horizons.
 
 
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Maximizers and Satisficers: Which One Are You and What Does It Mean?

Lottie Miles.

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Posted December 23rd, 2019.

 
Maximizers and Satisficers.

 


Decision making is an unavoidable feature of our lives. However, researchers have found that some of us are better at it than others. Psychologists have grouped people into two distinctive categories: maximizers and satisficers.

In this post, we look at the meaning behind the terms ‘maximizer’ and ‘satisficer’. And help you to explore which term best describes your approach to decision making.

What does the concept mean?

To put it simply, maximizers are individuals who are constantly striving to make the best decision that derives the maximum benefit. Whereas satisficers spend less time over a decision and are content with an option that is ‘good enough’.

Maximizers vs. Satisficers: Which one are you?
Let’s take a look at these categories in more detail and go through some examples to help you to determine which camp you fit into.
Maximizers

Imagine the scenario, you need to buy a new car and believe you have found the perfect model in your local garage. However, despite this, you know there are several other garages to visit in the area. You, therefore, decide to visit all of these before making your decision. Sound familiar? A maximizer finds it difficult to commit to a decision until they have explored all of the other available options first.

Maximizers are most likely to experience ‘FOBO’ the term coined by US venture capitalist Patrick McGinnis. FOBO stands for the ‘fear of better options’, a feeling which maximizers are all too familiar with. When faced with many options in front of them, a maximizer will deliberate over the selection and often experience a feeling of remorse after making a decision.

Maximizers are prone to regretting their decisions and contemplate what could have been rather than being satisfied with their choice.
Satisficers

Satisficers have a lot easier time making decisions than maximizers. They have a clear set of criteria beforehand and make a decision based on this. Referring back to the example above, a satisficer would have purchased the first car that met their criteria. They would not have felt the need to look around the other garages.

The US Nobel Prize-winning economist Herbert A. Simon came up with the concept of ‘satisficers’ in 1956. He created the term by combining the words ‘satisfying’ and ‘sufficing’. Simon explainedthat humans need only ‘very simple perceptual and choice mechanisms to satisfy [their] several needs’ and in first considering what they seek to achieve from a certain choice, it is easier to reach a satisfying decision.

Satisficers, therefore, approach a decision with an awareness of their needs and requirements. In doing so, they can select an option that suits and satisfies them.

How can your decision-making ability impact your life?
So, does being a maximizer or a satisficer impact on your overall life experiences and satisfaction? Unsurprisingly, the way you approach decisions can significantly impact how you feel about them.

This concept has been explored by numerous researchers. They have used the maximizers versus satisficers theory to explore how such a state determines an individual’s life satisfaction and attainment.

Bruine de Bruin et al (2007), for example, explored the connection between socioeconomic status, cognitive ability, and decision-making style. The research found that those with a stronger impulse to maximize on their decisions actually obtained worse life outcomes.

A satisficer’s ability to enjoy their decision also comes from the fact that it is based on their own criteria and needs. Whereas, as Starry Peng (2013) points out, maximizers are more likely to base their choice on external choices such as social status, reputation or reviews. The preoccupation with selecting the ‘best’ possible choice, therefore, can often mean that maximizers fail to consider their own needs and desires.

Constantly deliberating over the available options doesn’t necessarily mean that you are satisfied with your overall choice. Yang and Chiou (2010), looked into the decision making processes of those looking at online dating sites. Their study found that the availability of more search options lead to worse choices as it reduced an individual’s cognitive resources, making it harder for them to ignore irrelevant information and screen out unsuitable options.

Embracing what is ‘good enough’
Of course, there is the possibility that individuals can show characteristics of both maximizers and satisficers. Some people love to trawl the internet, investigating the pros and cons of a certain product and feel satisfied that they have chosen the best, fully researched option. The situation isn’t clear cut. However, according to psychologist Barry Schwartz, we have a lot to gain from taking the satisficers’ approach to life.

Schwartz recognizes that freedom of choice can bring autonomy and liberation to people. However, when we’re faced with too much choice, this can lead to reduced happiness and increased anxiety.


In Schwartz’s research, he increasingly found that when faced with an exhaustive amount of options, individuals question their decisions and blame themselves if the option they chose isn’t perfection. Referring to this concept as ‘The Paradox of Choice’, Schwartz encourages us to settle for what is ‘good enough’ rather than always striving for the perfect option.

The terms ‘maximizers’ and ‘satisficers’ help us to gain insight into our own decision-making processes. In a world where choices can seem endless, recognizing that many decisions we make are ‘good enough’ can go a long way in reducing anxiety and increasing our overall life satisfaction.
 
 

 

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Lottie Miles is a professional researcher and writer with a passion for human rights. She has 4 years of experience working within the NGO sector and has a Masters Degree in Social Policy. She has a keen interest in exploring ways in which happiness habits can help to improve mental health and wellbeing. In her spare time, she likes doing crossword puzzles, painting and traveling.
 
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Quinta-feira, 19 / 12 / 19

What Do Dreams about Spiders Mean? 9 Possible Interpretations

Janey Davies.

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December 17th, 2019.

 
DREAMS ABOUT SPIDERS.
 
 
 
Many of us suffer from arachnophobia, a fear of spiders, but what does it mean if you dream about them? Is it a sign you should be fearful in real life? Or could there be other possible explanations? Actually, dreams about spiders have several different meanings. In fact, there are some you might be quite surprised about.
 
Dreams about Spiders and What They Represent
 
Spiders represent many different qualities and ideals. Due to their industrious nature, they are associated with creativity. They are frightening and devious. In addition, they are also patient and some people even relate them to good fortune.
 
Here Are Nine Meanings behind Spider Dreams:
 
Powerful Feminine Force
 
We all know about the deadly black widow spider that eats the male after mating. In fact, spiders are a symbol of a strong feminine force. Spiders are associated with feminine traits of:
  • Patience
  • Receptivity
  • Creativity
 
The spider represents a powerful female in your life. That female could be you or someone in your family or circle of friends.
 
It is how you react to the spider that is particularly interesting. For example, if the spider terrified you that could be a sign that you are repressing your feminine side. Or that you feel threatened by a powerful female in your midst.
 
If the spider didn’t bother you, or you were not bothered by the spider, this indicates a positive increase in feminine energy around you.
 
Patience
 
Spiders weave webs and then lie in wait for their prey to stumble into them. Spiders take lots of time and care to create intricate webs to catch their prey. Therefore, a dream about spiders could suggest that you need to be more patient with a particular situation in your life.
 
Feeling trapped
 
Spider’s webs are designed and made to catch prey. As such, your dream about spiders could be your subconscious telling you that you feel trapped. Are there any situations in your life that you feel like you want to escape? Are family or work pressures getting to you? Talk to someone and share your fears.
 
Manipulation
 
However, a spider’s web is also associated with lying and manipulation.
 
 
“O, what a tangled web we weave when first we practise to deceive!” Walter Scott
 
Therefore, watching a spider spin its web can suggest two things. First, that you are being manipulated or that you’re the one doing the manipulating. You should take a careful look at your life. Second, is someone trying to fool you or trick you? Or, are you trying to get one over on someone in your life?
 
Fearful Anxieties
 
Of course, for most people, the thought of a big, fat hairy spider is enough to scare them. There really isn’t any other animal, insect or creature that causes such a universal fear in us. So a spider that appears in a dream could be a sign of hidden anxieties. This is especially true if the spider was hanging over you, dangling in your way. This type of dream indicates someone you are trying to avoid but can’t get away from.
 
Furthermore, a spider dream can also be your subconscious asking you to dig deep and find the cause of your real fear in real life. If the spider was crawling on you, then the spider is definitely a negative force. The spider represents negative things in your life that you are trying to rid yourself from. These can be people, habits or addictions.
 
Prosperity
 
I have to add another – however. This is because a dangling spider is also a symbol of good luck and fortune. The tiny little spiders we use to twirl around our heads three times are even called ‘money spiders’.
 
Consequently, a dream about spiders, in general, can be a good sign. In fact, if you look up spiders in dream dictionaries, you’ll quite often see that they are a good omen.
 
Creativity
 
The beautiful and intricate webs I talked about earlier are wonderful, natural creations. It takes great skill and endeavours to produce these marvels of nature. Therefore, a spider in your dream doesn’t have to be a negative or frightening sign. Actually, it could point to a period of intense creativity in your life.
 
To understand how this sign of creativity relates to your life, examine closely the structure of the web itself. For instance, is it strong with lots of detail? Is it big and impressive or a bit sad-looking? Will it stand up to the forces of nature? Or, is it wispy and fragile? Does it look weak and unable to support itself?
 
These details will give you clues about how you feel about your creative endeavour. And, more importantly, whether you need to make an extra effort if you want to fulfil your dreams.
 
Betrayal
 
There are certain scenarios within dreams about spiders that you should be wary of. For example, if the spider bit you, or it was poisonous and attacking you. These are signs of a major betrayal in your life. Also, spider bites also indicate a bad relationship that you need to act on quickly. Or it could be a sign there is a toxic person (usually female) in your life.
 
Progress
 
Spiders are hardworking. They toil for hours to make the webs to catch their food. As a result, if you saw a spider climbing in your dream it is a sign you are moving in the right direction. Your dreams about spiders are showing you that you’re making good progress with your endeavours.
Final thoughts
 
Spiders are scary in real life. But we can see that this doesn’t necessarily mean that you should be scared if your dream featured spiders. Examine the context of your dream and you’ll find the true meaning.
 
References:

  1. www.bustle.com
  2. www.elitedaily.com
  3. www.huffingtonpost.co.uk
 

 
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Terça-feira, 03 / 12 / 19

Why Do Some Drunk People Show a Personality Change, According to Science?

Lottie Miles.

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Posted December 1st, 2019.

 
drunk people personality change.

 


 
The morning after the night before a session of heavy drinking can leave you with not just a sore head but the paranoia of how you behaved under the influence of one too many cocktails. However, research is increasingly pointing towards the conclusion that, for many of us, alcohol does not hugely transform our personality. Despite this, some drunk people do undergo a personality change when drinking alcohol.
 
So, why do some drunk people show a personality change and others don’t? Let’s take a look at what the research says.
 
How does alcohol affect our personality?
 
It is a common idea that alcohol transforms us into different people and has a profound effect on our personality. It can certainly feel this way when under the influence, you may feel more free with your opinions, more extroverted and even more likely to take risks.
 
However, what happens when our drunk behavior is observed and compared to our sober selves? This is what researchers from the University of Missouri did and the results were fascinating.
 
The study had 156 participants, half of which were given alcohol in a laboratory setting and were observed by trained researchers who measured the effect alcohol had on them using three personality measures.
 
Prior to this observation, participants were asked to complete self-reports of their normal sober behavior and how they think this changes when drunk. They were also asked to rate how they thought their personality had changed after consuming alcohol during the experiment.
 
The results found that the participants’ perception of their personality change when drunk was much more pervasive than the sober observers’ perception of any alcohol-induced changes to personality traits. The only real personality change noted out of the personality factors observed was a higher degree of extraversion after drinking alcohol.
 
The researchers do point out, however, that the clinical laboratory setting needs to be acknowledged as an inhibiting factor in the research and that there is a need for further exploration in this area in a more natural environment.
 
4 types of drunk personality that show how different people are more susceptible to a personality change
 
Prior to this study, previous research by the University of Missouri distinguished 4 different drunk personality types and highlighted that some people are more susceptible to a personality change under the influence of alcohol. This study looked at the perceptions of 187 undergraduate students and their opinion of their own drunk personality.
 
The drunk personality types they unearthed were:
 
1. The Ernest Hemingway
 
This is the most common drunk personality type (42% of participants) and is named after the famous writer Ernest Hemingway who was known for being able to drink everyone else under the table.
 
The Ernest Hemingway’s amongst us are capable of drinking without it having a huge impact on our behavior or personality. The only changes noted by this group were greater difficulties in organizing and a slight effect on their ability to understand intellectual concepts and abstract ideas. This is the group least likely to experience a problematic relationship with alcohol.
 
2. The Mr. Hyde
 
The second most common drunk type in the study was the ‘Mr. Hyde’ (23% of participants). As the name suggests, the drunk personality type of Mr. Hyde relates to the evil alter ego of Dr. Jeckyll (from the famous book by Robert Louis Stevenson) and corresponds with a marked change in behavior when drunk with individuals exhibiting disagreeable behavior.
 
This group was the most likely to experience negative consequences when drinking alcohol and had a higher risk of addiction.
 
3. The Nutty Professor
 
The third most common drunk personality was termed ‘The Nutty Professor’ by the researchers and is based on Eddy Murphy’s character in the film of the same name. This relates to people who undergo a complete transformation after drinking alcohol.
 
This is someone who is usually shy and retiring yet tuns into the life and soul of the party after a few glasses of Chardonnay. This accounted for 20% of the participants and wasn’t linked with any problematic alcohol usage.
 
4. The Mary Poppins
 
The rarest drunk personality type amongst participants (15%) was referred to by the researchers as ‘The Mary Poppins’. This relates to those who are not only sweet and friendly when sober but maintain this manner after drinking alcohol.
 
Relating to the temperament of the world’s greatest nanny, Mary Poppins, this group were the most responsible drinkers and did not experience any negative effects from drinking alcohol.
 
Research into the effects of alcohol on our personalities highlights some interesting discrepancies between how we think we appear when drunk, and how others actually perceive our drunk behavior. Interestingly, despite popular belief in the transformative effects of alcohol, the research suggests that our personalities are not as influenced by this substance as we might think.
 
However, the fact remains that some drunk people are more affected than others by a few too many drinks and everyone has one friend who perhaps turns into the worst or best version of themselves when under the influence.
 
There is a need for further research in this area, especially in a more natural setting to a scientific laboratory in order to truly see the impact of alcohol on personality types.
 

References:
  1. https://psychcentral.com
  2. https://www.psychologicalscience.org
  3. https://qz.com
 

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Segunda-feira, 02 / 12 / 19

What Do Dreams about Sharks Mean? Scenarios and Interpretations

Janey Davies.

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December 1st, 2019.

 
DREAMS ABOUT SHARKS.
 
 
 
Sharks. Denizens of the deep. Fearsome predators. Sharks have a negative association in real life. Just two bars of music from Jaws conjures up the image of that terrifying mouth of razor-sharp teeth rising from the ocean. So what do dreams about sharks mean?
 
Does the presence of a shark in your dream indicate a threat in real life? Is it, therefore, a warning to be careful? But we often swim with sharks so it is a signal to be more daring? Let’s first look at what sharks in dreams represent. Then we can interpret various scenarios.
 
Dreams about Sharks
 
What Emotions Do Sharks Represent?
 
Sharks are associated with several emotions:
  • Fear
  • Coldness
  • Ruthlessness
  • Fear
 
The obvious emotion is fear. Sharks are predators. They are at the top of the food chain. Sharks are masters of the kill. As such, there is nothing that can kill a shark. The thing about a dream with sharks is that they feel so frightening. When we think about sharks in real life we picture that ominous black tail fin, gliding through the sea. It is waiting for the opportune moment to strike.
 
Likewise, we think of those distinctive rows of pointed teeth, sticking out from a yawning mouth. So dreams about sharks are nearly always associated with fear or the threat of something.
 
Coldness
 
Sharks are also known for being cold. Those cold, blank, dead eyes are emotionless. Even during a bloody feeding frenzy. They remain impassive and detached. Sharks are a bit like the Terminator. You cannot reason with them. And they absolutely will not stop, until you are dead.
 
Ruthlessness
 
Like the Terminator analogy, sharks are savage, ruthless killers. They will pursue their prey for miles to get a kill. Or they will wait patiently for the opportune moment. But whatever happens, they’ll never give up.
 
Now we have a basic understanding about dreams with sharks, let’s get down to the nitty-gritty of what they actually mean.
 
Animals in dreams have particular importance. As a result, we need to examine them carefully. Sometimes the animal represents you, the dreamer. Other times it can be a symbol of family or friends. The type of animal is obviously, very important.
 
Sharks as People in Your Lives
 
The Shark Represents You
 
 
 
Water, particularly underwater, is associated with our subconscious. Therefore, it stands to reason that dreams about fish or creatures, such as sharks, that live underwater also relate to deeply-entrenched thoughts and emotions.
 
However, dreaming about a shark doesn’t necessarily mean you are a cold, ruthless person. In actual fact, it could signify that you have unresolved issues or fears that you’ve pushed down. Consequently, these are now resurfacing and need dealing with.
 
In contrast, consider the scenario where people swim with sharks as a personal challenge. Your subconscious mind is connecting the shark with something you are afraid of and asking you to face it.
 
As sharks have a pretty negative association, a dream about one could also indicate a negative part of your identity. None of us likes to admit we may have character flaws. Therefore, it’s likely that we’ve either buried them or haven’t acknowledged them. Your dream is prodding you. It’s saying that you need to recognise that you are not perfect.
 
For instance, you might have anger issues, a bad temper, or act in a coercive-controlling way with a partner. Either way, the shark in your dream is all about getting you to be more enlightened about yourself.
 
The Shark Is Someone in Your Life
 
Negativity is the game here. So what are the major characteristics of the shark? Well, we know they exact fear, they are cold and ruthless. But there’s another aspect in dreams about sharks, and that’s greed.
 
Sharks symbolise greed. They are gluttonous creatures with an insatiable appetite. Dreaming about sharks is a signal that you feel drained by someone close to you. This draining feeling can either be in an emotional or financial way. But whichever way it is, the person who is represented by the shark in your dream is after something that you have. Furthermore, they don’t care who it upsets or affects.
 
Dream Scenarios about Sharks
 
 
You saw a shark: This is a symbol of your own ruthlessness, greed and cold-blooded nature in real life.
 
You saw a shark fin: A fin of a shark is a warning in a dream as it is in real life. Be careful, there are difficult times ahead.
 
The shark was in a pool or aquarium: You have strong sexual desires that are not being fulfilled right now. Time to accept who you are.
 
You were a shark: You have the qualities of a shark, i.e. you are ruthless and tend to get what you want. This dream is suggesting that you could be more sensitive.
 
You came across a dead shark: You’ll overcome any enemies and outwit those who try to deceive you.
 
You killed a shark: It is time to end a bad relationship. You have the control.
 
You caught a shark: Face up to a difficult problem quickly and you will overcome it.
 
A shark attacked you: This is not a good omen, it signifies an accident-prone period or a time of ill-health.
 
The shark bit your leg off: You should think very carefully before making major decisions.
 
The shark bit off your hand or arm: Be watchful of your colleagues, they may not have your best interests at heart.
 
The shark swallowed your whole body: You feel powerless in real life. You need to think laterally to solve the problems.
 
You fought the shark and survived: You will need to fight in real life but you will succeed.
 
You ate a shark: You have a lot of negative emotions and aggression inside. Time to get help so you can release them in a healthy manner.
 
Final Thoughts
 
Dreams about sharks can feel terrifying at the time. But they can also reveal a huge amount of information. So, take your time, think about the dream and use it to move forward in your life.
 
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Sexta-feira, 29 / 11 / 19

Why Is Intrapersonal Intelligence Important and How to Develop It?

Becky Storey.

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November 28th, 2019.

 


 
 
In the 1980s, a brand-new theory on intelligence emerged. Developed by Howard Gardner, this theory suggested that there is more than just the one version of intelligence. Instead of the typical IQ test, based on logic and numbers, there are several ways in which a person could be intelligent. These new types of intelligence include linguistic, spatial, musical, inter and intrapersonal.
 
Psychologists had developed this new theory, known as the Multiple Intelligence Theory, based on the idea that being intelligent shouldn’t be limited to a person’s ability to do math or science alone. A person could be incredibly intelligent in all kinds of ways.
 
What Is Intrapersonal Intelligence?
 
A person with intrapersonal intelligence is skilled at looking inwards and understanding themselves. They tend to be more aware of their own feelings, their triggers, and solutions than others are.
 
If you are able to analyze your own behavior and thoughts and understand why it is that you feel certain ways, you could be intrapersonally intelligent. A person who has intrapersonal intelligence is usually easily self-motivated and doesn’t require inspiration from the external world to be productive.
 
If you enjoy being alone, you might have intrapersonal intelligence. Instead of fearing being alone with their thoughts, someone with this intelligence would thrive because they are comfortable with their own being. Being able to understand what has caused your feelings or impulse reactions is a highly intelligent skill to have.
 
Why Is Intrapersonal Intelligence Important?
 
This type of intelligence is essential to living at peacewith yourself. If you’re constantly jumping through emotions, reacting with no idea why and feeling totally unaware of your true self, you’re probably not at peace. “Blissfully unaware” only applies if you’re so detached from yourself that you don’t feel much at all.
 
To be truly content, you’ll need to develop your intrapersonal intelligence.
 
Self-Motivation
 
Some of the most fundamental life skills are self-motivation and self-discipline. These things come naturally to people who are intrapersonally intelligent.
 
We all know the struggle that is forcing yourself to sit down and get some work done, but those with this type of intelligence find it much easier. They don’t rely on external forces, deadlines or pressure to get things done. They are able to connect with themselves enough to create motivation to get started and discipline to get finished.
 
Without intrapersonal intelligence, you’re likely to coast along hoping the work just goes away because you lack the drive to succeed for your own satisfaction.
 
Self-Esteem
 
Intrapersonal intelligence also includes having better self-esteem than most. Not over-confidence, but a stable self-belief and comfort within one’s self. When you know yourself as a friend would, you learn to appreciate your flaws and are better adapted to working on them.
 
Self-awareness and being self-assured will help you to navigate life’s difficulties much easier too. If you aren’t in touch with your inner thoughts, then you’re far more likely to fly off the handle at minor inconveniences and major disruptions alike. A person with intrapersonal intelligence is likely to reflect rather than react when life comes bumpy.
 
When people with this skill become angered or upset, they will have the ability to control their reactions and think rather than lash out. They will be better able to keep themselves calm during trying times because of an awareness of their own needs. If they need to leave, they will. If they need to communicate, they’ll do it with a cool head and be more successful in getting what they want.
 
Brilliant minds like Albert Einstein and Virginia Woolf are known to have been intrapersonally intelligent. By being mindful of their own thoughts and calm in the face of difficulties, they were able to achieve incredible goals.
 
How to Develop Intrapersonal Intelligence?
 
If you aren’t the type to have natural intrapersonal intelligence, you can still develop it yourself. It’s a skill that can be learned to help improve your life and mental wellbeing. There are all kinds of ways to practice getting in touch with your inner self.
Writing
 
The most often recommended way to practice your intrapersonal intelligence is to keep a journal. Writing allows you to talk to yourself in a way you might struggle to do in your own mind. When you have feelings, good or bad, try writing about them in your own private notebook.
 
You could even write as if you were having a conversation with a friend. Tell them about how you feel and consider all the possible causes, it’s highly likely that you’ll start to unfold your own mind.
 
After a while of practicing writing in a healthy voice, you might find that it becomes your own inner voice too. Ultimately, this is the most key part of intrapersonal intelligence to develop. It’ll allow you to access parts of your mind that you usually leave to your subconscious and stay more in control.
 
Meditation
 
You can also try meditation or meditative activities such as yoga, walking or running. These things are all encouraged to help you clear your mind of the clutter and access your real feelings.
 
They allow you to develop intrapersonal intelligence by quieting the noise and letting you slow down. Slowing down your thoughts prevents you from reacting too quickly and promotes your connection with your true needs.
 
Through meditative activities, we can learn more about ourselves and let go of the nonsensewe’ve been carrying. Consider these quiet times as an opportunity to chat with yourself. Like getting to know a new person, you would need a peaceful place to be in the present and share. When you let your mind be peaceful, your conscious voice can chat with your inner needs.
 
Disconnect
 
If you want to get to know yourself, remove influences from the outside world. Our phones, tv screens, computers, they all fill our minds. Instead of avoiding silence by staying constantly connected, try switching off. When you’re left in the quiet, you’ll find it much easier to reconnect to yourself and listen to your own thoughts.
 
Being intrapersonally intelligent allows a person to think clearer and more independently. It promotes inner wisdom and better management of your emotions. No more spontaneous tears or easily triggered anger. Disconnect from the world and the noise around you and you’ll find it easier to set goals and achieve them.
 
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Becky Storey is a professional writer who has been passionate about the way we think and the human mind since she developed chronic anxiety many years ago. Now she loves to write and educate people on mental health and wellbeing. When Becky is not writing, you’ll find her outside with her Labrador, sitting behind a jigsaw puzzle, or baking something with too much sugar.
 
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Quarta-feira, 20 / 11 / 19

12 Types of ‘Philes’ and What They Love: Which One Do You Relate to?

Lottie Miles.

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Posted November 19th, 2019.

 
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Have you ever wondered if there is a name for something that you love? Well, it turns out there probably is. The word ‘phile’ is a person who has a love or obsession with a particular thing and comes from the ancient Greek word for love ‘phileein’. Moreover, you may be surprised to know that there are many types of ‘philes’, with each of them having a different meaning.
 
There are hundreds of different types of ‘philes’ so here we list some of our favorites, ranging from the familiar to the downright obscure!
 
Retrophile
 
As the name suggests, this is the name for lovers of all things retro. A retrophile is someone who has a passion for old artifacts. You may find that their home contains a host of aesthetics from times gone by such as furniture, wallpaper, and objects that have some history behind them.
 
Bibliophile
 
A category of ‘phile’ that many of us may relate to is a bibliophile. As the name suggests, this type of ‘phile’ relates to a lover of books. If your bookshelf is overflowing, you gain immense pleasure from the smell of a page and have firmly rejected a Kindle it is highly likely that you fall into the category of a bibliophile.
 
 
Oenophile
 
Oinos is the Greek word for wine. So an oenophile is a lover of wine. This doesn’t mean someone who is partial to a large glass of Chardonnay on a Friday night, this is a disciplined devotee. They are interested in the manufacture of their favorite liquid and usually have a collection of wines from their preferred regions stored in the cellar.
 
Pogonophile
 
Do you find yourself drawn to a beard? Perhaps you’re a proud owner of a perfectly groomed beard or you find yourself frequently attracted to a man with a furry chin. If this sounds familiar, then the ‘phile’ that describes you is a pogonophile. That’s right, there is even a term for a lover of beards.
 
Turophile
 
When your knees go weak at the sight of a Camembert, then you know that your relationship with cheese has gone from steady to a full-blown love affair. A lover of cheese is known as a turophile, coming from the Ancient Greek ‘turos’ for cheese. If you’re craving a fondue more than once a week, then we reckon you can call yourself a turophile.
 
Cynophile
 
This is certainly one of those types of ‘philes’ that many of us can associate with. A cynophile is a word to describe someone that loves all things canine. In other words, they’re a dog lover. Cynophiles come in different categories with the most extreme kind being those that participate in dog shows and may be the proud owners of a prize-winning pooch.
 
Pluviophile
 
When the heavens open do you find yourself reaching for your wellington boots while everyone else takes shelter from the storm? Then in all likelihood, you are a pluviophile.
 
A pluviophile is a lover of rain and the term is derived from the word ‘pluvial’, the Latin word for rain. A lover of rain does not just find enjoyment in the physical presence of rain, they also find joy and peace when a rainy day descends.
 
 
 
Peristerophile
 
Now, this is a strange one. Have you ever met anyone who loves pigeons? Well, believe it or not, they exist and there is even a word to describe them: peristerophile. A peristerophile may keep racer pigeons or simply find themselves smiling when they see this often neglected bird.
 
Heliophile
 
This is likely to ring true for many of us. A heliophile is a lover of the sun. A sun lover makes the most of the sunshine no matter what the temperature and you are likely to find them basking in the vitamin D soaked rays even on a cold winters day.
 
Caeruleaphile
 
We’re sure that you can’t guess this one. A caeruleaphile is a person who can’t get enough of the color blue. Perhaps you’re a painter that loves painting in shades of blue or have simply realized that the majority of your possessions are the color of the sky.
 
Javaphile
 
A cup of coffee is the go-to for many people in order to get through their day. This delicious brown liquid that also serves to wake us up is drunk by millions of people each day. But did you know that there is now a word to describe this group of coffee lovers? The word is javaphile and comes from the slang word ‘java’ for coffee.
 
Arctophile
 
It’s not just children that love a teddy bear, there are in fact adults who love to fill their lives with these furry friends. A teddy bear lover is known as an arctophile. You will find a vast amount of teddy bears in an arctophile’s home, with many of them likely to be collectors’ items.
 
Learning about the various types of ‘philes’ is an interesting topic as it highlights the diversity of the human character and brings to light some interesting obsessions that people have.
 
 
There are hundreds of different ‘philes’ out there that seek to describe our loves and passions. They are the opposite of our phobias and celebrate what brings us joy. Whatever you love, we’re sure there is a type of ‘phile’ to describe you.
 
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Lottie Miles is a professional researcher and writer with a passion for human rights. She has 4 years of experience working within the NGO sector and has a Masters Degree in Social Policy. She has a keen interest in exploring ways in which happiness habits can help to improve mental health and wellbeing. In her spare time, she likes doing crossword puzzles, painting and traveling.
 
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Quarta-feira, 06 / 11 / 19

How Myers-Briggs Compatibility Can Help You Find Your Perfect Match

By Valerie Soleil.

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Posted November 6th, 2019. 

 

 

 
 
 
 
Envision a system that explains your entire personality and the way you live your life in extreme detail. That would be pretty amazing, right? Well, a few different beliefs do exist. However, none as powerful as the Human Design System.
 
The Origins of the Human Design System
 
Ra Uru Hu was born Alan Krakower in Canada in 1948. He was travelling in 1987 and ended up on the island of Ibiza. Here he experienced an intense 8-day vision. During these 8 days, Ra heard a mysterious voice. This voice explained a complex mechanical system for him.
 
The Human Design System could predict someone’s personality, career, relationships and so on. All by using your exact time of birth.
 
Now, you might well think that this is a crazy idea. However, many people are convinced of the validity of this design. Particularly once they have generated their own charts and mastered the art of reading them.
 
So, is this system the real deal? We can’t help but question; are we coded before birth? Or does the placebo effect work better than we know?
 
What Is the Human Design System?
 
“Human design gives us information about ourselves that we can’t access anywhere else…It’s about how we are each uniquely wired,” Erin Claire – Human Design Guide
 
Essentially, the human design system is a mathematical system. It borrows ideologies of The I Ching, Kabbalah, Chakras, Astrology and a small dose of Quantum Physics.
 
You use your exact time, date and place of birth to calculate your chart. The time is very important in determining your chart. If you don’t know your time of birth, you can enter 12:00. You will not get an accurate result, but you will still get helpful information.
 
The body chart consists of 9 Centers, 64 Gates, and 36 Channels. This predetermined genetic chart can tell you how to live as your most authentic self. It will help you to tap into your consciousness and give some wonderful insight into your future. Basically, it can help you find your true purpose in the world.
 
How Human Design Works
 
This system combines ancient and modern sciences to chart your personality. The scientific evidence is based on the Neutrino particle.
 
A neutrino is different from an atom. The neutrino is a subatomic particle that has no electrical charge and an undetermined mass. Some believe the mass is extremely small, while others believe it’s zero.
 
Neutrinos are everywhere. In fact, they are the most common and plentiful particles in the universe. However, as they are tremendously small they can be very problematic to detect. Despite their size, experts believe that neutrinos leave behind minuscule amounts of information whenever they pass through our bodies. These neutrinos are important, especially at the moment we are born.
 
The main premise behind Human Design Theory is that the neutrinos that pass through our bodies at the moment of birth are imprinted in us. As a result, it is this imprint that determines your personality for the rest of your life.
 
Now, there is a lot of information that is broken down into many different categories. As such, it is difficult to understand your own chart. Therefore, a professional in this field may be useful in helping you decipher your chart.
 
Human Design clarifies the influence of the planets on our personality. This is because neutrinos carry the information from the planets to us at our time of birth. The constant movement of the planets means that the information from neutrinos passing through at the moment of birth will always be one of a kind.
 
Therefore, it is impossible for another person to have the same genetic imprint.
 
How to use it
 
Sometimes we make decisions without understanding why. Your chart can help with this, studying your pre-conditioning can be so beneficial. It can tell you a huge range of information from how you make decisions, your emotions, relationships, physical ailments and so on.
 
The human design system believes knowing this information is the key to living an authentic life.
 
“A system that sheds light on your emotional, psychological and energetic makeup, giving you the self-awareness and tools to align with your nature and step into your highest potential in every area of your life.” Erin Claire
 
Four Strategies in Human Design System
 
Humanity is divided into four strategy types:
  • Generators
  • Projectors
  • Manifestors
  • Reflectors
 
Generators
 
Generators or Manifesting Generators are the most common strategy type. They represent about 70% of everyone on Earth. They are integral to the lifeforce of the planet and are responsible for creating the future.
 
They are essentially builders, responding and receiving information and building on that. Their life force is strong, and they attract energy from others. These people require situations to happen so they can respond accordingly, typically with sounds and movement.
 
Projectors
 
Projectors are the second most common type. They embody around 20% of the population. They will wait for a situation to occur and to be invited before they react. This is because when they are invited by others, their efforts feel recognized and whole.
 
These people are usually more introverted with a clear view of the energy of others. Projectors feel that it is their responsibility to help others. However, this leaves them feeling vulnerable and exhausted at times. They are vital to society and need to master their charts in order to help others sufficiently.
 
Manifestors
 
Manifestors as less common, they compose only 9% of society. These are people of action. They have a natural ability to excel in life with very little effort. They inspire others to manifest events wherever they go. They have a knack for helping others with decision-making as natural-born initiators.
 
When they are not able to manage and guide others properly, they find themselves angry at signs of resistance. They are their best selves when sharing their gift of manifesting with others.
 
 
Reflectors
 
Reflectors are a very small group; they represent only 1% of the population. These types are interesting since they don’t really have a fixed chart. Therefore, it can be hard to decode their authentic selves.
 
They are essentially walking mirrors, reflecting back everyone else’s reflection. Usually, reflectors are very empathetic, picking up on the emotions and thoughts of everyone around them. This can be a unique gift. They see the world from a different point of view that is not afforded to most.
 
When reflectors are able to mirror the passion of others, they are the most content. However, if they don’t fully understand this ability, it can end up draining them.
Your Authority
 
Another important aspect of the human design system is understanding your authority. When combined with your strategy type, you can really begin to understand your chart. Think of your authority as a tool for interpreting if a decision is right for you or not.
 
There are two main types of authority. Moreover, these two types can be broken down further into even more categories.
Inner Authority
 
This is your inner consciousness, the little voice in our heads that influences the way we make decisions. An intelligent inner compass that leads you in a certain direction. This is purely cognitive. It needs to be aligned with your physical body in order for you to live as your authentic self.
 
Outer Authority
 
Outer Authority in Human Design provides your authentic perspective on life. This can be more physical at times; it comes from a place of expression and individuality. For example, our outer authority can determine how you react to certain situations. It is what makes you unique.
 
This is just a very small glimpse into the Human Design System. As we stated earlier, it is extremely complex and can take a long time to fully understand.
Final Thoughts
 
So, does astrology determine your destiny? Can numerology predict your personality? Does the human design system really influence your fate? It’s possible. At the very least, these create a sense of self-discovery that is crucial for growing as a human being.
 
We should never stop exploring or questioning. Perhaps simply believing in something can very well make it true.
 
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About the Author: Valerie Soleil


Valerie Soleil is a writer with over 5 years of experience and holds a bachelor degree in law and a B.A. in Psychology. She is a physical & mental health enthusiast who constantly expands her knowledge about the mysteries of the human body and mind. Some of the activities Valerie is particularly passionate about are traveling and reading because they help her broaden her horizons.
 
 
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Terça-feira, 05 / 11 / 19

What Is Scopophobia, What Causes It and How to Overcome It

By Sherrie Hurd

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on November 4th, 2019.

 
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If you are afraid of having your picture taken or being looked at by other people, you could have scopophobia. There are ways to find out.
 
I remember being frightened right before speech class. I knew that everyone would be staring at me, and maybe some of them would be making fun of me too. However, since I really don’t have scopophobia, I pushed through the speech and completed about five more assignments during the semester.
 
 
For some people, speech class is impossible. For some, taking selfies is a no go. I often wonder as I browse social media why some profiles have no pictures. I think it’s possible that the owner of the profile could have scopophobia.
What Is Scopophobia?
 
I think my mother had this fear. I remember how she would run when people wanted to take her picture, and she often hid her face if people looked at her too much. You know what, I never considered her little quirk to be an actual phobia. I guess I was wrong. I learned about my mother’s phobias and severe anxiety later in my life.
 
With that information, I will explain the definition of scopophobia. It’s basically a fear of being looked at, a fear of being in pictures and a fear of any sort of visual attention. Ophthalmophobia is another name for this fear of being watched.
Some symptoms of scopophobia are:
Increased breathing
Heart palpitations
Extreme anxiety
Irritability
Nausea
Sweating
 
There are other symptoms as well, but they differ from person to person. Some people may experience these symptoms but also experience dry mouth too. Some people may not even experience all these symptoms at all and may experience something completely different.
 
Although scopophobia is a social disorder, closely linked to anxiety, it can evolve in all sorts of ways depending on the person and the situation.
What Causes Scopophobia?
 
Like most phobias, it can be caused by several things. We never really know what someone is going through until we understand what made them the way they are. Keep this in mind and never judge.
1. Genetics and observation
 
Genetics can play a role in this fear, as a child can take on some of the same traits, including phobias, as their parents, although this is not the most common cause. Scopophobia can develop when witnessing others going through the same thing as well.
2. Social anxiety
 
Scopophobia, unlike some other phobias, is more of a social anxiety based fear. Most of these cases come from a form of childhood trauma or event. It can also develop over time due to bullying or abuse.
 
 
Some victims of abuse, over time, start to lose healthy self-esteem and this causes them to avoid the looks of others and especially causes them to shy away from photos.
3. Physical ailments or diseases
 
Another cause of this phobia may be fear which comes with the suffering of Tourettes or epilepsy. As both these conditions can draw attention during flare-up or attack, sufferers get used to the unwanted attention and then start to fear this attention, drawing away from social activities.
4. Gradual fears
 
Scopophobia can even surface in otherwise social people. It can develop because of stage fright or natural fears during presentations. On the other hand, it can show up in those who have poor body image or personality disorders.
 
As you can see, there are many causes of this fear. The most important thing we need to know is how to deal with scopophobia. And there are many ways to deal with that too.
Overcoming the Fear of Being Seen
 
There are a few ways to overcome or treat scopophobia, but most require professional help. One way you can try to go at it on your own is to endure.
 
For instance, ask someone to purposely stare at you and see how long you can stand it. Set a time and each time, let them stare at you for a longer period. At some point, you will either tell them to stop or you will become numb to the looks.
 
You can also practice telling yourself that the stares aren’t real, even if there are people staring at you. You can practice taking a picture every now and then until you can endure a photo with someone on rare occasions. It won’t be easy, but overcoming or treating a phobia rarely is easy.
 
 
If these don’t work, you should consider professional help such as:
CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)
Response Prevention
Group therapy
Hypnotherapy
 
You can also try meditation. As with most any problem or fear, meditation takes you away from the negative aspects of what surrounds you and places you at the present moment in your thoughts.
 
Yes, you can feel the fear, but gradually, you can clear your mind of the fear, just as you clear out the other clutter that’s been weighing you down lately.
 
The last resort, in my opinion, is medication. No, I don’t like medicating the “wrong” out of me, but sometimes, it must be done. If your scopophobia is causing you to have severe panic attacks, loss of appetite or even extremely negative thoughts, you might consider this option.
 
If you’re seeing a psychiatrist, they can recommend a trial that can successfully treat your problems with this phobia.
It’s Okay to Be Afraid
 
There’s one last thing I need to say. It’s okay to have a healthy fear of some things. But when it comes to phobias, those fears can get out of control in a short period of time. If you notice the signs of this social anxiety disorder within yourself or someone you love, it needs to be addressed as soon as possible.
 
We’re fighting for the best possible outcome in mental health, and we’re going to conquer our fears.
 
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Sherrie Hurd is a professional writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She is an advocate for mental health awareness and nutrition. Sherrie studied Psychology, Journalism, and Fine Arts, receiving an Associates in Marketing. She has written for Beacon, a southern college publication, and is an author of a full-length non-fiction novel. Sherrie spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse.
 
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Quarta-feira, 30 / 10 / 19

What Is Overgeneralization? How It’s Impairing Your Judgment and How to Stop It

Becky Storey.

https://www.learning-mind.com/

October 29, 2019.



 
Overgeneralization is a common way of thinking which is rarely referred to by its real name but is done by almost everyone. Most of us do it at least a little. But some of us allow ourselves to dive so deep into overgeneralizing almost everything that our mental health is at stake. We do this every time we jump to the conclusion that one bad thing equals only bad things in future.
 
Overgeneralization is a kind of cognitive distortion. If you overgeneralize, this means you tend to assume one event is representative of something in its entirety. It is similar to catastrophizing.
 
Examples of Overgeneralization
 
For example, if a person once sees a dog being loud and aggressive, they might assume that all dogs are equally as dangerous and decides to avoid them all. In this scenario, the person is overgeneralizing what dogs are really like. This is how most fears are developed – from overgeneralizing after one difficult experience.
 
Dating and your romantic life are often victims of your overgeneralizing thoughts. If you go on one date with a man and he turns out to be an awful and rude person, you might overgeneralize and conclude that all men are just as terrible. As a result, you will struggle to let anyone close to you again.
 
By jumping so such huge, dramatic conclusions, you could be damaging all your future prospects in a whole variety of ways, from romance to your career, friends and even your family. If you convince yourself that “all” of something is bad or wrong, you’ll be cutting off huge chunks of your life.
 
Overgeneralization can be simple in day to day life and not too disruptive though. For example, when you assume that because you once disliked a mushroom-based meal, you’ll never like anything mushroom related at all.
 
These sorts of things aren’t too problematic and tend to create the simple biases we have which dictate our likes and dislikes. However, certain situations can’t afford to be overgeneralized. That’s because they have such a profound effect on your mental health, especially anxiety and depression.
 
Overgeneralizing Yourself
 
If you suffer from low self-esteem, you’re probably upsettingly familiar with overgeneralization. Many of us have moments where we assume far too quickly and let small occurrences affect our overall perceptions. But some people struggle with overgeneralization on a far more personal level and with much more serious consequences on our wellbeing.
 
By jumping to conclusions about ourselves, we tend to limit our potential. Wed reduce our chances of a full, happy life. Overgeneralizing impairs your judgment and your view of the world around you. Is it familiar to you to hear these words from your inner critic? “I always fail” or “I’ll never be able to do that”. If it is, you’re probably suffering from the effects of low self-esteem as a result of overgeneralization.
 
If you’ve tried at something and failed, you’re more likely to be worried about trying again. But there’s a difference between being worried and being certain you simply can’t do it.
 
Failure is normal and even necessary in the pursuit of a dream. But by overgeneralizing, you might allow yourself to think that you’re always going to fail at anything you try in future.
 
This kind of impaired judgment isn’t fair on yourself. And you owe it to yourself to work on stopping this way of thinking. One failure means nothing in the grand scheme of things. One rejection, one slip-up, even many of them, they don’t mean a thing!
 
How to Stop Overgeneralization
 
As you have seen, overgeneralizing can be so damaging to your mental health and your life as a whole. So it’s clearly very important that we work out how to stop this and get ahead of it before it harms your future too much.
 
Remember that nothing is absolute
 
The single most important thing you can do for yourself when you struggle with overgeneralization is to constantly remind yourself that every experience is unique, and nothing is guaranteed by the past.
 
Even J.K Rowling was rejected numerous times before Harry Potter was finally accepted and published. She knew that “some” didn’t mean “all” – and we all know how well that worked out for her. Just because you did one thing wrong, or even a number of things wrong, there’s no reason to believe things will always be that way. You can learn, you can grow, your luck can change.
 
Watch how you talk to yourself
 
To stop overgeneralizing, you also ought to take more notice of the words you use towards yourself. When using negative self-talk, we tend to make huge sweeping statements which are never true. We say things like “I’ll never be good at this”, “I’ll always be a loser”, “Everybody thinks I’m a loser”. And none of those would be true on a small scale, and definitely aren’t true on a large scale.
 
Consider the phrase “Nobody will ever love me”. Most of us have said this line in our darker moments. But this statement excludes the friends and family we have, who do love us. This happens because we’re hyper-focused on what romantic love we don’t have. These sweeping statements are incorrect and take one small thought and apply it to our entire life.
 
This is terrible for our mental health and should be stopped. Try to avoid using words like never, always, everyone and nobody. These words allow you to apply a giant overgeneralization to a small experience. And this will inevitably impair your judgment of yourself and the world around you.
 
Nothing is that widespread and nothing is that final. When you give yourself a chance to see life that way, you’ll feel much better in yourself.
 
Optimism is key
 
Be open to the idea that not everything is all bad. Overgeneralization tends to be used for negative thoughts, allowing yourself to make those bad feelings even worse. Be optimistic that things can and will change and that the past does not dictate your future.
 
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Becky Storey is a professional writer who has been passionate about the way we think and the human mind since she developed chronic anxiety many years ago. Now she loves to write and educate people on mental health and wellbeing. When Becky is not writing, you’ll find her outside with her Labrador, sitting behind a jigsaw puzzle, or baking something with too much sugar.
 
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Sábado, 13 / 07 / 19

Naikan Reflection: How This Japanese Technique Transforms Your Relationships ~ Francesca F.

Naikan Reflection: 

How This Japanese Technique Transforms Your Relationships.

By Francesca F.

July 12th, 2019

 
 

 

Naikan Reflection helps us to better understand ourselves and others in our various relationships.
Relationships are complicated, and it is always easier to focus on the bad parts than the good. Naikan Reflection is a form of genuine self-reflection which aims to help us understand our relationships better.

By understanding the bigger picture, we can see the nuances of a relationship. Most significantly, you may find yourself recognizing cycles of negative behavior, or having a greater respect for what others do for you.

What Is Naikan Reflection?

Naikan Reflection is a structured method of self-reflection which helps us to get a more realistic sense of our relationships with others. It was developed by Japanese businessman and devoted Jodo Shinshu Buddhist, Yoshimoto Ishin.

Those who practice it claim that it helps them to understand themselves and others with who they have relationships.
The Three Questions of Naikan Reflection

Naikan Reflection is based on three key questionswhich help us to reflect on our relationships with others, from friends to family, co-workers to acquaintances.
  1. What have I received from…?
  2. What have I given to…?
  3. What troubles and difficulties have I caused…?
There is a logical fourth question in this series which is ‘What troubles and difficulties have… caused me?’ This question was purposefully ignored because of the belief that this question is responsible for too much misery in daily life.
One of the most important aspects of Naikan Reflection is that it assumes we are all naturally good at seeing an answer to this fourth question. In contrast, true knowledge comes from a little introspection.

Three Different Methods to Practice Naikan Reflection

The general method of practicing Naikan Reflection is to answer these questions in detail.
  • Examine first what you have received from others.
There are times we receive things from others without understanding the sacrifices they made or the thought they gave it. Take the time to understand this and to whom you should be grateful.
  • Next, consider what you have given to others.
We are all susceptible to self-criticism. Taking the time to understand how you are capable of helping others can change our perception of ourselves.
As a result, this is a valuable tool because it helps to boost self-esteem and change our mindset. When we see the good in what we have done without making a conscious effort, we can see the good we are capable of in the future.
  • The final question is not the easiest to answer.
We never like to point fingers at ourselves; doing so can be difficult. Yet, we must understand the hardships we have caused others to truly be introspective. When we see what difficulties we have caused others, we can begin to understand and even repair those relationships.
There are three main ways Naikan Reflection can be practiced, so you can find the right method for you.

Daily Naikan (Nichijo Naikan)

Daily Naikan Reflection takes only 20 to 30 minutes before falling asleep. Sit in a quiet place and minimize distractions. Consider the three questions of Naikan and answer them in relation to the events of the day.
Try to be as specific as you can rather than generalize about ‘receiving food’ or ‘gave assistance.’ It may seem trivial, but it is important to recognize what you should be grateful for and what you offer others.
This method is the simplest. It also keeps the self-reflection we do present in our daily lives.

Naikan Reflection on a Person

Naikan Reflection can be done in reference to a specific person. This method takes a little longer because it focuses on the entire relationship, beginning to end. Start with how you met, and slowly work your way through the ups and downs of the relationship chronologically.
Naikan Reflection on a person gives us greater insight and respect for a particular person. You may focus on a few weeks, or a few years, giving yourself a detailed account of hard times with the gift of hindsight.
You will be able to see how the relationship has strengthened or may be weakened. However, you will be able to see the situation as a whole.

A Naikan Retreat (Schuchu Naikan)

Naikan Retreats can be a scheduled event, or it can be something you venture to do alone. Taking yourself away for a set amount of time to a quiet and secluded place can be mind-opening.
Venture to a peaceful and private spot and give yourself nothing to do but reflect. View your life chronologically and assess all of your relationships in turn.
This is the most intense version of self-reflection and it can take some time to work up to this. However, those who take part in such retreats have profound and life-changing experiences. What is important is that you are sincere and committed to the experience.

Why self-reflection is important

Self-reflection is deeply entrenched in many of the world’s spiritual cultures. There are many different methods of self-reflection which can help open your mind to all that life is.
Naikan Reflection is simply one of many of these methods, but it helps us to form closer bonds through the understanding of our relationships.
Most importantly, practicing this reflection helps us to recognize the importance of others and the positive impact we can have in the lives of others.
References:
  1. https://minds.wisconsin.edu
  2. https://oxfordre.com

 

 

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Francesca is a freelance writer currently studying a degree in Law and Philosophy. She has written for several blogs in a range of subjects across Lifestyle, Relationships and Health and Fitness. Her main pursuits are learning new innovative ways of keeping fit and healthy, as well as broadening her knowledge in as many areas as possible in order to achieve success.
 
 
 
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Quarta-feira, 12 / 06 / 19

5 Signs the Illusion of Control Is Ruining Your Life and How to Stop It ~ Sherrie.

5 Signs the Illusion of Control Is Ruining Your Life and How to Stop It.

By Sherrie.

June 11th, 2019

 

If you think you’re in control of life, think again. The illusion of control, although sometimes positive, can have negative consequences.
Sometimes, to be honest, I believe that people who do wrong toward others are punished. Hey, maybe they are. As for me, if I fall into the illusion of control in this aspect, I spend much of my time thinking that I will be avenged at every insult or attack. That’s a waste of time.
The illusion of being in control can definitely be positive, as it gives us the confidence to handle a situation. It can also be negative because we cannot possibly handle every situation. The truth is, some things are out of our control completely. Our acceptance of this fact is important.

How the illusion of control ruins our lives

If you go even deeper than that, you find those who live every day thinking they’re in control of the entirety of their existence, which isn’t true.
There are signs that the illusion and trickery of control have taken over, pushing them toward a chaotic and stressful existence. Here are a few examples.

1. Paranoia

Paranoia is a sign that you are under the illusion that you control things. You might think you’re in control, but maybe you are just watching your life unfold naturally, good or bad. If your spells and incantations don’t work, then the illusion of control will tell you that someone has transpired to bring you bad luck.
Or they could be following you, trying to do harm, or even ruin your future. If you depend on charms or other luck bringing aspects to stay in control, you could be fooling yourself.
Your paranoia could get ridiculous if not checked. If someone you love is always paranoid, you could be dealing with someone who feels like they are losing this control they once had.

2. Dwelling in the past

Someone who dwells too long on past events may be living under the illusion that they could have controlled certain situations.
When you live your life, you make mistakes. Over time, these mistakes become part of the past. Some of them affect us and our loved ones deeply. The illusion of control makes us think that if only we could go back in time and change things, that life would be different.
And maybe life would be different, but dwelling on this fact creates a fantasy world that is unhealthy to live in. If you’re constantly reliving the past and rehearsing different ways you could have approached situations, you really are ruining your life right now.
You may even look back at “now” and wish you could have changed that too.

3. Abuse

You see this is relationships when one person tries to control the actions of another. But when it all boils down to it, you cannot really control anyone. Eventually, they will do what they want anyway.
If you notice one person in the relationship trying to control the other, this is abuse. They are also under the illusion that they are in control. They’re not really in control and they never will be.

4. Cosmetic surgery obsession

You know the ones, the women and men who keep getting facelifts, tummy tucks, and breast augmentation. Yes, those individuals can be obsessed. These people think they are in total control of how they appear and how long they will remain beautiful.
The truth is, cosmetic surgery does work, to some extent, but it cannot keep us alive forever.
We have yet to discover the fountain of youth and until we do, we will age, and we will die. That’s the simple and concise truth of the matter. Plastic surgery can ruin our lives by keeping us locked into getting more and more changes and leaving us always unsatisfied.

5. Reckless behavior

You will recognize those who suffer from the illusion of total control by their reckless behavior. These individuals actually think that they are invincible.
I thought like this when I was around 18 years old. They walk down dark alleyways, drive super fast on the freeway, and even indulge in drugs and alcohol.
They really think they are in control at all times, and they will even get furious if you try to stop them. You know these people well. You can tell by their restlessness and boredom.

How can we stop thinking this way?

It’s not easy to break out of a mindset that’s been imprinted upon us from an early age. But, if you can manage to see things from a different perspective, you can learn to actually gain self-control over your illusion of control, if you get my drift.
Utilizing self-control helps you see logic instead of fantasy. It helps you realize that you are no more powerful, invincible, immortal or lucky than the rest of us.
Once you’ve realized this fact, you can focus on really enjoying a good life. Life is full of so many wonderful things, some far out of our control. So, for what we cannot control, I hope we can reach a place of acceptance. I think there we can find the peace we so deserve.
References:
  1. https://greatergood.berkeley.edu
  2. https://www.sciencedaily.com
 
 
 
 

 

 

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
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