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Sábado, 13 / 07 / 19

Naikan Reflection: How This Japanese Technique Transforms Your Relationships ~ Francesca F.

Naikan Reflection: 

How This Japanese Technique Transforms Your Relationships.

By Francesca F.

July 12th, 2019

 
 

 

Naikan Reflection helps us to better understand ourselves and others in our various relationships.
Relationships are complicated, and it is always easier to focus on the bad parts than the good. Naikan Reflection is a form of genuine self-reflection which aims to help us understand our relationships better.

By understanding the bigger picture, we can see the nuances of a relationship. Most significantly, you may find yourself recognizing cycles of negative behavior, or having a greater respect for what others do for you.

What Is Naikan Reflection?

Naikan Reflection is a structured method of self-reflection which helps us to get a more realistic sense of our relationships with others. It was developed by Japanese businessman and devoted Jodo Shinshu Buddhist, Yoshimoto Ishin.

Those who practice it claim that it helps them to understand themselves and others with who they have relationships.
The Three Questions of Naikan Reflection

Naikan Reflection is based on three key questionswhich help us to reflect on our relationships with others, from friends to family, co-workers to acquaintances.
  1. What have I received from…?
  2. What have I given to…?
  3. What troubles and difficulties have I caused…?
There is a logical fourth question in this series which is ‘What troubles and difficulties have… caused me?’ This question was purposefully ignored because of the belief that this question is responsible for too much misery in daily life.
One of the most important aspects of Naikan Reflection is that it assumes we are all naturally good at seeing an answer to this fourth question. In contrast, true knowledge comes from a little introspection.

Three Different Methods to Practice Naikan Reflection

The general method of practicing Naikan Reflection is to answer these questions in detail.
  • Examine first what you have received from others.
There are times we receive things from others without understanding the sacrifices they made or the thought they gave it. Take the time to understand this and to whom you should be grateful.
  • Next, consider what you have given to others.
We are all susceptible to self-criticism. Taking the time to understand how you are capable of helping others can change our perception of ourselves.
As a result, this is a valuable tool because it helps to boost self-esteem and change our mindset. When we see the good in what we have done without making a conscious effort, we can see the good we are capable of in the future.
  • The final question is not the easiest to answer.
We never like to point fingers at ourselves; doing so can be difficult. Yet, we must understand the hardships we have caused others to truly be introspective. When we see what difficulties we have caused others, we can begin to understand and even repair those relationships.
There are three main ways Naikan Reflection can be practiced, so you can find the right method for you.

Daily Naikan (Nichijo Naikan)

Daily Naikan Reflection takes only 20 to 30 minutes before falling asleep. Sit in a quiet place and minimize distractions. Consider the three questions of Naikan and answer them in relation to the events of the day.
Try to be as specific as you can rather than generalize about ‘receiving food’ or ‘gave assistance.’ It may seem trivial, but it is important to recognize what you should be grateful for and what you offer others.
This method is the simplest. It also keeps the self-reflection we do present in our daily lives.

Naikan Reflection on a Person

Naikan Reflection can be done in reference to a specific person. This method takes a little longer because it focuses on the entire relationship, beginning to end. Start with how you met, and slowly work your way through the ups and downs of the relationship chronologically.
Naikan Reflection on a person gives us greater insight and respect for a particular person. You may focus on a few weeks, or a few years, giving yourself a detailed account of hard times with the gift of hindsight.
You will be able to see how the relationship has strengthened or may be weakened. However, you will be able to see the situation as a whole.

A Naikan Retreat (Schuchu Naikan)

Naikan Retreats can be a scheduled event, or it can be something you venture to do alone. Taking yourself away for a set amount of time to a quiet and secluded place can be mind-opening.
Venture to a peaceful and private spot and give yourself nothing to do but reflect. View your life chronologically and assess all of your relationships in turn.
This is the most intense version of self-reflection and it can take some time to work up to this. However, those who take part in such retreats have profound and life-changing experiences. What is important is that you are sincere and committed to the experience.

Why self-reflection is important

Self-reflection is deeply entrenched in many of the world’s spiritual cultures. There are many different methods of self-reflection which can help open your mind to all that life is.
Naikan Reflection is simply one of many of these methods, but it helps us to form closer bonds through the understanding of our relationships.
Most importantly, practicing this reflection helps us to recognize the importance of others and the positive impact we can have in the lives of others.
References:
  1. https://minds.wisconsin.edu
  2. https://oxfordre.com

 

 

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About the Author: Francesca F.

Francesca is a freelance writer currently studying a degree in Law and Philosophy. She has written for several blogs in a range of subjects across Lifestyle, Relationships and Health and Fitness. Her main pursuits are learning new innovative ways of keeping fit and healthy, as well as broadening her knowledge in as many areas as possible in order to achieve success.
 
 
 
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If you use discernment you are free to research with an open mind. 

With discernment it is possible to reach the spirit of the letter of any writing and it is also much easier to listen to the voice of the soul that comes from the heart.
Individually you can be helped to find your Truth that is different of everyone. 


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publicado por achama às 22:44
Sexta-feira, 05 / 07 / 19

Eckhart Tolle Meditation and 9 Life Lessons You Can Learn from It ~ Sherrie.

Eckhart Tolle Meditation and 9 Life Lessons You Can Learn from It.

By Sherrie.

July 1st, 2019

 
 
 
To practice Eckhart Tolle meditation is to allow yourself to be in the present moment. You can grow from this process.
Despite what you may see on the outside, many people suffer from turmoil. Daily lives present new obstacles and heartaches that unfortunately leave impressions and create negative thoughts.
I think I am personally traveling through a mindset like this now. However, in learning about meditation, I feel hope for my situations. Let’s learn more about this process.

Meditation by Eckhart Tolle

Meditation in itself is a powerful tool, as taught by Eckhart Tolle. It’s designed to teach us to silence the mind. Eckhart Tolle, the spiritual leader, helps us realize a slightly different form of meditation – a level of attaining pure consciousness or letting go of the separate ego identity.
As with mindfulness, meditation focuses on you and your surroundings existing in the ‘now’. It doesn’t dwell on or process the multitude of negative thoughts which pass through your mind on a daily basis. Its purpose is to heal us by helping us realize we are one consciousness. Only then can we tame what’s called the ‘ego’.

So, what else can we learn from this meditation?
 
 

1. Learn to let go
 
I’m starting with the past because, before we can move on to other wisdom, we must let go of what has been. The past is not an evil place, but it can hold us captive from time to time.
 
Regret can elevate negative thoughts and literally make us sick. Eckhart Tolle helps us let go of the past with meditation and still honor what we’ve been through. We must let go.
2. Being true to yourself
Meditation helps you recognize your self-worth. It also makes you want to be an authentic person. In a world where so many people wear masks, it’s refreshing to see real people. It’s also a pleasure to be around them.
Being yourself and true to who you make being around other people easier as well. Being real removes the image of you that others have, and also the image that you have created over time.

3. What you give is what you get

Another thing you can learn from Eckhart Tolle and his views on meditation is that whatever you send out, be it negative thoughts, words, or actions, will always come back to you.
There are many ways, in most beliefs that this wisdom is taught. It’s true. You do reap what you sow. If you want good things to come your way, you must project positivity.

4. There is no purpose to worrying

Worry is one of the most destructive thoughts and action. But if you think logically about it, worry does nothing. It is pretty much useless.
No matter how much you worry, you cannot change what is destined to come. You can learn to let go of worry by practicing meditation regularly.

5. The present moment is the most important

If you think about it, the present is the only real thing in life. The past is gone and the future is only anticipation for what’s to come, or what you hope will come.
Hence, you can say, the future and past don’t really exist. Whenever you dwell on time, your here and now is neglected, wasted. You learn to appreciate the present time with the Eckhart Tolle practice of meditation.

6. Remove the importance of objects

I bet you never paid attention to how attached you are to certain objects. Electronics, clothing, and jewelry are addictive. These are extensions of our ego self, separate and selfish. Using meditation, you can learn to let go of the unhealthy attachments you have to material things.

7. Change of mindset

Without meditation, negative thinking can run wild. Eckhart Tolle suggests that using meditation can gradually change your thoughts from negative to positive.
Of course, if you’re dwelling in all things negative, it will take time to shift these feelings. We, as humans, have formed cycles of thinking. We may linger on one side or the other, but we always fall back into the thinking we’ve trained ourselves to use. Have hope because we can learn to shift our mindset.

8. Accept your situation

Some of us may be in difficult situations, and we’re fighting against these problems as hard as we can. But to fight against the present issue is to fight against life. Present life will be as it is, and you have two choices, either accept it or walk away from it.
Now, acceptance doesn’t mean you cannot speak how you feel about the situation, but complaining is something different altogether. You become a victim when you fight against the problem, but you gain power by simply speaking out, calmly and without elaboration.

9. Letting go of control

Unfortunately, many people fall into a habit of controlling others. In many relationships, controlling behavior moves from one person to the other. It sometimes becomes a power play.
In all honesty, control is a weakness, unless it’s self-control. When trying to control every situation, you never experience those positive things that come with change and freedom. Eckhart Tolle teaches us that with meditation, you can learn to let go of control.

The wisdom of Eckhart Tolle

Eckhart Tolle teaches us that we can form too many material mindsets instead of just being. The world is in a rush, all the time. If only we can still our minds and focus on what’s right in front of us, we could completely change our mindset. If we can understand how our separate self is a fictional construct, we can embrace our pure consciousness.
I will leave you with an inspiring quote from Eckhart Tolle.
“On a deeper level, you are already complete. When you realize that, there is a joyous energy behind what you do.”
References:
  1. https://www.elephantjournal.com
  2. https://hackspirit.com
 
About the Author: Sherrie

Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.
 
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Organised religion is unnecessary to spirituality.

Excellent teachings of the masters have been contaminated by the dogmatic control of these religions.

Discernment yes; judgement does not.
If you use discernment you are free to research with an open mind. 

With discernment it is possible to reach the spirit of the letter of any writing and it is also much easier to listen to the voice of the soul that comes from the heart.
Individually you can be helped to find your Truth that is different of everyone. 


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publicado por achama às 20:52
Quarta-feira, 03 / 07 / 19

What Is Pygmalion Effect and How It Can Bring Positive Results ~ Francesca F.

What Is Pygmalion Effect and How It Can Bring Positive Results.

By Francesca F.

July 2nd, 2019

 
 

 

In a position of power, how you treat those below you makes a huge difference, as proved by the Pygmalion Effect.
Whether we are looking after children, managing staff, or coaching a team, our behavior has a direct influence. It is all too easy to see some as more capable than others, and some as more disruptive. We subconsciously give the higher achievers more attention because we want to give them the best chance. However, were we to give equal expectation to all, we improve the performance of the whole team.
The Pygmalion Effect is a psychological phenomenon which explains why we should have high hopes for everyone, even when they are not initially performing.

What Is the Pygmalion Effect?

The Pygmalion Effect is an interpersonal motivational phenomenon whereby higher expectations lead to an increase in performance. Conversely, low expectations lead to reduced performance in the same way.
It is the very notion of a self-fulfilling prophesy as attributed to sociologist Robert Merton in 1948. In his writings, Merton described the phenomenon of a false belief becoming true over time. This creates a feedback loop whereby we assume we are always correct because we believe ourselves to be. We essentially hypnotize ourselves to achieving what we want.

Robert Rosenthal’s Research

Robert Rosenthal defined the Pygmalion Effect as the phenomenon whereby one person’s expectations for another’s behavior serves as a self-fulfilling prophecyRosenthal’s work came to prove that a teacher’s expectations for a student highly influenced the student’s performance.
A group of students took a test which Rosenthal said would be able to identify ‘growth spurters’. ‘Spurters’ are those likely to achieve academically. Rosenthal gave teachers names of pupils Rosenthal said he expected to achieve. ‘Spurter’ students showed a significantly greater increase in performance throughout the year.
‘Spurters’, however, were chosen at random. Rosenthal claimed that the only influence in their performance was the beliefs of the teacher. This proved that the expectation of the teacher, parent, or coach has an incredible impact on the performance of the child.
Rosenthal posed four key factors which explained why this was:

Climate:

Teachers acted warmer and friendlier to those children said to spurters.

Input:

Teachers gave more time and energy into the children said to be spurters.

Output:

Teachers called on spurters more often to give answers in class.

Feedback:

Teachers tended to give more helpful responses and in-depth feedback to children said to be spurters.

It is not only children affected by the Pygmalion Effect.

The Pygmalion Effect is also applicable in the workplace in managerial expectations of employees. Those who receive frequent recognition from bosses will feel more motivated to do even better. Conversely, those who are constantly criticized soon lose motivation to try their best and the quality of work may suffer.
When we look at the phenomenon of the Pygmalion Effect, we can clearly see that the way we treat people can vastly alter their performance. We can even use it to consciously change the behavior of others in a positive way. The more we view people as capable of more, the more likely they are to strive to achieve more.
We can see the converse of the Pygmalion Effect in stereotypes of social class in schools and workspaces. The less we believe in someone, the less they are likely to achieve.
By keeping the four aspects of impact in mind when addressing someone you are managing, you can put the Pygmalion Effect to full use.

The first step is creating a positive environment for all.

Offer the same warm and friendly environment to your entire cohort and they will feel more comfortable and secure. This has a powerful impact on ensuring high productivity because comfortable people work best.

Ensure that you are giving the same time and energy to those who may not achieve as those who will.

Be conscious of your feedback and who you decide to give difficult tasks. You may trust those with a consistently high level of output, but by stretching others, you help them improve.

Positive reinforcement is a powerful tool.

When people feel as though they are achieving, the Pygmalion Effect proves that they will keep striving for greatness.

The Pygmalion Effect is a psychological embodiment of mind over matter.

Reinforcement of expectation and belief that someone can achieve is more likely to bring about achievement than criticism. Understanding the Pygmalion Effect and how to use is a valuable tool in people management.
It can help you to get the best out of your team and increase the performance of those who are under-achieving. You have more power than you realize over those who aren’t achieving. With a little belief, even the lowest achieving member of the team can improve.
Practicing working with the Pygmalion Effect can take time, as people sometimes need convincing that they can achieve more. It is easy to criticize and expect achievement through fear.  Stay consistent and remind each person what is expected of them and offer praise when they achieve. Over time, you will see the results you are looking for and the entire team will increase in performance.
References:
  1. https://www.psychologytoday.com/
  2. https://link.springer.com/

 

 

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About the Author: Francesca F.

Francesca is a freelance writer currently studying a degree in Law and Philosophy. She has written for several blogs in a range of subjects across Lifestyle, Relationships and Health and Fitness. Her main pursuits are learning new innovative ways of keeping fit and healthy, as well as broadening her knowledge in as many areas as possible in order to achieve success.
 
 
 
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If you use discernment you are free to research with an open mind. 

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Individually you can be helped to find your Truth that is different of everyone. 


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publicado por achama às 22:09
Segunda-feira, 24 / 06 / 19

How to Overcome Inferiority Complex with 7 Methods That Work ~ Sherrie.

How to Overcome Inferiority Complex with 7 Methods That Work.

By Sherrie.

June 23rd, 2019

 

Confidence equals good mental health, and that’s why learning to overcome the inferiority complex is so important.
Having an inferiority complex means you never really feel good about yourself. In fact, most other people in your life seem greater, more intelligent or more talented. Others may also seem beautiful as opposed to your ugliness.
Do these descriptions ring a bell? Well, learning to overcome the inferiority complex is the key to a better life. No one should feel less than anyone else.

Methods to help you change your mindset and overcome inferiority complex

 
Understanding how to overcome the feelings associated with inferiority complex should be your focus. In order to change your mindset, you have to know exactly what you’re facing.
The inferiority complex is not just feeling bad about yourself temporarily, it’s a feeling that persists from day to day – they’re negative feelings you’ve accepted about yourself.

There are methods, however, that help you get rid of these feelings over time:

1. Pinpoint one source

The truth is, you may feel inferior to many people. That’s the horrible nature of the inferiority complex. The good news is, you can focus on one person to help you pinpoint where your weaknesses are. For instance, choose a so-called “superior person”, and ask yourself one question: “Why do I feel inferior to this person?”
Analyzing the one person you picked will help you build levels of confidence. Say you feel that the person is more attractive than you, more intelligent, and more sociable. Well, you can start by finding one thing you can do that they cannot.
There are things, trust me, because no one is perfect. In fact, there may be many things you can do better, but you’ve just focused on your inferior state as opposed to their seemingly perfected one. Do you see? Try this one out as soon as possible. You may be surprised.

2. Positive self-talk

Most of the time, we can learn a great deal about how to get over feeling inferior just by talking good to ourselves. Be honest, how many times have you said, “I’m ugly”“I’m not good enough”, or “I wish I was more like someone else?” Well, I’m sure we’ve all fallen prey to these thoughts from time to time.
The key here is to practice countering these negative thoughts with positive ones. For each negative talk we have with ourselves, we should strive to have two positive ones.
Over time, you will notice a great change in your confidence level. And if someone happens to insult you, you will be armed and ready to defend your self-esteem.

3. Find the root

Of course, if you want to know how to destroy the inferiority complex, you must remember where it came from. Maybe you have no idea how the negative self-talk and feelings even surfaced. Well, if you experienced rejection or trauma in your early life, inferiority feelings may be deep-rooted and will have to be pulled out and examined.
You can start analyzing yourself or you can seek professional help in this area. Some roots, I must admit, travel deep within your mind.
Some of these roots go far and some are large, meaning they encompass multiple issues, situations and people from your past. This is where untangling roots also come into play. To heal your confidence, you must discover these roots.

4. Gravitate toward positive people

Another way to overcome feelings of inferiority is to surround yourself with as many positive people as possible. Being around positive people remind you of how you’re supposed to treat yourself. They remind you of your worth and talents.
If you’ve noticed, positive people usually don’t criticize others. Instead, they may lovingly point out ways to improve. On the other hand, negative people will always have a way to bring you and themselves down simultaneously.
It’s obvious what you should do in this case. Stay as far away from toxic behavior or negative people as possible.

5. Good mantras and proclamations

Not only should you talk good to yourself, but you should also proclaim your good points. When you feel inferior, speak a positive mantra about yourself.
For instance,  you may say, “I am talented”, and “I am kind”. This helps build you up by speaking your worth out loud. Whether you are spiritual or not, I’m telling you, the spoken word is a powerful thing. It truly is capable of turning things around for the better.

6. Always be yourself

If you’ve fallen victim to idolization, which we all do to a certain extent, then you should step back a moment. Immediately, stop all attempts to be like someone else, right now. After you feel clean of everyone else’s influence, fill yourself with yourself.
That’s right, embrace who you are, and examine all your good points. I bet, you have so much to be thankful for, and so many hidden talents. This simple move can boost your ability to overcome inferiority and other negative complexes.

7. Stop comparisons

That brings me to another toxic and heinous act we fall victim to – comparisons. It’s so easy to feel inferior when we compare ourselves with others. We should never ever do that.
So, for this last method, let’s practice working to better ourselves apart from anyone else. Yes, appreciate others and their talents, but never let those things decide who you should be. End comparisons now.

We can all feel better about ourselves

Learning how to overcome inferiority complex is no easy task, I will not lie. However, being able to accomplish this task allows you to open up to a multitude of possibilities in your life. The ability to be confident is a power that so few actually hold. In fact, the inferiority complex inhabits most of us on some level.
Regardless, we should try every day, to love and appreciate ourselves. We are the only one like us on the face of this earth. We have a mixture of unique talents and characteristics that the world surely needs.
I’m going to say you’re beautiful, talented, and worthy, to help you jump start your journey on defeating the inferiority complex, and also just in case no one else has told you lately.
Be well.
 
References:
  1. https://www.psychologytoday.com
  2. https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au
 

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 

 

 

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 



About the Author: Sherrie

Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.

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publicado por achama às 04:44
Domingo, 16 / 06 / 19

The Art of Constructive Feedback: How to Give and Receive It ~ Michelle L.

The Art of Constructive Feedback: 

How to Give and Receive It.

By Michelle L. 

Contributor writer to Learning Mind.

March 16th, 2019. 

 
constructive feedback
 

 

Few people are likely to raise their hands with an enthusiastic ‘me’ when it comes to receiving criticism. But those who are advocates of it know that constructive feedback is not only useful but also essential.
People don’t love feedback too much because they are unfortunate recipients of crippling criticism – the kind that makes them feel as though they aren’t able to do anything worthy. That outlook may change if they understand the difference between negative criticism and constructive feedback that helps them grow.

Telling the Difference Between Constructive and Negative Feedback

Giving criticism is integral to your role, whether you’re a parent or a manager who looks after the performance and welfare of staff. Many people feel that they have done their jobs as long as their children or subordinates receive some feedback. The raw truth is that criticism isn’t useful if it shatters the recipient’s confidence completely.
Delivery is the key, and the first step to doing so effectively is to understand the difference between constructive and destructive criticism.
People use negative feedback if their goal is to shatter a recipient’s confidence. Managers may tell their subordinates how poorly they’ve performed on tasks without providing evidence or reasons for their evaluations. Employees seldom understand why they’ve underperformed or know how to make improvements.
And there is a parallel to the home – parents who give negative feedback to their children may discipline their youngsters without telling them why they have earned harsh criticism.
Constructive feedback, conversely, instills confidence in an employee or child. Think about your favorite teachers when you were in school. They were probably the ones who knew how to point out the errors in your assignments without making you feel as though the topics assigned were out of your league.
Similarly, respected and competent managers are the ones who highlight the flaws in their employees’ performances without making them feel like complete failures at their jobs.

Why Constructive Criticism Isn’t Always Bad

Feedback in any form isn’t easy to swallow. Perhaps you need some convincing.
First of all, feedback tells people about your expectations and improves performance. Learning about their strengths increases the confidence of your employees. They gain the motivation they need to improve their skills and align with business objectives. The person who provides feedback also becomes proficient when doing it.
Furthermore, organizations invest considerable sums of money in finding talent. That said, employees have to spend a significant amount of time learning their roles and responsibilities. Feedback helps them with their work so that companies won’t have to find replacements.
Feedback improves trust. It creates a bond between parents and children. Most children understand that parents mean well when they make suggestions. If you are a manager, giving constructive, open feedback to your employees builds their rapport with you. It inspires loyalty.
A manager’s role is to offer feedback that encourages a staff’s development. It is vital that he or she does so on an ongoing basis and not only when performance reviews come around.

How to Provide Constructive Feedback

Constructive feedback is essential to get others to improve on their shortcomings, without causing ill-feeling or shattering their confidence. Here are a few tips to help you get started.

1. Be specific and focus on the problem

First of all, instead of merely telling people what they need to do better, explain why they need to make improvements. Saying “You need to submit work on time” and leaving the statement open assumes that recipients understand what the problem is. However, this may not be the case – perhaps the employee has never faced the ire of bosses before.
Also, never assume that people have the necessary background information they need. They may not understand how their behavior affects you or others. The more you focus on the problem, the more likely the recipient of the feedback is to address it.
If necessary, tell them how the situation affects you and the rest of the business. The more specific you can make your feedback, the more actionable it will be.

2. Don’t get personal

“Constructive” implies that feedback should focus on impartial observations instead of personal attributes.
“Your draft was poor” isn’t likely to get a warm reception. The recipient of the feedback will probably see it as a personal attack instead of an objective assessment, even if the work is not up to par. Focus on the problem at hand and not the person’s attributes.

3. Use the Sandwich Method

One essential key to making feedback palatable is to include positives with the negatives. It tells everyone that you have a balanced perspective.
Deliver feedback like you would serve a sandwich. State the positives, discuss problems, and finish off with more positive feedback to cushion any sting.
For example, you can tell a child, “You’ve improved your math test score.” Then discuss the areas that need improvement. “But the algebra needs some work.” It’s essential to finish off with, “You’ll become a math whiz in no time.”
You can use this approach if you’re addressing employees. Start with “You did an excellent job this quarter. Sales are up by 15%.” Then, discuss the problem areas.”Customers have mentioned that response times are a little slow.” Round off with “Overall; they are delighted with the work you’ve done.”
Be careful not to be too positive as you may come across as insincere; everyone needs to improve. The Sandwich Method of delivering feedback ensures a balanced perspective.

4. Be direct but informal

Try not to use technology such as email, text message, or the phone to relay your feedback, as this can lead to misinterpretation and make it seem less important than it is.
Don’t deliver feedback via text messages or emails unless circumstances entail otherwise. Using technology may lead to misinterpretation and cause people to dismiss it.
Have an honest chat with the person instead. Try not to beat around the bush because constructive feedback is most effective when delivered straight to the point.
Find a quiet meeting room where you can have an honest and informal one-on-one chat with the employee. At the same time, try not to beat around the bush; whether it’s positive or negative, feedback is most effective when you get straight to the point.

5. Show your sincerity

Make sure that your tone and manner matches your feedback, to avoid confusion. If it’s positive, make sure that your body language shows that you appreciate the person’s efforts. If the input is negative, use a serious tone to indicate that the problem needs addressing.
Again, remember not to address personal attributes to prevent blame assignation or fault finding.

6. Listen

To ensure that your feedback is constructive, allow recipients to respond. The response time is essential, especially if the criticism is negative. It shows them that you are genuinely interested in their interpretation of events and that you sincerely welcome their solutions.

7. Make it timely

Always try to give positive feedback when the employee’s praiseworthy achievement is still fresh in everyone’s memory. Give positive feedback when the achievement is still fresh in everybody’s minds, to ensure objectivity.
Timing is essential when delivering negative feedback. Again, it’s wise to cool off before addressing issues to ensure that you don’t color your feedback with emotion.

Receiving Negative Feedback

Feedback is a two-way street. We receive criticism as often as we give it; here’s how to accept input like a professional.

1. It’s never personal.

First of all, feedback isn’t personal if you deliver it constructively. It merely consists of impartial observations, whether in a business context or otherwise.
It doesn’t matter if the person giving the feedback is being mean or wishes you well. What counts is yourself and your reaction. Respond respectfully and with gratitude. Remember that you’re intelligent enough to discern if the person means well.

2. Ask for examples.

 
Most people try not to offend when giving feedback and therefore skirt around the issues at hand.
They try to be as polite as they can, which is excellent for removing the sting of negativity. However, you will need to provide details if you wish to get to the root of the issue.
 

 

Show that you’re not interested in fault finding but only in solving problems.

3. Get help.

A sure-fire way to show your interest in another person’s feedback is to ask for advice on improving your performance. Say, “I feel the same way as you do and would like to do better. Do you have any advice?”
When you acknowledge the truth of the feedback and ask for advice, you show your willingness to learn. The deliverer of the input is likely to respond with helpful counsel.

4. Share your progress.

You are likely to work on areas that need improvement if you respect the people who deliver the feedback. Share your progress with them and show them that you are willing to take the steps necessary to improve your performance.

5. Be a feedback mirror.

Remember that people make themselves vulnerable to criticism themselves when they deliver it; after all, no one’s perfect.
That may be why people are so rarely honest about what they think of others. Offer yourself as a partner in self-improvement, and you’re likely to become an agent of change.
Constructive feedback produces results without causing any hurt if delivered well. Try these the next time you are a deliverer or recipient.
 

About the Author: Michelle L.


Michelle is a freelance writer who loves all things about life. She has a broad range of interests that include literature, history, philosophy, human relationships, and psychology. When she is not busy writing her heart out, you will find her tinkering jazz tunes on her piano. She loves anything that helps her to grow as a person, including her pet terriers, Misty and Cloudy.


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Sábado, 15 / 06 / 19

How to Escape Reality without Drugs with These 7 Safe and Simple Methods ~ Sherrie.

How to Escape Reality without Drugs with These 7 Safe and Simple Methods.

By Sherrie.

June 14th, 2019

 

You don’t need drugs or alcohol to escape reality. There are many ways that you can take a break from life.

 
Let me tell you, I understand how horribly unbearable life can get. And honestly, you have to be present mentally for the most part. It’s just the responsible thing to do. But, there are some times when you just have to escape reality in order to calm down.
Taking this sort of break from life can help you come back to reality with a fresh perspective. It can help you make better decisions and take charge of your future. I am in great need of a few escape hours, even days.

Going it sober

So, as you already know, there are many people who turn to drugs in order to escape the reality of their lives. Although opinions vary, I think science has offered us better ways to get back on track. Prayer and meditation are prime examples.
With these tools, you give control to something else for a while and get that needed rest you so desire. Here are a few other ways to do this as well.

1. Make something

One of the best ways to escape this thing we call reality is to create something. Being creative takes focus.
If you’re paying full attention to the thing you’re trying to create, the negative thoughts will not have room to influence your thinking. And we all know about the negative thoughts that attack our minds from day to day.
So, getting creative by painting, singing, or even cooking a new dish is a great way to escape.

2. Listen to music

No matter how hard it gets, music can take some of the edge off your problems. If you listen to music before surgery, it actually reduces anxiety and fear, helping you relax.
You can actually remove yourself from the situation at hand and get lost in the soothing sounds of music. Although a tiny bit different, listening to nature sounds is a great idea too.

3. Get active

If you’re struggling with some seriously bad life issues, you have to face them head-on. However, if you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed, you can also take a break for a little while. Physical activity not only promotes good mental health, but it also serves as a great distraction from life’s problems that seem hard to solve.
In order to escape the bonds of reality, try just 20 minutes of exercise a day for 5 days a week. You will notice a big difference in how you handle things and how you respond.

4. Take a nature break

If you’re looking for a place to get active and escape your reality for a bit, choose nature. Instead of staying inside, get out and let your mind take in all the natural wonders of life. You can take a hike, go fishing or even go camping.
This helps you stay away from smartphones, televisions, and computers for a while, and much of the world’s troubles can sneak in through electronics. Step away and step into nature for a while. It does work.

5. Read a book

Here’s one of my favorite ways to escapes the worries of reality. Reading a book transports you to another world where your problems probably don’t exist. To help expand this escape, try reading comical stories or stories with uplifting themes.
I sometimes have to force myself to step away from life with a book in hand. As I start to read, I realize that many of us have lost the ability to enjoy the simple things in life. It’s the simple things in life that can actually help us escape our reality, believe it or not.

6. Journal your thoughts

If you’re reading to help deal with reality, you can take a step further, and start journaling your thoughts. This is especially useful when you really don’t have anyone to talk to about your problems.
Keeping a journal allows you to write about what’s bothering you, helping you process these issues in a healthy manner. You may not get any answers from another person this way, but you may learn different ways to deal with your problems after writing them down in a journal.

7. Utilize laughter

Have you ever heard the saying, “laughter is the best medicine”? Well, honestly, it can sometimes be just that. You might not be able to find many things in your life lately to laugh about, but if you purposely watch a comedy or read a funny book, you can coax a bit of laughter from deep within.
The act of laughing can improve your mood by releasing endorphins and increase blood flow.

An escape can save your life

Unfortunately, some problems become more than we can handle. If life gets too heavy, we can fall into depression and totally lose control. This can happen with anxiety as well.
It’s important to escape reality from time to time so you can figure out what’s best for you and for your individual situation. You can clear your head and organize your priorities until things seem sane again.
I know this because I often have to get away just to catch my breath. I use these methods in my life. I hope these ideas work for you as well.
References:
  1. https://lifehacker.com
  2. https://www.cheatsheet.com
 
 
 
 
 
 

 

 

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 



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Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.

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Quinta-feira, 06 / 06 / 19

10 Philosophical Quotes about Life That Reveal the Truths We Often Neglect ~ Francesca F.

10 Philosophical Quotes about Life That Reveal the Truths We Often Neglect.

By Francesca F.

June 4th, 2019

 

 

 
It is all too easy to focus on the wrong things, but these philosophical quotes will remind you of what is truly important in life.
 
Philosophy offers a lot to the world. More than anything, it gives us insights into what is really important in life. Work, money and other responsibilities distract us from the bigger picture, making us forget to take a moment to enjoy life.
 
These philosophical quotes will help you to remember all of the good things life has to offer and remember to look at the bigger picture.
 
 
“The more a man meditates upon good thoughts, the better will be his world and the world at large” – Confucius
 
 
 
Positivity is a powerful force. It can be hard to focus on good thoughts but there is a strength in being grateful for what we have.
 
The more we focus on the good things in our lives, the happier we become. We then radiate that happiness and positivity to those around us. The more people focussing on positivity, the more positive the world will be as a whole.
 
It’s not true that one person can’t make a difference. You may inspire others to focus on positivity and they, in turn, will inspire those around them.
 
 
“The secret of happiness, you see is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less” – Socrates
 
 
 
They say that money can’t buy happiness and they are not wrong. We constantly think that the more we have, the happier we will be. The truth is, we need to be grateful for what we have.
 
There is someone out there who is happy with less than what you have. We are lucky to be where we are, and we should take the time to be grateful for the things we do have. We are not unhappy because we do not have more, but because we do not appreciate what we do have.
 
 
“If you are depressed, you are living in the past, if you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present” – Lao Tzu
 
 
 
We naturally worry about future commitments and upset about things in the past. Future commitments can make us anxious and the past can be painful. However, when we focus too much on these things, we stop focussing on what is happening in the present.
 
When we focus on what is happening right now, we can let go of our past, even if only temporarily. By focussing on right now, we can do what is necessary to meet our future obligations. By focussing on the present, we can ourselves peace of mind.
 
 
“Life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced” – Soren Kierkegaard
 
 
 
Sometimes our default is to be in survival mode and this means we constantly look for the next problem to solve. This, however, takes away from what life has to offer, and this quote on our list of philosophical sayings is a powerful reminder.
 
 
Life is full of opportunities to stop, take a breath, and just experience what is in front of you. Try allowing yourself to slow down, take a breath, and experience all that life has to offer.
 
 
“No amount of anxiety makes any difference to anything that is going to happen” – Alan Watts
 
 
 
Sometimes things are just out of our control. That doesn’t mean they aren’t scary or anxiety-inducing. Although it’s natural to be stressed about that which we can’t change, we can’t let that stress become all-encompassing. If you cannot change a situation, do not allow it to consume you.
 
 
“Prejudices are what fools use for a reason” – Francois Voltaire
 
 
 
The world has become full of prejudices, but prejudices can be dangerous. Not only can they be used to sway our opinions, but they also close our minds to new experiences. True knowledge comes from recognizing your prejudices and educating yourself.
 
 
“If you hate a person, then you are defeated by them” – Confucius
 
 
 
Hate takes a lot more energy than letting something go. If you spend time feeling angry at someone, you spend time actively thinking about them. This takes away from time you can spend doing other things.
 
When you’re losing time and energy hating a person, you are always losing. Let your grudges go and be the bigger person.
 
 
“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it” – Aristotle
 
 
 
Education opens the mind to a whole new world of experiences, thoughts, and opinions. An important part of the process is listening to the opinions of others and discussing them. Other people will open your mind and teach you things you may not expect.
 
 
“It does not matter how slowly you go, as long as you do not stop” – Confucius
 
 
 
Determination is an important part of achieving any goal, but setbacks will happen. It’s important not to let them get to you. Don’t give up on your goals, no matter how difficult they feel.
 
 
“The madness of love is the greatest of heaven’s blessings” – Plato
 
 
 
Love is the most incredible experience life has to offer. Despite being messy and complicated, love brings us so much joy. Don’t be afraid of the complications. Love is one of the greatest blessings life can give, as stated by one of the most well-known philosophical quotes.
 
There are so many philosophical quotes about life that can give us the insights we need. We may not realize we need them, but it can make us realize what is truly important.

 

 

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Francesca is a freelance writer currently studying a degree in Law and Philosophy. She has written for several blogs in a range of subjects across Lifestyle, Relationships and Health and Fitness. Her main pursuits are learning new innovative ways of keeping fit and healthy, as well as broadening her knowledge in as many areas as possible in order to achieve success.
 
 
 
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Quinta-feira, 30 / 05 / 19

How to Overcome Fear of Driving with These 9 Science-Backed Techniques

How to Overcome Fear of Driving with These 9 Science-Backed Techniques.

By Sherrie.

May 29th, 2019

 

If you’re afraid of getting behind the wheel, science may have some answers to help you learn how to overcome the fear of driving.
I’m not afraid of driving, well mostly. However, my mother was terrified of driving. Apparently, she almost drove off a bridge in her early years.
This horrific experience created a phobia for her, and she never got behind the wheel of an automobile again. No matter how many times my father tried to help her, she never managed to overcome her fear of driving and try. From then on, everywhere she desired to go, someone in the family had to take her.

Is this the only way to catch a fear of driving?

While past accidents can cause a fear of driving, there are many other reasons as well. If you’ve learned how to overcome terrifying feelings when driving, then you may understand what started the fear.
Honestly, you can have a fear of driving from the idea of traveling to a new location. You can also have a fear of driving from an already existing anxiety disorder. For some people, driving alone can be the solitary reason for this phobia. Yes, it can be that simple.

9 science-backed ways to overcome the fear of driving

I have good news for you today. You can overcome that horrid fear of driving. In fact, there are many ways you can do this. So, without further delay, here are ways you can kill that pestering phobia and get back to a normal life.

1. Do it again, as soon as you can

Many people understand the saying, “If you fall down, just pick yourself back up”. We understand this saying and we try to practice this in many areas of our lives in order to be successful. It’s the same with driving.
If you have an accident, it’s best to get right back to driving as soon as you have a good mode of transportation. This is because the longer you wait, the harder it will be to try again. In my mother’s case, she never gave it another chance, and eventually forgot about driving altogether. We should never do this.

2. Positive affirmations

When you have a fear of driving, you can use positive statements to not only calm you but remind you of how safe you felt before – this is in case you’ve experienced an accident.
For others who fear driving, these positive affirmations can quell simple fears by telling you things like, “You’re driving the speed limit and you’re driving just fine”, or “Driving is common and I should not be afraid.”
Yes, it may take a while to utilize these affirmations effectively, but you can do it.

3. Understand your anxieties

If you are prone to panic attacks when doing something scary, then your fear of driving can invoke these attacks. So, with that being said, you must know what triggers these attacks and understand the level of your attacks.
For instance, if you feel like you are moving up the scale of your anxiety at a fast pace, you should pull the car onto the side of the road. I have actually had to do this before, but it was not because of a fear of driving. I just happened to be driving when my anxiety went full-throttle.
But anxieties caused by driving can accelerate much faster and you have to understand the triggers to keep yourself safe while driving.

4. Create comfort

Before you ever start driving, make sure you are comfortable in your car. Learning the ways to overcome your driving fear starts with a clean, soothing, and well-functioning vehicle. All these things must be taken into account before cranking the car, such as car insurance and preventive maintenance.
Maybe you drive better with soft music, or maybe not. This will depend on what makes you comfortable. Sometimes soft music calms nerves and even drowns out the noise of traffic.
If you feel more comfortable driving alone, then try that first. Unlike some people who rather drive with someone, there are others who find noisy people in the back seat to be distracting. Whatever’s best for you.

5. Visualize the trip

Let’s say you’ve decided to try and take a small trip to the store. Maybe you’ve decided to try and face your fears – no promises here, you say. Well, here’s what you can do in this instance.
First, imagine the experience step by step. Imagine opening the door and stepping inside your car. You sit down and put the keys in the ignition. So far so good, right?
Now, as you imagine pulling onto the roadway, think of every problem that could happen, and find a way to overcoming that problem quickly. Maybe it was one of these situations that caused your phobia to begin with. Face it head on and develop a strategy to avoid that situation the next go around.

6. Follow progressive steps

Now that you’ve visualized the steps to getting back behind the wheel, you can try these in a progressive order. First, go out and sit in your car, then put the keys in the ignition.
Now, crank the engine and wait for a moment, listening to the sound of the engine. Now, drive around a short block and back home. Take someone with you now, and drive around several blocks.
Then do it on your own. You can practice this with bridges, then long bridges. After that, you can drive on unfamiliar roads and even on bridges over water.
Finally, you can muster up the bravery to drive on the big freeways. After you’ve mastered all that, you may even be able to drive in the rain or at night. Just take it slowly and try these steps.

7. Take lessons

It’s never too late to take driver’s lessons. These instructors can help you work through fears, and also teach you things you may have forgotten.
It’s okay to ask questions which can clarify concerns. It’s also okay to share the fact that you are afraid of driving. They can help you face these fears and learn how to get over driving phobias.

8. Get help

Also, if your fear is disrupting your life, you will have to seek professional help. Maybe the panic attacks are coming too often, or you just refuse to get into the car for any reason. If you live alone, this could become a huge problem. You have to get help in some way.
Here’s where to start: First seek help from your regular doctor. Tell them what’s going on and they can point you toward the right professional help. This could mean speaking to a psychologist to get to the bottom of your phobias.

9. Try a support group

Why should you join a support group with other frightened people? Well, although it may sound strange, it’s a good thing. Being around others who are afraid to drive will make you feel less alone.
You can discuss triggers and anxious feelings in an environment where you are understood. You can make friends as well, and you can help each other remove phobia obstacles.

Driving isn’t all that bad

Yes, learning how to overcome the fear of driving is sometimes difficult. It can take you back to the point of an accident – hey, many of us have experienced an automobile collision, it can trigger feelings from the past, or it can simply arise because you’re new to driving.
Whatever the cause of your phobia, it can be faced with courage. If you’re afraid to drive, don’t give up. Remember, you can do anything you put your mind to.
References:
  1. https://www.psychologytoday.com
  2. https://www.sciencedirect.com
 
About the Author: Sherrie

Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.

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Domingo, 19 / 05 / 19

How to Use the Power of Suggestion to Transform Your Life ~ Sherrie.

How to Use the Power of Suggestion to Transform Your Life.

By Sherrie.

May 16th, 2019

 

The power of suggestion is much stronger than you realize. Its fantastical reputation holds many truths.
I know, for a fact, that the spoken word is powerful. I’ve learned this through my own spiritual endeavors and watching things happen according to either the positive or negative affirmations I make from day to day.
You may also encounter ways this power of suggestion works for yourself. In rare cases, you may learn how it can be used in opposition.

The true power of the spoken word

The power of using suggestions can also be beneficial when convincing others. For instance, a salesman uses this tool to sell more products or improve the reputation of what he’s selling.
People can change minds according to the words they use, and even make others like or dislike them at will. It’s amazing how well this actually works.
Then you also have negative and positive opposing opinions. What is known as psychological warfare is more common than you think.
In fact, people engage in this activity on a regular basis, and some see it as a normal mode of healthy competition. This is when you speak positively about a certain issue, but someone else is claiming a negative outcome with this same situation.
While I won’t get too religious here, I do believe the winner comes down to just how bad you want something, and if you believe your outcome will happen. It’s all about mindset.
Also, the more you speak these things into being, the more confident you will be in the future. The power of suggestion not only helps you stay in the right frame of mind, but it can also change your life completely.
The power of using suggestions to make things happen can be used by anyone, and for good or bad. Let’s look further.

How to harness the true power of suggestion

So, you have a pretty good understanding of what I’m talking about, right? Well, talking about it and taking action are two different things. What we want to do now is to learn how to utilizethe power of our statements.
Yes, you can do this too, and here’s how:

1. Be aware first

To use the power of persuasion, whether its to bring about positive outcomes or help someone see from your perspective, you must first become aware. This means being aware of your surroundings, how people feel, and the truth of the situations around you.
Being aware helps you understand how to formulate your words in your favor. It also helps you develop a plan for your outcome. Just take time to look around you, listen, and reinforce the truth of what is in the present as opposed to what will be.

2. Understand words

Before you use the power of positive suggestion, for instance, you must understand whichpositive words have the ability to bring about change.
As there are many words that can change situations, there are certain words which can hasten these results. “Valuable” is one of these words. The word “valuable” is so powerful because most people strive for value in the things they acquire in life.
On the flip side, negative words like, “dangerous” can have a marked effect on those who are about to make moves in their lives. If someone has plans, but then hears the word “dangerous” associated with these plans, it can change the whole decision.
Do you see how understanding words can be quite beneficial? Do your research on the most effective words of suggestion, and this will help you train that power you have within.

3. Using reciprocity

Here’s a simple way of using your power of influence with a suggestion. Let’s look at this one in a simple way. For example: If you need something done, you can sometimes get what you want by doing something for someone else first. I know this doesn’t really sound like suggestive power, but in effect, it is.
While I don’t advocate doing this just for gain, because it can be seen as manipulation, remembering a favor you’ve done for someone else can help you formulate a failproof suggestion to get what you want. It’s simply by reminder and obligation.
This might not be the most powerful mode, but it’s one of the easiest ones to understand.

4. Believe and play the role

If you want something to happen, believing is a huge part of that outcome. But, believing does more than just boost your morale, it also causes you to align your actions to your beliefs, as long as you have a positive outlook on the suggestions you’re making.
Your actions will then help pull things into the alignment needed to realize what you wanted in the first place. It’s a process that takes focus, but it works.

5. Keep an open mind as well

In order for your power of words to take full effect, you must have an open mind. First of all, a failure of any kind can make you discouraged and hinder your progress of getting what you want. Now, I said, it can, but it doesn’t have to.
You have to be strong and realize, with an open mind, that just because negative things happen, it doesn’t mean your plan and progress is wrong. Think about it this way, maybe each little falter is part of the path your power of words must take in order to manifest into reality.

6. Confidence

There it is again, that word that makes you visualize a person standing tall, head held high with a proud smile on their face, right? Well, confidence is a powerful tool for suggestion and realization.
It doesn’t matter if you are speaking good things into your life, or you’re trying to convince something to join a club, confidence holds sway like few other tools. If you have strong confidence, the power of suggestion is child’s play.

7. The support system

When you want something done or you really want to change your life, movements seem more powerful in twos, threes, or multiples of participants. Going it alone is great, but going at it with a supportive group amplifies your results.
The point is, all around the world, in every spiritual belief system or secular way of life, there is a need for a support system. Most people who believe in the power of using suggestive words and doing so in groups have a great amount of hope and faith.
This is how they get things done, and this is how they have the belief to keep using these powers of the spoken word. And, when failures come, they can be tackled and reformulated together, thus, even more, hope.

Utilizing your great power

You are powerful. Never let anyone tell you otherwise. I have felt the failure myself, at great depths and lengths, and still, I rise to readjust my mindset and reset my course. The objective is clear to me, and so I keep practicing the power of words and suggestions to change my life.
It can change your life too. You just have to believe to get started.
References:
  1. https://www.psychologytoday.com
  2. https://www.fastcompany.com

 

 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
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Sábado, 11 / 05 / 19

What Could Possibly Be More Powerful Than Positive Thinking? The Answer May Surprise You! ~ Cherie Roe Dirksen.

What Could Possibly Be More Powerful Than Positive Thinking?

 The Answer May Surprise You!

By Cherie Roe Dirksen, Conscious Life News.

May 9, 2019.

 
 
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We Just Can’t Help It!
It’s January 2016 and it’s that time of year when most of us are all revved up and ready for change — we, the hopefuls, dream of stepping up our game in the new months that are about to unfold. It’s all quite exciting.
Then a few weeks into the new year — well, you know the story — some of us get disillusioned and stumble off that rickety bandwagon. Our hopes, dreams and willpower get kicked to the curb and we continue with the same old same old wondering why every year feels like a sequel to Groundhog Day.
Towards the end of last year, I overheard some folks complaining about people who make new years resolutions and all that ‘blah blah blah’…then I saw a quote on Facebook that made me laugh. I’m paraphrasing here but it went something like, ‘I’m not making any new years resolutions ’cause, let’s face it, who likes a skinny, rich woman?’

I even tried to stay away from making resolutions this year but I just couldn’t resist the pull…
Getting Real…For the Umpteenth Time!
I’m no stranger to the Law of Attraction and positive thinking and I’ve applied them to most sections of my life with great success. However, I also have some areas of my life that I’ve applied them to with little or sporadic success.
What I mean by this is that I can achieve something one month but can’t pull it off the next – it wavers (in this specific arena) and then I begin to doubt myself. And I know I’m not the only one experiencing this.
The last months of 2015 had me catching a huge wake up call.
Positive thinking is fantabulosis. But positive feeling is the vooma that lights that ignition! Some of you have probably heard of this already. I had. A gazillion times before as a matter of fact. I know this and yet I was still deluding myself and avoiding how I was truly feeling about the things I was trying to create.
Introspection and Facing a Hard Reality
My ‘a-ha’ moments with regards to manifesting finances come and go and never seem to ‘stick’. I have huge epiphanies, things go great and then I trip and fall into a rut.
I took a very serious look at my manifesting behaviors over this past year and was quite shocked to see that I was sliding down a slippery slope of limited thinking — falling back into an abyss of past experience that was dictating my future.
So I hopped to it and created a new vision board for myself in December. When I stepped back to look at it it made my eyes hurt. It was all over the place! It was so helter-skelter that I felt like crying. Why? It was such a huge reflection of what was going on in my head.

My brains and ambitions at the end of 2015 felt like watery, scrambled eggs.
Cracking the Shell
I took a long, hard, penetrating look at my life and thoughts and realized that all the positive thinking in the world couldn’t help me if I felt so ‘out of control’ on the inside.
I do positively affirm a lot of things when I wake up and even during the day. I try to steer my thoughts to positive outcomes but I was lacking in one thing. I wasn’t checking in with myself to see if I was truly feeling positive about my situation.
I got real and figured out that even though I have set goals, vision boards, do affirmations — the whole toot — I was not always feeling the outcome. There was still a little lack in my gut (your solar plexus doesn’t lie!). A little twinge to say, ‘you might not (fill in the blank)’.
How did I feel about manifesting enough money for next months bills?
Exhausted. My brain was jet-lagged. I hadn’t really accomplished what I wanted to this year and I felt like I didn’t even know what I wanted for next year. It felt overwhelming and it was reflecting in my vision board
Their is No Space For Doubt
I set to work trying to simplify my board. I got it down to the top 10 things I wanted this year. I stood back this time and felt relief wash over me. I could feel the shift within.
It was as though all the straggling thoughts had been filed neatly for me to gaze upon and the feeling was being upgraded.
I had been too chaotic in my thoughts and it was manifesting in my life through my feelings of being out of control. I was even trying to control how I manifested things. My new board reflected what I wanted and I decided to relinquish how I was going to get it.
Within 2 days of me completing the new and upgraded vision for 2016, I manifested one of the things on that board. It involved me bartering one of my paintings for it but, low and behold, the damn thing was working!
Within a week, I had manifested another thing on my board.
What changed?
I not only do my affirmations every day now but I make myself feel what it’s like to be on that holiday in Italy, sipping red wine and I can feel the wind zipping through my hair as I cycle down the main road on my new mountain bike.
Before I thought I had to concentrate on manifesting money to be able to buy things and experiences but I know now that the universe works in mysterious ways.
I’ve had people give me things that I thought I’d have to buy or spontaneously treat me to dinner or even trade with me for mutually beneficial gain. It’s opened my eyes up to new ways of manifesting and has given me a new hope that this year is going to be epic.

All I have to do is feel it. I hope you get to feel your way to all the things you dream about doing and having!
 
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Cherie Roe Dirksen is a self-empowerment author, multi-media artist and musician from South Africa.

To date, she has published 3 self-help and motivational books and brings out weekly inspirational blogs at her site www.cherieroedirksen.com. Get stuck into finding your passion, purpose and joy by downloading some of those books gratis when you click HERE.
Her ambition is to help you to connect with your innate gift of creativity and living the life you came here to experience by taking responsibility for your actions and becoming the co-creator of your reality. You can also follow Cherie on Facebook (The Art of Empowerment).
Cherie posts a new article on CLN every Thursday. To view her articles, click HERE.
This article (5 Super Easy Exercises to Creating a Positive Life!) was originally written for and published by Conscious Life News and is published here under a Creative Commons licensewith attribution to the author Cherie Roe Dirksen and ConsciousLifeNews.com. It may be re-posted freely with proper attribution, author bio, and this Copyright/Creative Commons statement.

 


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Domingo, 05 / 05 / 19

Feeling Inadequate? 7 Strategies to Silence Your Inner Critic ~ Sherrie.

Feeling Inadequate? 

7 Strategies to Silence Your Inner Critic.

By Sherrie.

May 4th, 2019


 

It’s easy to criticize yourself, especially when others criticize you too. Feeling inadequate is hard when rebuilding your self-esteem.
At least one point in our lives. We’ve felt inadequate. You know that voice, the one that says, “You’re not good enough”, “You’ll never find true love”, yeah, that voice.
Well, the truth is, its been around since your childhood. I bet you didn’t know that. Feeling inadequate came from some instance, most likely in childhood, where someone made you feel unloved or unwanted. Now, you feel the same way when dealing with your insecurities.
“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”
-William Shakespeare

Dealing with the critic within

There’s a person within you that tells you the lies about your person. They aren’t nice, and they pull no punch when it comes to reminding you about your short-comings. Do you wish to silence this voice?

Well, there are some ways to deal with this critic within and stop feeling horribly inadequate. Then you can really live your life.

1. Roots, roots, roots…

So, as I mentioned earlier, your inner critic comes from some long-ago insult or abuse. It’s true.
Say, your parents told you, “You’ll never be worth anything unless you act like your cousin, Martha”. Yeah, that was an actual statement my mother said to me. I started feeling the sting of being inadequate almost instantly.
Maybe she watched my cousin get awards in school or maybe heard stories of her achievements, But it made me feel like a failure. Now, I do struggle with inadequacies, and it takes strength to fight.
Hey, look at your roots, then you will know it wasn’t you, but the one who insulted you. Maybe they felt inadequate by the way they raised you. Ever think about that?

2. Awareness is key

When you start feeling emotions of being inadequate, stop and realize one important thing. These are only thoughts. They do not rule your life, and you know that you’re better than what you give yourself credit for.
Question these thoughts and then attempt to turn them around as they come. Be aware of what passes through your mind, and filter it accordingly.

3. See the inner critic as a challenge

Understand, these feelings that you are inadequate will never truly go away forever. I know, that’s not such a positive idea, huh. But, all is not lost. You can think about it this way: You can use your inner critic to build yourself up.
When you think you’re lazy or someone has made this comment, use this to start moving, get in shape, and even improve your health. While insults about your laziness or weight gain are not nice, you can use them as a tool to better yourself.
Just try it and see how great it actually works.

4. Contradict the inner critic

Here’s an interesting way to combat the inner negative voice. For example, your inner voice says, “You’re ugly”. Now, that’s a statement many of us have heard in our lives at some point. Well, you can take this statement and word it in a way that says positive things about you.
Instead of saying, “Yes, I am ugly”, you can say, “ I may not be the most beautiful person in the world, but I am still beautiful”. This statement helps build you up and stand strong against those who make you feel bad about yourself.

5. Ask for help

Feeling that you’re inadequate can get overwhelming and sometimes make you want to give up. Don’t ever give up. In fact, start practicing self-care which will, in time, start to build better self-esteem.
If you have to, take pictures of your accomplishments or write in a journal about what you’ve done lately. Don’t ask others for help, ask yourself for help in order to feel good about yourself again.
You might be surprised by all the good qualities that remind you of your self-worth.

6. The inner critic lies

Did you know that the critic within will tell you lies? You cannot always count on the words that come from inside. If you’ve made a to-do list, but yet you aren’t able to get all those things done, your inner critic will jump right in with insults about your inadequacy.
Do not fall for these lies. Instead, tell yourself, “No, I did not finish today, but I am further than I was yesterday”. The truth is, this is just fine, and your inner critic can go get a life, so to speak.

7. Don’t be a slave to your inner critic

When feeling those inadequacies, do not become a slave to them. Just because your inner critic says you should do something better, this doesn’t mean you should act upon these words.
If your inner negativities tell you to get something done faster, take pause. Maybe it would be better to take your time and get the job done right. You can learn to do what YOU want and not listen to the monster that pushes you from inside.

The inner critic and your feeling of being inadequate

Never start feeling like you are inadequate just because that voice within tells you so.
Trust the true you, the one who makes you feel good about yourself. Yes, listen to this voice instead. This voice will make your stronger and quiet those negative thoughts that have tricked you into thinking you must be better than you are.
Remember, you are good enough just the way you are. Your improvements come by hard work and determination, but they also come by taking a break once in a while and recharging your energies. Just do your best and that will be enough.
References:
  1. https://www.psychologytoday.com
  2. https://psychcentral.com
 
 
 

 

 
 
 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 
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Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.

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publicado por achama às 22:56
Sábado, 26 / 01 / 19

What Is a Positive Bias and How It Distorts Your Perception of Other People ~ Margaret B.

What Is a Positive Bias and How It Distorts Your Perception of Other People.

By Margaret B.

January 26th, 2019. 

 

positive bias.

 

 

What is a positive bias, you ask? A positive bias is a tendency in humans to overestimate when good things will happen.

There is even a specific use of the term positive bias in research. It refers to when someone in research only publishes positive outcomes.
A positive bias is normally seen as a good thing – surely, it’s best to have a good outlook. But just because it is positive, it doesn’t mean we should ignore the ‘bias’ part.

A positive bias is still a pre-conceived notion.

These notions can be about abilities, personalities and values, or anything else. What matters is that they affect the way you view people, including someone you have never met before.
Many people miss this because they assume bias must be negative. This is not the case – it can be positive too. A positive characteristic still affects the way you see and interact with people.
A positive bias can be as harmful as a negative one. Any type of cognitive bias is unfair to the people who are on the receiving end of it. A bias, even a positive one, can restrict people, and keep them from their goals. It makes you act in specific ways, which is restrictive and unfair. People are individuals and they should be seen as such.
Many of us fall into the trap of feeling good about our positive biases, don’t we? After all, they aren’t negative, so what harm could they be? Think about your biases for a moment. What do they tell you about the people you are going to meet? What do they lead you to expect when you meet someone new?
Positive biases provide us with the illusion that we are tolerant, loving people. In fact, these positive biases are just the flip side of negative ideas and beliefs. They can be just as destructive to workplace relationships.
A positive bias can trick us into thinking we have no problems. Unfortunately, any kind of bias can have an impact on the way we work.

Biases work in a number of different ways:

 

They determine your perception

How you choose to see people – which bias you choose – determines your perceptions. A positive bias means that you put people in a different kind of box. It determines how you think about them. It determines how you react when they don’t act according to your preconceived notions.
A negative bias means that you can react negatively when your preconceptions are shattered. A positive bias works in much the same way. A positive bias is still limiting, even if we don’t see it that way. It limits both sides of the bias. It keeps us from fully appreciating the beauty of humanity. It also keeps the subject of our bias from fully being able to be human.

People use bias because we don’t like uncertainty

We put other people into tiny boxes because that works to make our lives easier. If we label someone, we can understand them. This is how a positive bias gets started.
Labelling people with a positive bias means that you are much less likely to understand when they act outside the box. Or, to put it another way, labelling people makes it much less likely that you will understand their humanity.
Using boxes is a shorthand for the huge numbers of people we are likely to meet throughout our life. It can serve a purpose in helping us store first impressions. It has limited uses, though.

First perception wins

People rarely change their first impressions. A positive bias works in the same way; what you assume of a person is what you think of them.
Unfortunately, a first impression is rarely enough to tell us about the person we meet. So much goes into an individual that only comes out with time. A first impression doesn’t give anybody enough time. It doesn’t matter if that is time to show people who you are or time to learn who other people are.
First impressions are just that: first. They should not be the last.

Your imagination is a powerful tool

What you perceive is what you draw towards you. In the case of a positive bias, this means that you will only ever find bases of the bias appearing around you.
This is limiting in its own way. You should try and avoid any such ruminations, as it means that you will lose out on a lot of what makes people who they are.
Positive bias is better than negative bias. But that does not mean it is good to have. Biases keep up from fully realising the potential in both ourselves and the people around us.
Rather than trying to make people conform to the specific stereotype we have of them, it is much better to simply let people be. Let them be who they are, and learn about the wonderful variety of humanity.
References:
  1. https://www.psychologytoday.com
  2. https://www.verywellmind.com

 

 

 

 

 
 
About the Author: Margaret B.
 
Margaret is a freelance writer and tutor. She spends her time reading and writing, hoping to learn why people act the way they do. She is a lifelong fan of both philosophy and fantasy.
 
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Segunda-feira, 07 / 01 / 19

Does Your Life Feel Like a Groundhog Day? Here’s How to Get Yourself Unstuck ~ Sherrie.

Does Your Life Feel Like a Groundhog Day? 

Here’s How to Get Yourself Unstuck.

By Sherrie.

January 6th, 2019 

 

Groundhog Day.

 

 

Do you remember the movie Groundhog Day? Well, life sometimes feels stuck just like with the characters in that movie. Learn how to fix that.

You might be going through life feeling pretty happy and then all of a sudden, you realize you’ve hit a dead end. Life seems stuck…boring, and fairly uneventful. It feels like you are going through the motions just like in that film Groundhog Day.
In the movie, Bill Murry and Andy Mcdowell play two people in love who get stuck living one day over and over until they get something right. Do you feel that way?

Let’s get unstuck and do great things!

So, the goal is not to live like we’re in a Groundhog day sequel, right? Well, the objective is to apply a few ideasand rules in order to un-wedge ourselves from the rut we’ve created.
Yes, even though we probably didn’t mean to do so, we’ve gotten ourselves stuck, and it’s our job to change that. Listen up!

1. Perspective changes

Maybe you’re in a rut simply because of the way you look at things. Maybe you don’t see your life in the right light or maybe you haven’t seen an angle that could propel you over the edge and into newness. First off, you absolutely have to see things differently.
For some people, the grip of past lives and past situations stops them from moving forward. You will never be able to make a new life for yourself while holding onto the apron strings of the past. Let them go, immediately.
Now, open yourself up to new ideas by traveling, physical activity or even meditation to clear out the cobwebs. Either way, change the way you look at life and life will change too!

2. Be creative

Did you know that being artistic in some form can work wonders in your life? Being creative can also lift you from the norm and place you somewhere spectacular. The reason why being creative works so well with helping you get unstuck is that it makes you feel like someone else for a while.
You are no longer a housekeeper, mother, employee or wife. You are now an artist, a revolutionary, and a rebel! Being creative transports you to another dimension where you can create whatever you want to be. You can be creative through painting, writing, or even music, as long as you feel free to express yourself openly.

3. Recognize patterns

Just like in the Groundhog Day movie, you have to look for patterns in order to break free. If you’re stuck now, pay attention to the people you’re associating with, the environment you operate within and the overall vibes surrounding you. How are these things similar to times before when you were stuck in life?
When you discover the patterns and causes for being stuck, you can understand how to differentiate between people and things to keep and which ones to cut away from your life.
Yes, it’s just that simple and just that harsh. Sometimes, things have to be removed in order for you to live your best, most productive life.

4. Take care of YOU

One thing that many of us neglect is taking care of ourselves. When life seems to get stuck, the last thing we think about doing is exercising or eating healthy. When we feel stuck, we often eat bad foods or do risky things in an attempt to fill a void that’s opened up inside.
The truth is, this is the opposite of what we should be doing. When we feel like our own Groundhog day has arrived, we should kick it into high gear with self-care. We should get moving, we should visit the spa, and by all means, we should eat our best.
Why do you ask? Well, we can only understand and figure out how to get unstuck, if we are feeling our best. We should take care of us, so we can literally take care of our life.

5. Think about your purpose

Maybe you think you know what your purpose is, but did you know that this can change over time? Although it may seem frustrating to think your purpose changes, it really does. What might have seemed right for you in the past could be all wrong now. So, it’s time to re-examine what you were meant to do and be.
There are a few ways you can examine your purpose. What makes you happy? What inspires you to be a better person? There are so many questions you can ask yourself, and when you do, keep a journal of your honest answers.
Over time, you will feel a shift toward your destiny. You will also see your life moving once more toward a future.

6. Truly let go of the past

Just as your perspectives can change, so can your entire mindset. I want you to notice just how much of your time is spent thinking of the past.
I bet you would be surprised by the quantity of time spent with childhood memories and traumatic events. So much of your life is spent rehashing things that really don’t matter anymore. Can you change anything that has already happened?
You cannot change the past, and so why are you there so much? This could be the primary reason why you are stuck. One really raw way to get unstuck in life is to refuse to ponder past events any longer. Yes, it’s difficult, but the rewards of letting go of the past are amazing.

7. Start small

So, it’s clear by now that you want to get unstuck in life and move forward, right? Well, in order to truly feel this happening, you have to change things. Let’s be clear on one thing, you don’t have to make huge changes at first. It is quite alright to start with small steps.
For instance, move your furniture, change your daily routine, or even learn a new craft or hobby. All it takes is altering one area of your life to activate great changes in the future. You never know what might happen just by taking a different route to work.

No more Groundhog Day…I expect greatness!

There shall be no more Groundhog Days feeling trapped and feeling as though you are living the same day over and over again. No, from this moment forward, we are going to shake things up and bring great changes to our lives. These shall be positive changes, and things that we can cherish forever.
So, get off that couch, turn off the television, and do something different today. You will thank me later.
References:
  1. https://www.psychologytoday.com
  2. https://tinybuddha.com

 

 

 

 

 

 



About the Author: Sherrie

Sherrie is a freelance writer and artist with over 10 years of experience. She spends most of her time giving life to the renegade thoughts. As the words erupt and form new life, she knows that she is yet again free from the nagging persistence of her muse. She is a mother of three and a lifetime fan of the thought-provoking and questionable aspects of the universe.

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